In the middle of the night, I was woken up by the vibration of my phone. The light of the screen was so strong in the dark night that my sleepy eyes couldn't open for a while. Turn on your phone, and the green icon of WeChat appears at the top of the screen. WeChat unfolded, and there were several unread messages from a friend. With a little bit of unhappiness about being disturbed, I browsed the content of the message: "Tonight, I can't sleep" "Son, I can't sleep if I don't sleep." He's going out for a walk now" I looked at the time, three o'clock in the morning. "I don't know what to do if it goes on like this. I can't go to school, and I have to be accompanied by someone every day, I'm afraid he won't be able to think about it. ”.Unexpectedly, the depression that I had seen in the news before had come to my side. A hot children's psychiatric clinicJust last month, an article by Sanlian Life Weekly, "More than a month after the start of school, the children's psychiatric department is full" made the mental health of teenagers a hot search, which described the "full" clinic of Peking University Sixth Hospital after the opening of the school, "Once the school season comes, our pediatric experts in the Sixth Hospital of Peking University (Peking University Sixth Hospital) began to chatter: We only need to wait for two weeks, and we will be very busy." For those children who have psychological problems, parents often think that nothing is wrong as long as they see that they can still go to school. The children are also trying hard to get to school normally. But a week or two after the start of school, some children really can't go to school, and that's when parents have to give up their illusions and face the reality, they have to take their children to the hospital. So two weeks after the start of school, our clinic became very busy;One month after the start of school, the children's ward entered the peak period of hospitalization, and it was difficult to admit it. ”Seriously, although I have seen the scene of the hospital being overcrowded with children during the flu season, it is hard to imagine the scene of the psychiatric department being crowded with children, especially since I am the father of the child. Even if it is a cold and fever, such a common illness can make a family scramble for several days, and if it is a mental illness, I don't know what kind of quagmire it will put parents in, and it is difficult to extricate themselves. In addition to the difficulties that need to be overcome in taking care of children, watching their children being tormented by psychological problems for a long time, and seeing a flame of hope like in the wind, flickering and dimming, that kind of heart-wrenching pain is something that no parent is unwilling, unwilling and unable to accept. But the situation is really not optimistic!According to the current network query, there are currently 95 million people suffering from depression in China, and about 280,000 people commit suicide every year, of which 40% suffer from depression, a staggering total!The "2022 National Blue Book on Depression" created by the Institute of Depression in conjunction with People's Health Client, Good Mood, and Lundbeck China based on 6,670 valid questionnaires collected from the depression patient group shows that the claws of depression have been deeply rooted in the youth group. 
Depression suffers from 30% of the population under the age of 18, and 50% of the patients are school students. The prevalence of depression in adolescents has reached 15 20%, which is close to **.
The blue book of "2023 China's Mental and Mental Health", which was compiled according to Good Mood, shows that the situation has not improved. The report shows that the risk detection rate of depression in China is 106%, and the risk detection rate of anxiety was 158%, only 36% of citizens consider themselves to be mentally healthy, and the risk of depression is as high as 45 among those who have a "poor" self-assessment1%, it seems that everyone's understanding of themselves is still relatively accurate. And according to the survey, the risk of depression decreases with age, with a high risk of depression in 18-24-year-olds1%。Even more worrying is the situation of students under the age of 18. The detection rate of depression is as high as 40% among high school students, 30% among junior high school students, and 10% among elementary school students. It is not difficult to explain the sensational article of Sanlian Life Weekly, which depicts the situation that the clinic of the Sixth Hospital of Beijing Medical University is full and it is difficult to find a bed. Not only in China, but the whole world is suffering from depression. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), there are more than 3500 million people suffer from depression, with a rate of about 18% in the last decade. Especially after the epidemic, the global burden of mental disorders has become heavier, with cases of major depression and anxiety disorders increasing by 28% and 26% respectively, and the number of depressed patients surging by 53 million, an increase of 276%。It is not only us in developing countries who are plagued by depression, but also in developed countries. Seligman writes in his book that depression has spread rapidly in all wealthy countries since the 60s of the 20th century, with depression rates around 2000 being 10 times higher than 40 years ago, and patients getting younger and younger, with an average age of 29 for the first time in the 60s5 years old, 14 at the turn of the millennium5 years old. Depression is really all around us and is approaching teenagers!What exactly is depressionThe encyclopedia defines depression as a kind of depression thatPersistent and prolonged depressed mood is a clinical feature of psychiatric illness。Simply put, it's a bad mood, and it's a bad mood for a long period of time. While focusing on depression, we should be careful not to "demonize" the tendency of negative emotions, and not to be too nervous and over-interpret the negative emotions that appear in us. Everyone has emotions, sometimes happy, sometimes sad, it's normal, no matter what kind of emotion is our brain's reaction to the outside world, even negative emotions such as fear, sadness, anger, etc., are essentially beneficial to our survival, it is a defense mechanism in the process of human evolution, it is our line of defense against threats from the outside world, and it reminds us to enter a fighting state to deal with the coming danger. For example, fear is a sign that we feel danger is approaching, sadness is a sign that we are facing failure, and anger is a response to aggression. Even more surprisingly, depression can even be beneficial. Lauren Alloy and Lynne Abramson, two graduate students of Seligman, the father of positive psychology, once conducted an experiment in which they asked college students to control a green light, and sometimes the college student who participated in the experiment had absolute control, and he controlled the light on and off;But sometimes the lights are not controlled, and their behavior of pressing the switch has nothing to do with the light turning on or off. After the college students completed the experiment, the researchers asked them to rate how well they had control over the situation. The results of this experiment showed that students with depression had a correct assessment of their ability to control and control, while students without depression did not think that they had 35% control, that is, they could not have a clear and correct understanding of themselves. Because they often only remember happiness and success, they are easy to ignore their own failures and setbacks, so they will cause a one-sided understanding of themselves and things, and produce blind confidence. And because depressed people have a clear understanding of themselves, can objectively assess the environment, and can correctly judge their own abilities, they will not easily take risks beyond their ability to avoid causing unnecessary harm to themselves. So,While paying attention to depression, don't be suspicious, be overly sensitive to your negative emotions. Life is unsatisfactory in ten **, unsatisfactory is the norm, unhappy is also normal, what we really have to pay attention to is a long-term, continuous depressed state. What is frustrating is that at present, we are not clear about the causes of depression, and it is generally believed that the combined influence of biological, psychological and social environment causes depression. Although it is not yet possible to specify the specific factors, we can make reasonable inferences based on some data and exclude some of them from all possible influencing factors. The first is physiological. Some data shows that the number of people suffering from depression is increasing year by year, and the rate of depression in rich countries around 2000 is 10 times higher than it was 40 years ago, but it is clear that our genes cannot change much in 40 years. Ecological and environmental factors. There may be a huge difference in the number of depressions among people who live in close proximity to each other, but apparently they drink the same water, bask in the same sun, and blow the same wind, so the environment doesn't explain why. Living conditions factors. I believe that many people will have a stereotype that poverty can make people feel depressed and more depressed, but the actual survey results will surprise many people, rich countries are more sick than poor countries, black Americans or Mexican Americans are less sick than Americans, and white Americans are significantly richer than other ethnic groups. Further, we can make reasonable inferences about possible factors. The first is the impact of one-child families. Since the founding of the People's Republic of China, due to social development and the continuous improvement of the health situation, the mortality rate of the population has been greatly reduced, and the average life expectancy has been greatly increased. In the absence of proper control of the birth rate, the net increase in population reached 4300 million, at that time, many families had as few as three or four children, and as many as seven or eight, which brought great pressure to the country and society. But on the other hand, having multiple children in the family also allows most of the children to have playmates in their growth. The meaning of playmate is not only the laughter and playfulness between children on the surface, but also emotional communication and companionship. And the age is similar, so that children dare to express themselves more daringly, reveal their hearts, let happiness have to share, let troubles have to be shared, so that the mood is no longer closed in their hearts. With the implementation of the one-child policy, the vast majority of families have only one child, which makes children the pearl of parents' palms, but also "deprives" them of the freedom of communication. Although parents love their children unconditionally, parental love cannot replace the role of peers. The impact of the use of a large number of electronic devices. When the child cries, the mobile phone, tablet, and TV have become the crying artifact of many parents. While electronic devices liberate parents, they also have a huge negative impact on children. The University of Michigan in the United States has conducted a study on Facebook, and they found that the longer they use Facebook, the lower their subjective happiness, and many people go to the Internet and watch ** in order to relieve loneliness, but in fact, the longer they use their mobile phones, the stronger the feelings of loneliness and depression will be. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has come to a similar conclusion based on statistics from 2010 to 2015, and the correlation between suicidal thoughts and time spent on mobile phones has been demonstrated. Due to the impact of mobile phones, the suicide rate among middle and high school students in the United States has risen by 31%. Because the large amount of information in electronic devices constantly stimulates the brains of teenagers, their attention is greatly challenged, and they are like butterflies in a flower, stopping on each flower for a short time and then rushing away, unable to concentrate on completing the task. At the same time, the impact of these multi-level information makes the child's brain in a state of tension for a long time, causing overload of the brain, thereby damaging the brain. At the same time, as electronic devices replace direct communication between people, their social skills are gradually reduced. We are social creatures, and intimacy with friends and family is great for both body and mind, but the overuse of electronic devices deprives them of such opportunities and may prevent them from attaining intimate relationships. The impact of the family's mistaken attention on adolescents. We often think that parents ignoring their children will have a negative impact on their children's development, but in fact, excessive attention is not beneficial. I believe that many adults do not like to be stared at at work in the workplace, because this will give us an invisible feeling of pressure and distrust, and in the 6+1 pattern of one-child families, children have also become the focus of the whole family. Of course, it's not that attention is wrong, but the way we focus is often skewed. Many methods of children's education refer to companionship, and the purpose of such companionship is more to create an atmosphere of learning Xi with children, so that children can concentrate more on learning Xi, but we often turn companionship into surveillance. The wrong question should be corrected, the incorrect sitting posture should be corrected, and in the chicken, the dog and the dog jump, the companionship becomes criticism and blame, and the warmth becomes anger and fear. Many families are reluctant to let their children do a little housework, as if they are particularly spoiled children, but emotionally they only focus on their grades and do not care about their feelings. A score below 90 is a red line, and it is better than the previous time, this time I took the test 97, and the next time I took the test 95, it was a failure. Parents regard themselves as nannies, ATMs, and counselors, but they do not regard themselves as parents, only staring at the scores, and only thinking about the future of their children, which seems to be for the good of their children, but children are not Xi learning machines, in addition to eating and drinking, they need more emotional attention. If there is no beautiful today, there will be no warm memories of yesterday, let alone a hopeful tomorrow. Instead of caring too much about your children because of distrust, it is better to give them enough space to grow freely because of trust. Of course, whether it is family, social or electronic devices, etc., it does not necessarily lead to depression, and we can also find that not all single-child families use mobile phones to inevitably cause depression in children. The occurrence of depression is the result of a combination of factors, in addition to the influence of external factors, the individualism advocated in today's society may also be an important **. Once upon a time, we were a society without individuality, and if you go back to the fifties and sixties, you would find that people on the streets were almost the same in terms of hairstyles, clothing, transportation, and architectural styles. This is true not only in the senses, but also in the mind, the family, the collective, and the country. With the development of the times, just a few decades later, today's is very different from before. We pay attention to individuality, advocate individuality, and pursue individuality, and the world seems to suddenly turn upside down. The prevalence of individualism has brought each of us the dream of freedom and difference, but also made us turn our eyes from outward to inward. Excessive attention to oneself will infinitely magnify personal failures and frustrations, make us indulge in negative memories and constantly stimulate more negative emotions, and so on, leading us into a downward spiral of continuous emotional decline, falling into continuous and long-term depression, which also produces depression. How to fight depression
When a child is depressed, what can we do other than seek medical attention?
First and foremost, parents should be peacefulofAccept your child's problems. Of course, this is very difficult for any parent to accept and face. Many parents are reluctant to accept this reality and even wonder if it is true. When the child is unwell, parents will be anxious to seek medical advice, afraid of affecting the child's health, but when they know that the child has mental problems, the attitude will often be very different, more to blame the child, "how can other children have no problem, you have a problem." "Changing this attitude and confronting the problem head-on is the first and most important step in solving mental illness. The second is to help the child get out of the low mood. Depression is often a reaction and manifestation brought about by a large number of problems or frustrations piled up to produce negative emotions that make the child unbearable, so it is important to break the "death spiral" of negative emotions to get out of depression, so that children no longer pay attention to their frustrations, failures or problems that are difficult to solve. In the book "I'm Not Depressed Anymore", I wrote letters to "patients" after more than 30 people with depressive disorders** were included. These fighters who have broken free from the "prison cell" of depression have escaped depression through hobbies that regain the joy of life. Some of them used painting to calm their fears, some used cooking to feel the beauty of life, and some expressed their feelings by writing poems, by feeling the present and enjoying the present, they accepted their imperfect self and accepted their imperfect life. Finally, you can also fight depression through exercise. The author of "The Boundaries of the Self" argues that all our actions rely on the energy of our bodies, whether it is a visible action, such as walking, running, or an invisible action, such as thinking. Emotions are the brain's response to the external world, whether negative or positive, which brings about the accumulation of energy. Therefore, to avoid the effects of negative emotions, we can release these energies quickly through exercise to avoid their negative effects. And when we exercise, our bodies secrete endorphins, which are opium-like chemicals that make us feel good while suppressing pain and taking our attention away from the madness. It is the child who is sick, and it may be the parents who are at fault"The Yellow Emperor's Neijing" said: "If you work to cure the disease, you will not cure the disease, and this is also the case." Rather than helping children get out of depression, it is more important for us to prevent them from falling into depression, and parents have an unshirkable responsibility, and parents are often the biggest cause of anxiety and anxiety. Therefore, in order to avoid the red light of the child's psychology, parents should reflect on themselves, whether they have given their children too high expectations, and let the children bear too much pressure that they should not bear and cannot bearMaybe we should all think about it, which is more important!