An actress has made a name for herself in the entertainment industry, she created a ratings myth with the drama "The Legend of Zhen Huan", and has become the queen of TV dramas loved by audiences of all ages, this actress is Sun Li.
In 2011, Sun Li and Deng Chao walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand, and at the moment when the stars divorced one after another, they have always been regarded as the ideal couple in the eyes of everyone.
Growing up in a divorced family, Sun Li was ruthlessly abandoned by her father since she was a child, and she depended on her mother for her life, and her happiness now is not easy to come by.
How did Sun Li grow from an introverted girl to a happy mother, and how did she get out of the shadow of a single-parent family and successfully run her own small family?
What is her attitude towards her father, who had hurt her?
1. Parents are divorced, and poverty is the background color of youth
In 2020, a new drama "An Jia" starring Sun Li sparked heated discussions in the society because of the plot involving the original family.
The heroine's original name was Fang Sijing, and she was thrown into the well by her parents shortly after she was born and almost drowned.
After experiencing a life-and-death disaster, Fang Sijing changed his name to Fang Bijin and became the manager of a real estate company with his own efforts.
Although the name "Fang Bijin" implies a bright future, in fact, the mother made a big fuss in the company, ignoring her daughter's career, just for money.
Therefore, it can be said that Fang Bijin still can't get rid of the essential characteristics of his vampire family, that is, Fang Sijing.
Sun Li's childhood had some similarities with Fang Sijing, but she was luckier than Fang Sijing because she had a mother who loved her.
Sun Li was born on September 26, 1982, in an alley in Shanghai's Hongkou District.
At that time, Shanghai had not yet become the "magic capital", and economically impoverished residents were forced to live in damp and dark corners, forming a crowded and dilapidated alley.
Sun Li's family is located on the highest floor of the alley, and the living space is extremely narrow, less than ten square meters, and it usually takes a lot of effort to turn around.
In the alley, the sanitary conditions are also very bad, and at night the rats will come out collectively to activities, and Sun Li has grown up in this dirty and chaotic environment since she was a child.
Sun Li benefited from a neighbor who was a kindergarten teacher in the early days of her dance Xi.
The neighbor observed that Xiao Sun Li would twist her body in front of the mirror to the rhythm as soon as she heard the **, which showed that she had a talent for dancing.
Mother followed the advice of a neighbor and immediately took five-year-old Sun Li to the Children's Palace to learn Xi dance, and since then Sun Li's stage performance career has begun.
Despite her young age, Sun Li is very obsessed with Xi and often practices in the dance studio until ** o'clock in the evening before returning home.
The reason why Sun Li doesn't want to go home is not only because she likes to practice, but also because her parents often quarrel at home.
Whenever the family quarreled, Sun Li's mother would silently hide in the room and cry, she didn't want her daughter to be affected.
The child is very sensitive to the emotional changes of adults, and since Sun Li can remember, she has noticed the emotional discord between her parents.
The family has been in turmoil, and Sun Li has learned to observe words and deeds since she was a child.
Sun Li gradually became reticent, and dance became her only way of expression.
Sun Li could dance on stage, but the thought of speaking made her tremble with fear.
In 1994, 12-year-old Sun Li experienced the painful experience of her father directly abandoning the mother and daughter and moving out to live with other women.
Her mother burst into tears all day long, and Sun Li comforted her a little: "Mom, please don't cry, I decided not to get married in the future, and the two of us will live together." ”
In order to support the family life, Sun Li's mother has to work two jobs a day, but she can still barely make ends meet, resulting in the mother and daughter often having difficulty even paying for meat.
Sun Li could not avoid this problem, so she had to ask her father for child support, but her father only agreed to provide 2,000 per month.
What can you do with 20 million, it's not even enough to pay tuition!Sun Li laughed angrily and vowed to make her father regret it before she would give up.
When I have a lot of money and drive a luxury car in the future, let my father regret and follow me.
Whenever Sun Li recalls this scene, her heart is always filled with a sense of relief.
Sun Li has lived for seven years, and the poverty and hardships have made her grandfather very distressed.
Sun Li's grandfather revealed in a text interview that Sun Li experienced a lot of hardships when she was a child, and now she doesn't even dare to watch herself when she shoots crying scenes.
2. The dark period before fame
The divorce of her parents has had an impact on Sun Li's personality, making her feel different from others, so she always behaves calmly and introvertedly on the outside.
When Sun Li was a child, she didn't like to go out to play, but spent all her time practicing Xi dance, and participated in performances with the dance team every holiday, and she had long been Xi used to spending her childhood without a day off.
Sun Li once followed a group of friends to a TV station as a backup dancer, when her mother was sitting next to the TV waiting for **.
There were too many children dancing on the stage, and the camera passed in a blink of an eye, and Sun Li couldn't be found at all.
Therefore, what Sun Li longed for most at that time was to be admitted to the dance school and become a lead dancer. However, despite taking the exam several times, she never got her way.
Many years later, Sun Li said with a smile in front of the camera that this incident has always been her regret, "Maybe this is fate, I didn't do anything well when I was a child." ”
Sun Li failed the exam at the age of 15 and had to decide to join the army. She was assigned to the Art Troupe of the Shanghai Garrison District and became a literary soldier.
Her mother is Sun Li's guide, and she was raised by her mother herself. Later, when she suddenly joined the life of the army, her mother was distressed, and Sun Li herself was almost unbearable.
During her service, Sun Li was involved in many heavy tasks, such as cleaning the gutters and feeding wild boars.
Despite the difficult conditions, these conditions quietly tempered Sun Li and made her more determined, and she was never perfunctory in dealing with anything.
In an army art show, when rehearsing the dance, Sun Li did not put his mind into it, and the instructor suddenly announced that he was going to change the actors.
Sun Li suddenly felt a sense of urgency, and since then, she has begun to cherish every opportunity that comes before her eyes.
Sun Li later appeared on the hot search because of the dense notes on her script when she was acting, and netizens found that she took the role very seriously.
Sun Li once made a second-class meritorious service in the army, performed well when he was received by the chairman, and was finally discharged from the army with excellent results.
In 2001, a drama called "Deep Love and Rain" swept the country, but few people knew that Sun Li had also participated in it.
Sun Li was just playing the role of backup dancer at this moment, and when the camera swept over her, the stay was very short, only a few seconds flew by.
It was under the influence of this electrocution that Sun Li boldly chose to enter the showbiz.
The "Talented Rookie Competition" was held in Shanghai that year, and Sun Li won the second place with her excellent dance skills and charming appearance, and was praised by Andy Lau.
At that time, many of Sun Li's contestants chose to go to Singapore for development, but they were worried that their mothers would have no one to take care of them after going abroad, so they had to give up this great opportunity.
3. Career and love go hand in hand
Subsequently, Sun Li went to Beijing to learn Xi performance, and the transformation from a dancer to an actor brought a lot of pressure.
The agent immediately said to Sun Li: "It's okay, you can receive three months of training first, and after that, if you don't feel suitable, you can go back to Shanghai." Sun Li smoothly agreed.
Sun Li fell in love with acting after the first class, and the teacher who taught the class also felt that she was emotionally rich and a very potential actor.
Sun Li quickly found a suitable role after the training, and she will play the role of "peace of mind" in the Haiyan drama "Jade Guanyin".
At that time, the script written by Haiyan enjoyed a high reputation in the country and attracted many well-known actors to compete for the role.
Sun Li got this hard-won opportunity, and she immediately assured the director that she would go all out.
Sun Li has put a lot of effort into playing this complex role, and she plays the role of an anti-drug policewoman in the play, so that the audience can enjoy her performance with peace of mind.
In addition to learning vocal music, taekwondo and swimming in Xi six months, she quickly passed the driver's license test and participated in dangerous drug trafficking operations with the Yunnan Anti-Drug Brigade.
After Sun Li experienced the life of the anti-narcotics police up close, she became more involved in the shooting, and the first crying scene was very smooth, which deeply moved the director.
Sun Li became an instant hit with "Jade Guanyin", and then took over 12 dramas in just five years and successfully became one of the Hua Dans.
Sun Li treats every subsequent drama as if she were the first play, and she is conscientious and serious.
In the cold December, Sun Li co-starred with Jet Li in the movie "Huo Yuanjia", and she had to wear a cheongsam to the sea.
The cold sea water was biting, and Sun Li was numb from freezing in order not to shiver in front of the camera.
When taking a bath in a hotel, even if you turn on the hottest faucet, you don't feel hot, and after washing, it will be red, like a carrot.
After hard work, Sun Li finally won the "Most Loved Actress Award" at the 22nd China TV Golden Eagle Awards, which is the reward for her efforts.
Although Sun Li is smooth sailing in her career, she is an extreme unmarried person when it comes to love.
Perhaps because she grew up in a single-parent family, Sun Li has had a timid attitude towards feelings since she was a child, and seems to have insight into everything, and once did not have any illusions about feelings.
Sun Li originally decided to wait for her mother for the rest of her life, but she didn't expect that love would come inadvertently.
Sun Li participated in the filming of the TV series "Happiness Like Flowers" in 2004 and accidentally fell in love with Deng Chao.
In the process of the two acting against each other, Sun Li gradually realized that Deng Chao was actually the young man she loved.
Sun Li praised Deng Chao and called him "a boy with a beautiful heart, a soul full of interest, and a very charming person." ”
In Deng Chao's eyes, Sun Li's light temperament like tea unconsciously makes people feel refreshed.
The two fell in love because of this, and then became even more undisguised, holding hands affectionately in front of everyone, and unreservedly announced their relationship.
4, a happy family of four, reconciled with his father
Sun Li has lacked fatherly love since she was a child, so she always cares about the good of others for her.
In this six-year-long love process, Deng Chao gradually warmed Sun Li's heart with his sincere emotions.
On June 8, 2011, the highly anticipated and beloved golden boy and girl finally came to fruition.
Sun Li released a marriage certificate on social platforms that day**, and she showed an unprecedented bright smile in **.
It coincided with Deng Chao's birthday, and Sun Li gave herself as a special gift to her future husband.
On June 7, 2011, Deng Chao and Sun Li held a grand wedding ceremony in Shanghai, which attracted the attention of the whole city.
At the wedding, Sun Li also suddenly announced the news of her pregnancy: "I have two people to take care of now, you have to take good care of me and the baby." ”
Deng Chao gently wiped away the tears from the corners of Sun Li's eyes, "I will love you and the child well for the rest of my life." ”
There was a warm atmosphere in the audience, and the audience was noisily asking for kisses.
Deng Chao gently cupped Sun Li's face as if she were a fragile treasure, and then left a gentle kiss on her face.
Sun Li stroked her belly, the unborn baby witnessed the deep affection between her parents, and this wedding made her feel extremely happy, as if one plus one equals three beautiful moments.
Yan Ni was also moved to say: "This is so beautiful, I have been crying all the time." ”
Deng Chao quickly adapted to the role of an expectant father after marriage, and sometimes Sun Li walked too fast, and he always nervously stepped forward to help her.
Sun Li and Deng Chao's son was born in November 2011, and they welcomed a lovely daughter in May 2014.
Sun Li sometimes feels that when Deng Chao teases the children, they are like two children playing, and their laughter echoes in the room, and this happiness is very real.
Before Sun Li met Deng Chao, she often showed an indifferent temperament, as if warning the living not to approach, but in fact, she was a kind of protection for herself, afraid of being hurt.
Whenever he was with Deng Chao, Deng Chao was always angry about something, but Sun Li couldn't stop smiling.
Maybe only Deng Chao's naughty soul can unlock the ice in Sun Li's heart, so from this point of view, the two of them are simply a natural pair.
A family of four was happily accompanied, and Sun Li gradually alleviated her resentment towards her father and felt surrounded by love.
Please Answer 1988 has a very touching scene where a father begs his daughter for forgiveness and says:
Everyone faces challenges when becoming a parent for the first time, and there is room for improvement, so there is a greater need for family members to be tolerant and understanding of each other.
One day, Sun Li received a letter from her stepsister Sun Yan, and she cried for a long time.
Sun Yan was a child in a family whose father had remarried, and in her letter she asked Sun Li to help her sick mother.
Sun Yan also revealed that her father did not completely ignore Sun Li, and because of the difficult family situation at that time, he barely saved 2,000 yuan in child support.
His father later learned that Sun Li was in financial difficulties in Beijing, and in order to solve the problem, he secretly went to a restaurant to wash beer bottles, and finally saved 8,000 yuan to send to Sun Li.
It was only at this time that Sun Li recalled that she had been penniless in Beijing in 2000 and could not pay the rent.
Just when Sun Li was about to be kicked out by the landlord and had to sleep on the street, she received a remittance from a stranger, but she didn't expect that her father was secretly funding her behind it.
My mother agreed that Sun Li would help my father's family, and after discussing it with me, she said, "It's been a long time since the incident, and I'm relieved." After all, we are related by blood, and he has always been your father. ”
Her mother's words made the kind-natured Sun Li decide to set a good example for her children, so she chose to let go of her resentment and reconcile with her father.
Sun Li not only helped her stepmother cure her illness without grudges, but also got an innocent and lovely sister Sun Yan.
Although Sun Yan is young, she has literary and artistic cells, and she is eager to break through in the entertainment industry, so Sun Li does her best to help her sister open up the road to her career.
In a popular plot of the TV series "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Sun Li recommended Sun Yan to play the role of the young Zhen Huan's sister.
In 2019, Sun Li and Sun Yan co-starred in the TV series "Dear Yourself", and both of them presented wonderful performances.
Sun Li's selfless dedication to Sun Yan can be described as generous and generous, obviously showing that she regards her sister as the best person in her acting career, and gives her deep love.
39-year-old Sun Li is now enjoying a quiet life, she devotes herself to running the family, so that a son and a daughter grow up healthily in a harmonious atmosphere.
Someone asked Sun Li how she was able to maintain her popularitySun Li replied with a smile that she never thought too highly of herself, concentrated on acting, and was a down-to-earth person.
Sun Li loves light yoga exercises, likes the unsweetened tea lifestyle, and maintains a serious and indifferent military nature in terms of children's education as always.
As a celebrity, Sun Li is very simple and frugal, she doesn't care about wearing second-hand clothes, and even a third of her children's clothes are second-hand.
Deng Chao and Sun Li have similar values, as husband and wife, they both adhere to a frugal and environmentally friendly attitude to life, sometimes when the pen is broken, they will use tape to simply repair it and continue to use it.
It is often said that only those who are nourished by love can gain the energy to give love. Sun Li has always insisted on vegetarianism, she actively participates in public welfare activities, and cares about small animals, all of which makes her more and more gentle and makes her more comfortable in the hustle and bustle of the world.
While traveling in Yunnan, Sun Li deeply felt the local poverty. Many children do not have access to education or even clothing.
Once back in Shanghai, Sun Li immediately sent stationery to the children, and then donated money to build two Hope Primary Schools in the local area.
Sun Li was once asked about her understanding of happiness, and her answer was surprising, "waiting".
Sun Li's son has a nickname "Wait", and for her, the word "Wait" also has a deep meaning.
Only by honing oneself by calming down can the actor quietly wait for the good show to appear.
Only by insisting on family affection can we wait for the belated love of our father;does not pursue fast-food love, and there have been no scandals until now, and finally got a happy marriage.
Sun Li runs her own small family, takes care of her children with heart, and is determined not to let them repeat the childhood trauma she once experienced, so she lives an ordinary and beautiful life, as if it were a poem.
Only with careful care and patient waiting, happiness can bloom beautifully like a flower.
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