Home is a kind of warm desire, and we have seen too many unhappy childhoods, too many divorces, single parents, reorganization, domestic violence and other environments that have struggled to grow up.
Countless times longing and envy of a happy family, a warm and loving atmosphere.
When problem children grow up and enter society, they need to spend a lot of time to get rid of their ineffective education and trauma, and most of them will kill themselves once and be reborn.
Happy children, home is a warm harbor, is an unrestrained paradise, you can play at home, feel spoiled at will, because the care of the family can feel extremely reassuring.
But no matter which one it is, when we grow up, we have ambition and our own judgment of the world, we no longer expect those warmth to come from **, and we begin to have our own career and life.
Home in life A4 paper only occupy a few boxes, the festival is short and I don't want to go back, I want to have a little time for myself in a hurry, I don't want to go back to the festival long, those parents are short, those questions are difficult to answer one after another, those who look at life have changed dramatically, you don't want to argue about anything, most of you want to find a quiet place to be in a daze.
Children with unhappy families have lived in an unsound and oppressive atmosphere since childhood, and we have learned to hide our emotions to avoid causing dissatisfaction or scolding from our families.
Returning home means getting back to the painful memories of the past. They are afraid to face the contradictions and conflicts in the family, and they are afraid that they will not be able to adapt to that familiar but unfamiliar environment. They would rather look for a temporary solace and escape from the outside than go home and face the fact that something has changed and has not.
This upbringing leads us to develop a mixed sense of family, with a desire for love and warmth, but also a fear of being hurt.
When you grow up, you will have a short-term happiness when you come home, and your parents who were once indifferent become enthusiastic, they know how to take care of your feelings and emotions, and know how to give you care and love, but most of the time it feels late, and many things are really precious only when they are needed.
When we grow up, we will also realize that this is not a different experience for every human being, that you can't change your parents, you can't change your birth, it's not their fault, but you still can't change that deep-seated sense of insecurity.
Later, we work hard, learn and grow, we want to say goodbye to the past, we don't have to please anyone anymore, we can recognize ourselves, we can give ourselves love and security.
When their parents are old, they will grow up, they will change, maybe they didn't grow up, so then I was relieved and understood and lived in harmony, but I can go back often, but I can't stay for a long time, and if I stay too many details, I will be disappointed.
Teacher Liu Xiaobo said that the purpose of parents to have children is not actually out of love. Having a child is actually to appear normal, to make your life complete, or to protect yourself in the future.
If we have ever been unlucky, when you recognize yourself and realize the truth, fall in love with yourself and embrace yourself and the rest of your life.