Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
When I went to my mother-in-law's house and found that the cashmere scarf I had been looking for for several years was around her neck, I was a little speechless.
It was a gift from a friend, it should be worth about 1,000 yuan, the pattern is simple and generous, it is the color and style I like, and it is also the most expensive of my scarf.
But I haven't been able to find it in the past few years, because I was working in the field, I thought it was in the dormitory of the unit at first, and I didn't know until now that it was taken by my mother-in-law.
To be honest, I don't like my mother-in-law like this. But everything in my house, no matter where I eat, from the big color TV I bought to the various snacks, as long as she likes it or she needs it, or even her nephew or something, relatives need it, she will take it. Never asked me if I wanted more, because if I did, I'd tell her that I just bought it, and I definitely want it.
It seems that she is not like this in other sons' houses, and she doesn't even have the house keys to some sons' houses, and the reason for this is probably that I still think that I have a cowardly personality and am the kind of bully.
I don't know how the elderly in other families get along with their children, but I think what I appreciate the most is the way my parents get along with us.
First of all, maintain a reasonable distance and boundaries between them and their children.
My father has the key to my house, but whenever he wants to come to my house, he will tell us in advance, even if he sends us food, he will tell us in advance, because he knows that although we give him the key to our house, it does not mean that he has the right to come to my house anytime and anywhere.
Second, don't make indiscriminate claims in your children's homes.
When children get married, it means that they already have their own independent lives. Give them full respect, both spatially and psychologically.
In front of the children, do not mess with their things, their affairs, if the children do not take the initiative to consult the opinions of the elderly, the elderly should not participate in the chaos, let alone point and nag and annoy people in everything. After all, the times have progressed, and the so-called life experience of the elderly may not be applicable to the current society.
Finally, it's important to do everything you can to help your child when they're struggling.
Every young person who has just entered the society is actually facing tremendous pressure to earn money to buy a house and a car, and to prepare for marriage and children......Young people who have just entered the society are relatively lacking in both ability and social experience. At this time, parents must give them some help and support to make their lives less difficult.
As a junior, what I can't stand the most is that those old people don't care about anything when the younger generation is young and need help, and when they are old, they are at ease and ask their children to be filial to their elders.
Children have the obligation to support the elderly, if you have been sincere to me, when I support you, I will pay double my sincerity, if you ignore me in the most difficult time, then I will only coldly fulfill my legal obligations.
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