When someone tells you at the wine table: You must drink this glass of wine, and if you don't drink it, you won't give me face. At this time, what should you do?
I'm telling you, you can't drink anything from this glass of wine. Why?If you think about it, he is actually the one who doesn't give you the most face.
He would never say such a thing to his leaders, to his clients, or to people of higher standing than him.
He's just treating you like a clown. If you drink this cup, then he will pinch you like a soft persimmon next, cup after cup.
What to do?Don't be afraid, don't be embarrassed, just refuse decisively.
Mix outside, don't be too humble. A stronger person will be more likely to win the respect of others.
The more humble you are, the more others think you are weak and a soft egg.
In this-and-egg society, taking a step back may not necessarily open the sky, and may be inched in.
Most people are in the evaluation of the unexpected world, what people in society think of you and what they say about you. And these external things are kidnapping and shackles.
Have you ever wondered how these kidnappings and shackles work on you?
In fact, it is because you have been entered into too many other people's rules and instilled with too many useless values, referred to as dogs.
I have always learned to be a person of noble character and an honest person, but I have not learned to be shameless. The face is commonly known as the face.
You can't put it down. What is face?
Let me tell you a truth first: smart people know that face is the inside. And without the face of the inside, it is meaningless.
What happens if the poor want to save face?If the poor want to save face, they will fall into the trap.
You see, the poorer those people are, the better they face, the more they are afraid of being looked down upon by others, and the more they will buy expensive things to fill the façade.
Do you think that if you carry a LV bag, everyone will not know that you are poor?Didn't you slap yourself in the face?
You have face, but do you have a lining?The result of this is: slapping a swollen face and becoming fat, and falling into the trap of eating, drinking, and having fun.
You will be less and less rich. Because investment and consumption are contradictory, there is only one amount of money, and the more you have left for consumption, the less money you have to invest.
What the poor don't know is that face is not given by others, but by themselves.
The so-called he looks down on you is actually you who look down on yourself.
Let's talk about another thing that everyone will encounter, acquaintances borrow money. If someone asks you to borrow money, do you borrow it or not?
Ordinary people must think first about how they relate to this person. What are the benefits of borrowing, and you may need the help of this borrower in the future.
What will be the consequences if you don't borrow it, will you lose face, and will you lose this friend in the future?
After thinking about it, torture yourself. There are also people who obviously don't have much savings, so they have to lend to acquaintances for the sake of face.
I have to spend money in all aspects, but at this time I pretend to be high. The consequence is that there is no benefit in doing nothing to poor one's relatives, torturing oneself, torturing one's children, torturing one's spouse, and failing one's parents.
To die is to save face and suffer sin.
It's the same thing about borrowing money, how do the masters and the rich do it?
They never think about emotional relationships, only what is at stake. I'd rather bear the people of the world than the people of the world bear me.
Therefore, the biggest difference between the poor and the rich is that the values are different. The rich give preference to interests, while the poor always think about feelings and relationships.
For the poor, face, dignity, and feelings are very important in their hearts, and the masters put interests first, and one more point, let's not be deceived by appearances.
The masters and the rich, they lecture in the open, but they profit in the dark.
They preach morality on the face, but in their bones they are all for profit. Unfortunately, most people only believe what they say in the open, but they can't see what they do in secret.
On the other hand, why are those shameless people more likely to make money?Because they can tear their faces with others for their own benefit, and others often have nothing to do.
Most people want to be face-saving, and they won't use indiscriminate methods to deal with them, but they take advantage of the loophole that people love face.
I make a lot of money. Shameless people often earn money from shameless people.
They don't have so many rules and regulations, they won't hinder their face, they won't get in the way of their feelings, and everything is profit-oriented.
Let me ask you, how much is a relationship worth these days?Anyone who has read "Buffett's Biography" knows that it is recorded in the book that Buffett is very cruel to his three children, almost a dime.
He is a billionaire, and his daughter asks him to buy a color TV, but he is unwilling.
Joe's temper is also capricious and short-tempered, and he often scolds his employees.
Musk's ruthlessness is also well-known in Silicon Valley, and many old employees work hard for him, but if he judges that he can't, he will not hesitate to throw them away like garbage.
Warren Buffett doesn't like Musk, and Musk doesn't like Buffett. But in the end, you find out that they are actually people all the way.
Over the years, I have also come into contact with many successful bigwigs. I concluded that the "bastard thinking" is precisely the secret of their gang**, the bastard "does not deceive himself, does not care about things, dares to die, has no heart and lungs, never is affected by any feelings and morality, and is extremely ruthless to interests and results."
You look at these "bastards", they are often the ones with the most face. So, when you don't have money, don't care about any face, no dignity, because there is no such thing as it.
To put it bluntly, people's face is supported by money. As long as you have money, you will have face, and you will be handsome no matter how you look at it.
If you don't have money or ability, you can't bend down, even if you are dressed up in Lisuo and glamorous, you are still poor and sour.
Now, will you make a choice?