I, a Malaysian, born in the 70s and 90s, am in love with a 22 year old boy

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My name is Ziran, Malaysian-Chinese, born in Kuala Lumpur, Western Malaysia. My actual age is a post-70s aunt, but my appearance and mentality age are that of a post-90s young lady.

In his 20s, he had a bad marriage, endured ten years of purgatory-like life, and even fell into deep depression because of it. After ten years of unhappy marriage, I gradually came to work, worked my way up the ranks, and achieved a house and a car and financial independence by my own efforts.

Unexpectedly, after 8 years of divorce and singleness, he was pursued by a 22-year-old boy who was younger than me, and started a sweet and romantic love. My mom felt like I was delaying people and told me to let it go as soon as possible. But my daughter is very supportive, proud and happy for me.

My boyfriend, who is 22 years younger, and I have been in a relationship for three years).

My ancestral home is in Taiwan, a few decades ago, Southeast Asia's economy was relatively good, and many Chinese people came here to develop, and my grandfather came to Malaysia.

Since my family's financial situation was not very good, I went to work in the society after graduating from high school, saving money and completing a market management course in my spare time.

After graduation, I talked about two boyfriends, and I got married and had children at the age of 26. At that time, I was too young, I had no life experience and emotional experience, and I walked into the "besieged city" as soon as my brain was hot. After getting married, I realized that life is not all about the love and sweetness of the ears and temples, but more about the triviality of firewood, rice, oil, salt, pots and pans.

Can you tell that I am a post-70s generation?）

In these trivialities of life, many ugly sides are gradually revealed, and quarrels with him have become commonplace. The former feelings were exhausted in frequent quarrels. When my daughter was five years old, my ex and I began to separate.

During the five years of separation, I was in a very bad mood. Because of this failed marriage, I became inferior and self-doubting. I felt that I had a bad personality, that my financial ability was not strong enough, and that I was not beautiful enough, which led to an unhappy marriage and betrayal of my husband.

I thought about divorce many times, but my daughter was my bond, so I was in pain all the time and fell into a deep depression every day.

I was worried that if I got divorced, I might not be able to take care of my daughter alone, so how could I concentrate on work with her?Also, if I divorce and remarry, will there still be a lover who wants me?And will outsiders see me as a poor abandoned woman?There are too many negative thoughts, and I am exhausted every day.

I want to try to maintain the mentality and appearance of the post-90s).

For the sake of my daughter's Xi and the stability of her life, when my daughter was seven years old, I resolutely took her with me to raise her alone. Then when my daughter was 10 years old, I officially divorced her father.

After becoming a single mother, life was very difficult, I helped me take care of my daughter in the morning, worked hard to earn money to support the family, took care of the children by myself in the evening, went home for dinner, housework, children's homework and other things.

At that time, the shadow of divorce and the pressure of life were like a huge grinding disc that weighed me hard. But I knew there was no way back, so I could only grit my teeth and keep going.

The depression lasted for a long time, until I read a book on spiritual counseling and learned how to use positive thinking to face life. I gradually came out of the rainy season of emotions and was able to work more attentively and discover the beauty of the world. I understand that only by becoming positive can I improve my self-worth and change my life for the better for my daughter and me.

After adjusting my mood, I actively expanded my network, participated in many social activities, and researched how to make myself more beautiful and attractive.

After years of divorce, I have become younger and prettier)

At this time, I was also in the workplace as if it had been the time, and I was promoted and raised all the way. I have made a big difference in my daughter's quality of life. Because she has shortcomings in the spiritual aspect, I must be rich in the material aspect.

Then I bought a house and a car, and lived a life that a woman in a normal marriage might not be able to achieve. Although I was later pursued by several members of the opposite sex, I didn't have much confidence in love at that time, and I really didn't find a suitable one.

I always felt that no man would treat us mother and daughter sincerely. So, even if someone pursues me, I won't accept it. Even, I had a fear of marriage and decided that I didn't plan to get married again in my life. Because I have seen too many second marriages and third marriages, it still ends in divorce.

My mom and friends persuaded me to remarry, but I think it's good to live alone. Instead of wasting feelings with men, it is better to focus on cultivating daughters and improving yourself. In 2020, I successfully obtained my MBA diploma in the UK.

Go swimming with Wen Hao).

It wasn't until 3 years ago that I was 44 years old and fell in love. I met a boy who was 22 years younger than me, and I couldn't help myself in the face of his pursuit. He made me believe in love.

My boyfriend's name is Wen Hao, and I met him on a dating app. When I signed up for that dating app, I didn't really think about finding a boyfriend, let alone finding a marriage partner. It's just to pass the boring time and find someone to talk to.

Because I am well-maintained, I look relatively young, and I am often seen as sisters when I go out with my daughter, so when I register an account, I set an age that is younger than my actual age.

I'm so confident in my appearance that even if I meet people I make friends with in real life, they won't be able to tell that I'm in my 40s. I didn't expect that after signing up for the dating app, there were quite a lot of people who wanted to make friends with me. Later, I developed a crush on a big boy named Wen Hao.

If you have a good mentality, you can maintain a girlish feeling).

Through chatting, I know that he is also Chinese, originally from Sabah in eastern Malaysia, and currently Xi in my city. He was 22 years old at the time.

Based on professional Xi and personal interests, I watched too many unreliable online relationships, and the first day we met online, I asked to meet. Moon Ho looks a bit like a Korean, looks like Sven and clean, and is my type of person.

I asked him how such a young girl on the Internet could be interested in me. He said that he had actually talked to a few girlfriends before, but they broke up because they were young and in a different distance, and he felt that he was more suitable for finding a more mature woman.

I didn't expect to be confessed by a 22-year-old boy, and the other party was so handsome and cute, my heart was like a lake stirred by the spring breeze, rippling layers of ripples.

I'm in the library with Wen Hao).

Wen Hao is very young, sunny and vibrant, but there is no generation gap between me and him, and he is very harmonious. He said I was mature and beautiful, and I was smart and excellent, which many girls in their twenties did not have.

In fact, based on the need for better communication and communication with my daughter, I forced myself to understand the Xi habits of young people's lives nowadays, so that I could better integrate into the world of young people, so I didn't bother at all to interact with Wenhao.

Wen Hao is an excellent little boy, and it can be seen from his careful treatment of me, including AA consumption. On a date together, he was very conscious and didn't wait for me to pay, for fear that I would misunderstand him for money. Later, the consumption in the relationship was paid once by him and once by me. Although the calculation is not so clear, both are giving.

Due to the epidemic, I asked Wen Hao to come and live together, so as not to see each other when the lockdown order was implemented. During the period of living together, I was like a seedling that had been moistened by the spring rain, exuding vigor from the inside out, as if I had returned to my young college days.

Although we have an age difference, we have no sense of disobedience together. The ** of the ears and temples that are filmed is as sweet as a little couple of the same age.

There is no sense of disobedience together).

But when I walk out with him, others will still see the age gap between us. Those people would have surprised expressions on their faces and ask about our relationship. At first, I would be overwhelmed, but then I would just joke that we were husband and wife, which surprised them very much, and the scene was easy to solve.

Although Wen Hao didn't care that I was much older than him, I still told him my real age after living together. I said, "If you can't accept such a big age difference, you can choose to give up now." I don't blame you. "I also bluntly told him that I was only in love, not married, and not having children.

However, I didn't see from his face that he had too many contradictions and struggles in his heart, and he said he could accept it.

I thought he was just greedy for pleasure for a while, and the heat might not last long. But I didn't expect that in the subsequent relationship, his enthusiasm for me continued unabated.

Who can tell that I am 22 years older than him?）

But I still can't believe that this relationship can last. Because there are only two boys in his family, he relies on him to carry on the lineage. If he had been in a relationship with me for a long time, his parents would have objected to it if they found out. But he said that his parents would not object, and they could not control him.

My family later found out about my relationship with Wen Hao, and their attitudes were different. My mother is pouring cold water, she thinks that Wen Hao is young, and it is a bit unfair for me to talk to him about a fruitless relationship, which is delaying others.

I retorted, "Mom, he's delaying me too, okay?"I also have a lot of people chasing now, and the conditions are all very good. I gave it all up for him. "Actually, if I don't be with Wen Hao, I can immediately be a ** who doesn't have to go to work and has fine clothes and food.

There are a lot of sweet bits and pieces in the love nest)

My daughter's attitude was the opposite, she was very supportive of my choice. She said, "Mom, you are very good, beautiful, you look very young, and you deserve a boyfriend who is younger than yourself." The fact that there are young handsome guys at your age who like you means that you are very attractive, and I am proud of you. ”

In the first two years I got along with Wen Hao, I never met his parents, but his parents knew about the two of us. Several times his parents came to see him and wanted to meet me, but he kept dragging his feet. I understand that he is worried and does not want to act rashly and his parents have a bad impression of me.

It wasn't until two years later that he arranged for us to meet. His parents didn't have an opinion after seeing me, maybe they thought that their son was still young and not in a hurry to get married, so let him talk about love!

I still have a girly body after 70)

Afterwards, Wen Hao told me that his parents also praised me for being beautiful and mature, hoping that he didn't lie to me, but at least his parents didn't explicitly object, which means that we can continue.

In the past three years, we have walked together for more than a thousand days, had many sweet memories, and had several breakups. He has seen my temper, my bottom line, and my ugly and low side, and none of these can make him back down, but choose me more firmly, which does require a lot of courage.

So in the later relationship, he sometimes did some immature things, and I would accommodate and tolerate him. Also, we both give each other a lot of freedom to do what they love. Our relationship has not lost its freshness because of the passage of time, and it is gradually heating up, which is the feeling that we are still very infatuated.

It's good to live in the moment and be happy).

For the sake of our future plans, I once suggested, "Do you want to test your parents, just say that you plan to marry me, and see how your parents react." If the parents object, then we can end the relationship early. But he refused.

I asked him what he liked about me and he said he liked the feeling of being comfortable with me. I don't think there's any pressure if you don't look forward to the future, so let's be comfortable. Every day we think about how to live the day without worrying too much.

He said I'm serious about you, I say what seriousness is, he says serious is not to break up at will. But one day I tried to trick him with the threat of breaking up, he was a hundred unwilling, angry for one night, asked me to withdraw the words of the breakup, and made me swear not to mention the breakup in the future, which made me cry and laugh. Touched by his simple love, I will cherish this feeling.

Three years in love, still in love as before).

If I face a breakup one day, I will inevitably be sad. But I'm not worried, because I'm past the age of anxious pursuits, and I have many suitors, even if I live alone, I'm not afraid.

For this sibling relationship with a big age difference, I don't have too many extravagant hopes and worries, I just want to live in the moment and enjoy the beauty.

Once, when I was young, I met someone who was unladylike, not only wasting too much youth for my ex-husband, but also traumatizing myself physically and mentally. SoI want to grasp the present, cherish what I have, have fun in time, boldly pursue the life I want, and let the rest of my life have no regrets.

Dictation: Ziran].

Editor: Chen Ping].

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