Text: Insight Su Mo
Zhou Guoping said: "Home is a small boat that will carry us through such a long time. ”
Home is the harbor of the body, the destination of the soul, and the shelter from the wind and rain of the world. Having a happy and warm home is the desire of each of us.
The happiness of the family lies in the operation. Big things can be discussed, small things can be shared, and miscellaneous things can be shared, and this family can be happy and happy.
Discuss big things
As the saying goes, don't want a husband and wife to have a thousand loads of food, as long as the husband and wife are good at discussing. A good family relationship is never one party dictatorship, but a matter of discussion.
In 1938, Qian Zhongshu was hired to teach at Tsinghua University, while Yang Jiang took his daughter to live at his father's house in Shanghai.
One day, Qian Zhongshu, who had worked for less than a year, suddenly came home in the dust, saying that he had something important to discuss. It turned out that his father, Qian Jibo, repeatedly wrote to him asking him to quit his current job and teach in Hunan to facilitate his service. Qian Zhongshu did not directly agree to his father, and rushed back to discuss with Yang Jiang.
Yang Jiang said that it was a pity to quit her job at Tsinghua University, but she also understood her husband's feelings very well and thanked him for his respect for herself.
In the end, under the discussion between the two, they decided to go south and discussed together how to properly handle the resignation. In this way, Qian Zhongshu was able to go to Hunan without any worries.
Discuss major matters with your family, not only give yourself an extra pair of eyes and a brain, but also help you think more carefully. More importantly, behind the discussion is respect and attention to the family.
Acting arbitrarily will only alienate each other;Only by having a good amount of business can we win sincerity and trust.
After becoming famous, Mo Yan, his distant relatives borrowed money from him because they encountered difficulties. Mo Yan, who is "free of wealth", did not make his own decisions, but first explained the situation to his wife and asked her what she thought.
My wife smiled and said, You can make your own decisions about this matter. Mo Yan said seriously: "This is our common property, and we must have your consent." ”
Not only in terms of money, but also in all major family matters, Mo Yan has to seek his wife's opinion and never make his own opinions. For this reason, the two have been married for more than 40 years and have always been in love.
Feng Jicai said: "Only when there is an atmosphere of mutual consultation in the family can the family become a happy harbor." ”
The basis of marriage is love, attachment, and even more respect. Only by discussing things can we make decisions more secure, make lovers have a greater sense of belonging, and make families more cohesive.
Little things to share
When love enters marriage, passion eventually fades into dullness, and there are few winds and snows in life, more of the triviality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and the collision of pots and pans.
In these long and complicated days, there is no greater happiness than having someone who can talk to you.
Writer Wang Xiaobo and his wife Li Yinhe always have endless words before and after marriage.
They often share what they have seen, heard, thought and thought about each other, and talk about the bits and pieces of life. Even if he usually encounters a passer-by's funny appearance, Wang Xiaobo can't wait to share it with his wife.
Li Yinhe also talks to Wang Xiaobo about his creative ideas and interesting things in life at any time, sometimes it is a delicacy, sometimes it is a good word.
Sharing not only makes the trivial and ordinary days after marriage interesting, but also deepens the relationship between the two in listening to each other.
Li Yinhe often sighed: "Talking with Xiaobo about those parents makes me happy." ”
What really drives love is not strong love, but trivial time. "In marriage, gossip is the best nourishment for feelings. Behind those broken thoughts, there is my dependence on you;In the tireless nagging, we care for each other.
Knowing how to share and being good at listening is the most important wisdom in a marriage.
Chores are shared
Actor Chen Daoming once talked about that no matter how busy he is at work, he will find time to take the initiative to do housework, laundry, cleaning, garbage delivery and other chores, and often cook, cook with his daughter and wife, and have a good time.
His favorite thing is to clean up the house with his wife, and he says that he especially enjoys the process, and the two of them are busy and chatting, and the house is clean and the heart is closer.
There is a saying in Intimate Relationships: In marriage, when a person takes on all or most of the housework, their happiness is negative;Marital happiness is positive only when couples work together.
Participating in household chores and sharing chores is not only a manifestation of family responsibilities, but also a magic weapon for harmonious family relationships.
It turns out that the most touching love words in marriage are not that I love you, but that I am willing to share the trivial fireworks in this world with you.
You know my hard work, I know your hardship, share it together, this family can go long.
In marriage, love is only the cornerstone, respect is the roof, responsibility is the wall, and communication is the window. "What really determines the temperature of a home is the way family members get along with each other.
Consultation makes each other more trusting, sharing makes feelings closer, and sharing makes trivial life colorful.
Anchor: Xiong Tianyu uses his voice to guard the shine and cleanliness at this moment.
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