First-year students have low self-esteem due to their different family backgrounds
The freshman year has raised the self-esteem of many students, but it turns out that the disparities between students from different families are just as significant.
College is a dream place for many students. Regardless of your background, there may have been times in your final year of high school when you wanted to give up, but because of your desire for college, you regained your motivation.
Many people believe that college is a holy place for students to shape their new selves, and many seemingly ordinary students become highly regarded once they enter college. In the process, some students become more egos.
In the first semester of their freshman year, many students had low self-esteem because of sadness. In the blink of an eye, the first semester of freshman year has ended, and I believe that many college students are excited to return home and enjoy the care and care of their parents. There are also some students who are immersed in different emotions.
Xiao Han, a student from a county in Northeast China, had a happy life before going to college. Despite his modest family background, most of the people around him lived well.
Unexpectedly, as soon as he entered his first year of college, what he witnessed was enough to subvert what he had known for years. Studying at a university in a provincial city, the two local students in the dormitory showed very different qualities from him in terms of speaking style and way of thinking.
That's when he realized that, compared to them, he belonged"Humble students"。This difference is reflected in almost every aspect of the school. When others wore an elegant suit to the student union to apply for a job, he dressed like a middle school student.
When the classmates in the city are ready to surprise him, go after it"Tie flowers", but it seemed difficult for him to greet his female classmates. At the end of the day, these differences make Xiao Han deeply feel the taste of inferiority, and this headache is not unique to him.
It's only when you enter college that you realize how big the gap is between students from different families. For many students, going to college is"Get out there"The only opportunity, especially for those students from rural areas, towns, and small cities, who cherish this opportunity to broaden their horizons. However, adapting to such an environment also requires a certain degree of adjustment.
Before the college entrance examination, students for many years of study and Xi life were mainly confined to the periphery of their families, and they were Xi used to the narrow world in front of them. It was only when they entered the university that they realized that there was such a huge gap between students from different regions and different families.
For example, in the case of computer classes, rural students have almost never been exposed to computers. And almost every student in the city has one.
These students even had to learn Xi type from scratch, and seeing others use computers with ease, they felt for the first time the gap in learning caused by resources Xi learning. What's even more impressive is that many of the students from the municipalities are at the top of their local classes.
However, when they went to college, they found out that they were"Top students"In fact, it is an illusion. For a student from a rural area, being admitted to a public middle school may already be considered academically excellent, but for a student from a big city middle school, this is just the most ordinary grade.
Different family backgrounds bring not only obvious superficial differences, but also differences in personality, Xi thinking habits, and behavior patterns that are more difficult to change.
Students from wealthy families and parents with relatively high social status tend to be more confident, dare to show themselves, and actively strive for opportunities in various school activities. They also dare to express themselves when they have disagreements with other students, or resolve them in a mature way.
However, these qualities are difficult for students from humble backgrounds to acquire through diligent Xi. Knowledge can be rewarded through hard work, and these intangible skills are a difficult Xi for students who are lagging behind, and they don't know where to start.
Actively looking for ways to change is an effective way for college students to overcome low self-esteem. Real-life differences are hard to avoid, and the first semester of freshman year is enough to expose many students to an inferiority complex, which is even stronger after leaving campus. College students can't dwell on this, let alone stagnate.
Our efforts include actively looking for areas where we can make a difference, constantly improving our skills, which is an effective way to overcome low self-esteem. Although coming from similar families, we can clearly see the trajectory of different students after completing the course.
Some students choose to be frustrated and give up, while others choose to work harder. College time is very precious, and it is also an important time for students to distance themselves from each other. If you want to have a solid position after graduation, you can't go with the flow.
Even college students from humble backgrounds may not have an advantage in terms of innate resources and skill training, but we still have the opportunity to learn more and Xi pay more in our Xi, and become more outstanding individuals through little efforts.
Today's topic] After entering university, do you have an inferiority complex?