It is instinct to be competitive, and it is ability to bow your head to show weakness.
The writer Li Kang once said: "The wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it."Heaped out of the shore, the flow will be turbulent;Walk above men, and the crowd will not. ”
People are strong in their bones, but they can't be so in their behavior. Learning to grow quietly is a must in life.
No matter who you associate with, you are in a low place and others are in a high place, it is the strength and wisdom of others that flow in your direction like flowing water.
Show weakness to your child and you will become younger.
There is a female college student who has just graduated and goes to work as a teacher in kindergarten.
On the first day of work, the children were naughty and made the female college student angry and cry.
The next day, the father of the female college student went to the school and said to the children: "Everyone, don't look at the female teacher's height, in fact, she is only four years old, in the future, everyone should take care of her, play with her, and don't bully her." ”
Since then, the children have taken the hand of the female college student and given her food.
Condescending management will make the child rebellious, and if you are friends with the child, it will be different. When adults bow their heads, they take the initiative to show goodwill. Even children don't want to quarrel with people who show favor.
In ancient times, there was Confucius, who learned from children of a few years old and left a beautiful talk. Now, we can do the same.
Go to the child's world, feel the innocence and childishness, learn to smile naturally, and be curious about everything. There is a young mentality. This is wisdom at hand.
Show weakness to the old man and you will become wiser.
There is a proverb that says, "Old beef has a chewy head, and an old man has a head to listen." ”Many things that we have not experienced have already been experienced by the elderly, so we can listen to the elderly, avoid detours on our own, and know how to deal with different situations.
When Zuo Zongtang went to recover Xinjiang, he met an old man playing chess. So the two of them played a few games. The old man lost, and Zuo Zongtang set off happily.
After Zuo Zongtang recovered Xinjiang, on the way back, he met the old man again. It was found that the old man was a master of chess, and Zuo Zongtang lost continuously.
The old man said, "You go to war, I can't break your sharpness and make you feel good." You won the battle, I won your chess, so that you don't become complacent.
A word wakes up the dreamer. The words of the elderly are undoubtedly the best social wisdom, knowing how to encourage and spur people. A game of chess is to observe life and seek the world.
In life, we continue to ask different elderly people for advice, we can know the routines of all walks of life, and even find the experience of going abroad, learning skills, etc.
You can also read ancient books, talk to the ancients, and know about the experiences of thousands of years ago. Taking history as a mirror, we can understand the gains and losses.
Show weakness to passers-by and you will see the scenery.
I've seen a lot of travelers, they've been to a lot of places, but they're not happy.
When I went to the grassland, I saw a lot of cow and sheep dung, and the smell was very uncomfortableWhen I went to the city, there were a lot of people, I saw people's heads, but I didn't see my objects;Going to the scenic spot, crowded with people, it's too uncomfortable;When you go to the countryside, others will beware of you when they see you as strangeWhen you go to buy groceries, you have to bargain and even be blackmailed.
To be honest, going to ** play is inseparable from human factors. The most beautiful scenery is not a mountain, a temple, a tree, or a street, but the harmony between people, between people and nature.
Take the initiative to show favor to the people around you, and the originally crowded scenic spot will become orderly. If you are old, someone will be polite, and this warmth and touching are more valuable than the scenery itself.
Maybe there is a stretch of the road where you can't see the scenery because of politeness, and it doesn't matter. Your heart is peaceful, and you are standing in the scenic area, which is a landscape in itself.
Show weakness to your loved ones, and you will reap happiness.
In this life, if you can't even get along with your relatives, and you can't tolerate your relatives, don't talk about socializing.
A family that does not live in harmony will only be looked down upon. You feel ashamed to go out in such a family.
After the relationship between relatives is good, you can go to interact with people again, and you are full of confidence. Even if there are no outsiders to help you, don't worry, after all, relatives will help you.
It is a pity that many people regard outsiders as friends and relatives as enemies. Expect too much from your loved ones and give too little from yourself.
Smart people, no matter how troublesome they are or how much they are wronged, will be kind to their relatives. After all, all good, fertilizer and water do not flow into the fields of outsiders.
The painter Huang Kan was a very filial person, and he would accompany his mother from Beijing to his hometown and from his hometown to Beijing.
The mother was on the road and asked to bring the shoucai. Because on the longevity, there is an inscription written by the father.
After his mother passed away, Huang Kan asked someone to draw "Dreaming of His Mother's Grave", and Zhang Taiyan wrote it for him.
In the process of filial piety, enjoy the love of parents;In the process of running a family, spending your own money and doing something for your family is also a gain.
Show weakness to the fool and you will stay away from trouble.
One student, when he heard someone say, "There are only three seasons in a year," immediately responded, "That's wrong, it's four seasons a year."
The two of them argued endlessly, and asked the teacher to decide.
The teacher said, "There are only three seasons in a year. The man left happily, and the student froze.
Then, the teacher said, "You argue with a stupid person, you just get entangled, let him win, and you have nothing to lose." ”
Yes, fight the dragon and you will become a dragon too;Entangled with people, you will also be distressed. Only by showing weakness and letting go, you will lose yourself, but you will be relieved.
Writer Yang Changyi said: "Those who give in to you in life are the ones who are worth cherishing, and there is not so much friendship that is taken for granted." ”Any relationship goes both ways. If you show weakness and the other party is aggressive, then you are not a person worth associating;If you show weakness and the other party shows favor, that is a reliable person.
If the other party takes the initiative to show weakness when you are strong, you must restrain yourself and learn to show goodwill. All the contradictions, laughing off.
The specific way to show weakness is very simple, that is, shut up, listen, smile, shake hands, bow your head, take the initiative to suffer, and be polite.
Showing weakness is like a spring breeze that makes others comfortable, and it will also make others open their arms and embrace the world. You are a member of the world, and you are naturally a member of the world that others can accept.
All quiet kindness is the wisdom of both rigidity and softness, and it is the jiu-jitsu of interpersonal communication.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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