The vast majority of boys have this experience, and chatting with their friends and buddies is a set. When it comes to girls, it's stuck. I didn't know what to say at all, and my brain went blank.
In fact, you can't blame these brothers, after all, their understanding of girls and chatting is really not much. What to do?
Bring you today practical tips for chatting with girls.
1. The choice of topic
It's not good to talk to girls because there is no topic, which has become the consensus of many boys. Actually?Everyone is not short of talking points, because with at least ten years of experience, even if you haven't read any books or traveled a lot, you still have a foundation for topics. Otherwise, you can't explain why you talk so much about male friends. Therefore, the most essential reason for the lack of topics is that you lack the skills to find and extend the topic. And not the topic itself.
If you want to have a topic to talk about anytime, anywhere, first find out what you can feel at the moment.
For example, if you're having coffee at Starbucks, what can you talk to her?1. The taste of coffee, "A new coffee has just been released, the taste is similar to Ruixing's Moutai coffee, you can try it".
2. You see the waiter at Starbucks, "The waiter here is well-dressed, you should look good when you wear it".
There are five senses, seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and touching. These can be the basis for starting a conversation. In this sense, the topics are endless.
2. The way of speaking
A lot of brothers, what they say, can easily offend girls, although he may really be unintentional. If you're going to state someone else's shortcomings, you can't state your conclusion: "You're so ugly." You can name the course of action that led you to this conclusion: "Your eyes are big and small, and the sides are a little asymmetrical. ”
If you're going to state someone else's merits, you can't say your conclusion: "You're so beautiful." And you can describe the process of behavior that led to this conclusion: "You look like Fan Bingbing when you laugh, I thought it was the same person." This is called the intention of speaking, and the intention will definitely have results, this truth is not difficult to understand.
3. Change the subject
A lot of brothers chat, easy to go all the way to the black. For example, if you talk to a girl about eating, do you eat, what do you eat, and what does it taste?Always around this topic. As a result, we talked back and forth, but in the end we couldn't talk anymore. I can't talk, and if I can't talk hard, I change the topic. I'm not good at this topic, so why bother slapping a swollen face and being fat?Is there only one topic that can be talked about by law?
One of the biggest benefits of shifting the subject is to have the woman follow your topic. The topic you initiated, within your control, is easy to talk about.
If you try to follow the topic of women, you can only talk about it in the end. Sometimes, when you think differently, the situation suddenly becomes clearer. Do you understand the above three tips?For more love skills and emotional problems, it is very interesting to pay attention to *** Brother Yue