One day, I was sitting at my desk at my company desk and looking at Excel** scrolling on my computer screen. At the age of 35, I have a successful career, but I have never been able to embark on a happy journey emotionally. All this is due to a disturbing incident - I asked for a bride price of 200,000 yuan, but the blind date man proposed a marriage inspection, which I couldn't accept.
It all started a month ago, when I decided to go on a blind date at the instigation of my family. The first man I met made me look forward to the blind date. His name is Li Ming, and he is a young man who works in an IT company in the center of the city, and he looks sunny and responsible. At the first meeting on the blind date, we chatted happily, as if we had found each other's tacit understanding.
However, as the time spent together increased, I began to feel something unusual. Every time he mentions marriage, Li Ming always avoids talking about it. Until one day, he couldn't help but speak: "Xiaoling, I think we should do a marriage inspection in advance." ”
I was stunned, my mind filled with this unfamiliar word. Marriage examination?Isn't that what you should be doing in the fertility department of a hospital?I looked at him blankly, not knowing how to respond.
Li Ming saw my doubts and explained: "Actually, the marriage examination is to ensure that we are all in good physical condition so that we can have a baby in the future. ”
My eyes widened and I almost didn't laugh. This is really a novel proposal, and I silently thought to myself, "I don't want to do the marriage examination with you, isn't this forcing me to have my body checked?"”
Despite some resistance, I finally agreed so as not to seem too conservative. We went to the hospital together and had a series of tests. The doctor told us with a smile that everything was in good shape.
However, it didn't end there. When we were sitting in the waiting room of the hospital waiting for the test results, Li Ming suddenly looked at me seriously: "Xiaoling, in fact, my family has some requirements for bride price. ”
I suddenly felt suffocated, and I secretly cursed myself for being so unlucky. Bride price?Isn't that something outdated?I am self-reliant and self-reliant, and I have a successful career, so why should I be bound by these old ideas?
Li Ming looked at my expression and continued: "I know that you are an independent woman, but your family is a bit traditional, and I hope that the bride price can reflect the sincerity of our family." ”
Hearing this, I was completely furious. I am willing to go on a blind date in order to find someone who truly likes me, not to be swayed by the traditional ideas of the other person's family. So, I shook my head firmly: "Li Ming, I can't accept such conditions. I don't need a bride price to prove your sincerity, and I'm not a commodity, and I am worth it by money. ”
Li Ming looked a little embarrassed, but finally compromised. I thought the problem was solved, however, it was just a small episode, and the climax of the story was to come.
It didn't take long for Li Ming to start becoming distant. I noticed that he avoided some topics in **, and even sometimes didn't pick me up**. My curiosity about him turned to anxiety.
One day, I couldn't resist finding him and asking him what was going on. Li Ming wanted to speak and stopped, but finally told me what happened.
It turned out that the pressure on his family was too great. His parents felt that when their daughter got married, they had to make some contributions to their son's family, such as renovating the house. And this is exactly the reason why Li Ming hid it from me before, he was worried that I would object, so he never told me.
When I heard this, my heart was cold, and I felt as if I had fallen into a bottomless abyss. I thought we could face everything together, but I didn't expect the other party to choose to hide it at a critical moment. It made me lose faith in the relationship.
We eventually broke up. I was alone, sitting in front of the window staring at the neon lights of the city, filled with endless loneliness. Perhaps, there is really no perfect love in this world, only trade-offs and compromises in reality.
And this painful experience also made me cherish myself even more. I no longer ask for any extravagant bride price, and I no longer blindly believe in love. I understand that only people who truly appreciate me are worthy of my sincerity. From then on, I said goodbye to blind dates and chose to live my life quietly alone.
Perhaps, true happiness does not lie in whether to get married, but in learning to be independent and cherish yourself. This experience made me stronger and made me more aware that happiness is a state of mind that should not be swayed by external conditions.