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My name is Yuanluan, I am 30 years old, and I have been in Australia alone for 3 years.
For a girl, trying to be herself, these words sound very simple, but they are the goal of my life.
Growing up in a home without parental love taught me at a very young age that I had to rely on myself for everything.
I worked hard, got into university, got into graduate school, and went to Australia alone.
I worked as a meat peeler in a butcher factory, and I had cramps in my hands and broken my fingersI work as a quality inspector in the slaughterhouse, touching the formed baby sheep in the entrails of the sheep with my hands;I deliver at two o'clock in the morning.
I walked alone on the road of life, from a time when my Greek boyfriend, like a beam of light warmed me.
Together, we bought a 1,000-square-meter house. Today, I am an expectant mother who is more than 8 months pregnant. I'm looking forward to the future.
I was born in a small mountain village in Handan, Hebei Province. I have two older sisters and a younger brother.
My dad has been doing business out of town and is away from home for more than half of the year. Only my mother took care of our life at home.
My mother is a rural woman who has no education and does not understand education, and her education for us is free-range and does not care about us at all.
When we were a little older, Mom helped Dad with the business. Although it is a small business, the two of them are very busy.
My sister and brother and I are like children without parents and parents, acting recklessly and growing themselves.
Before I had a younger brother, I had a time when I was put up for adoption. Mom and Dad gave me to my cousin. When I was five or six years old, my dad picked me up from my cousin's house.
So I don't have a lot of contact with my parents.
I just started college) Growing up, my parents never gave me a birthday, never bought me a birthday cake, even if they made me something delicious.
When I was 13 years old, I went to junior high school in the city, and I left my parents again. I was sent to live with my aunt.
Later, I was admitted to an ordinary second book, not because I didn't do well, but because I made a mistake when I applied for volunteering.
But I think it's okay, I can go to graduate school again.
Through hard work, I was successfully admitted to a graduate school in Tianxian University.
In my second year of graduate school, I got an exchange opportunity to spend half a year at a very ordinary school in Poland.
It was my first time going abroad and my first time doing airplanes. It was this exchange trip that opened my eyes.
I was in graduate school).At that time, I took the opportunity to go around Germany and Austria around Poland, and I saw a wider world. Because of this, I came up with the idea of working abroad.
My graduate supervisor had a research project at a school in Melbourne, Australia. She asked me if I wanted to go there for a PhD. I said I wanted to work and earn money.
I checked the situation in Australia on the Internet, and the work visa is the most friendly visa for students like me who are about to graduate.
So I applied for a work visa, prepared the required documents and fees, and got the visa.
I graduated in June 2019, and in October I transferred from Hong Kong to Australia alone.
I shared a house with a few friends in a small town in Australia, the town is by the sea, it is very beautiful, but the conditions for renting a house are very poor. The house was crowded, dirty and messy, and it was inconvenient for the toilet to be outside. But in order to save money, I can accept it.
I was feeding kangaroos) The first job I got was packing meat in a butcher farm.
At that time, there were very few job postings, and it was not easy to find a job. Later, I learned that this butcher factory was a "hell factory", and the boss was very black-hearted and very unfriendly to migrant workers.
The work at the butcher mill is very hard. Our job is to peel the lamb, put it in a box, weigh it, and pack it. A box of meat weighs about 27 kilograms.
I keep doing repetitive movements every day, and my hands will wake up with pain when I sleep at night.
I've done farm work at home, and farm work is not as hard as this job, but I can bear it. There are some girls who have never done such physical work when they are so big and can't stand this suffering.
In addition to being tired, the working environment in the butcher factory was bloody and dirty, and many people gave up halfway.
With my good friends).At that time, the salary was about 4,000 dollars (equivalent to 20,000 yuan) per month, which was very good for me.
Later I broke my finger at work and injured myself. The hateful agent refused to pay compensation for work-related injuries, and I quit in a fit of rage. I was there for 5 months.
Those days were really bitter, I didn't have a job, my fingers still hurt, I didn't dare to say it to my family, I only said it to a best friend.
She felt very sorry for me and offered to lend me money, but I said no. The enthusiastic community also took good care of me and gave me a subsidy.
Although it was very bitter, I didn't shed tears, perhaps because of the lack of love since I was a child, which trained me to be resolute and strong.
As soon as the fracture healed, I contracted the coronavirus.
During that time, I was very homesick, I wanted to eat the food of my hometown, and I wanted to talk to my relatives, but who could I talk to? I can only comfort myself and strengthen myself.
and a colleague at the butcher's factory) when I got better, I went to work at a slaughterhouse.
In the slaughterhouse, there is a job as a quality inspector. This work is very important, originally they did not recruit backpackers, because the company needs to spend a lot of money to train a quality inspector, and it is necessary to pass the first assessment before the certificate can be issued.
But they couldn't recruit people during the pandemic. So, I wrote the application, passed all the assessments, and got the certificate without any problems.
This job has paid leave, sick leave, annual leave, and the salary is higher than my previous position, and there is a good salary increase every year. Last year, I earned more than 80,000 yuan (equivalent to 400,000 yuan), which is about 300,000 yuan after deducting taxes.
Slowly I got used to the job and liked it.
I will explain to you what the work of a quality inspector is to work with the resident veterinarian.
The company to which the inspector belongs is a third party between the butcher mill and the butcher, who authorizes us to inspect the meat of the butcher.
We need to test whether the sheep is diseased, whether the jaundice is high, whether there is cancer, and the sheep with these diseases cannot be eaten. Our job is to test if the lamb is safe and edible.
The requirements of the quality inspector are very strict. It is necessary to have a certain level of English proficiency, and master a lot of professional vocabulary, pathological knowledge, anatomical terms and basic biological knowledge. It is also necessary to be familiar with and understand the whole process of live sheep slaughter and dissection.
The quality inspector's job is hard. Because the butcher factory is an assembly line, how fast the assembly line is, you have to check how fast.
There are only five or six quality inspectors in the whole factory, and we have to check the internal organs of the sheep and all parts of the sheep's body in different positions, as long as it is a part that people can eat, we have to check.
Boyfriend is feeding the baby sheep) The veterinarian is our boss. I remember the first time I went to the sheepfold with the veterinarian. As we walked forward, a large flock of sheep would quickly retreat, and it was a spectacular sight that I had never seen in my life.
If you find a sheep lying down and not moving, it means that you are sick or have problems with your legs and feet, and you should do an emergency mark or further examination.
Once, a ewe gave birth to a lamb before being slaughtered. The supervisor asks if anyone wants it, and if no one adopts it, it will die.
I took the lamb home and took turns taking care of it with my boyfriend for the night, and it miraculously survived.
We went to great lengths to buy colostrum for him, and the next day he was alive and kicking.
My boyfriend and I took care of it for two days and it was so tiring. Just send it to a friend's farm. Now that it's grown, we'll have time to go over and watch it.
Deliver food with the Indonesian guy).After work, I also go to deliver takeaways. Because I just bought a car, I want to practice my driving skills, and at the same time, I want to increase some income. I deliver food at two or three o'clock in the evening, when there are very few people on the street, just in time to practice.
Once the merchant issued an order, I waited for 40 minutes, and I apologized to the customer on the platform. The customer was a very nice person, he thought I had waited for so long and was very sorry, and gave me a tip of 30 dollars (equivalent to about 150 yuan).
Although the money is not much, the heart is very warm. No matter in **, you can meet kind-hearted people, and there are still many good people in this world.
My boyfriend is like a gift from heaven.
I met him from dating apps. Living in a small town, it's hard to make friends. I signed up for dating**. If there is speculation and wants to meet, we will make an appointment to meet, go to the park, and have a cup of coffee.
He is Greek and works in Melbourne, a two-and-a-half-hour drive from the town where I live.
When I went to Melbourne for a check-up, it was our first meeting.
It's always so sweet to be with your boyfriend) I asked him at the time, "Can we meet?"."I didn't expect him to take a day off. drove the car to accompany me for a physical examination, then accompanied me to go shopping, ate together, and sent me to the station. Properly worked as a driver for a day.
The first time we met, we had a very good impression of each other.
The second time we met, my boyfriend helped me move. That time, he drove to me for two and a half hours to help me pack and organize, and he did the whole process alone. I was very touched and felt that this boyfriend was very reliable.
Then on Christmas Day, I was on a business trip to another town.
I was so busy that day that I didn't even bother to eat. He drove for 3 hours and brought me my favorite Indian curry, chicken rice, and cherries. At that time, I was very moved.
From that day on, we decided to be together.
My boyfriend dotes on me a lot).Later, he quit his old job and moved to my small town to drive a forklift at the butcher mill where I worked. So that we can get along day and night.
We often work night shifts because of the night shift allowance. We want to make more money and pay off our mortgage as soon as possible. In the future, I plan to live in another city or another country.
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than two years and are still as sweet as we were when we first fell in love.
Every morning when I woke up, he would kiss me, and every night I snuggled into his arms and slept sweetly with his good night blessings.
He was a very meticulous person who would keep the cupboards in order, sort things into categories, organize them for me, and tell me.
Boyfriend is studying XiChinese).I used to say that I don't like to eat the top and bottom slice of bread because of the roasted edges. He remembered, and each time he ate the first and last slice.
When I went to the supermarket to shop, he carried everything and never let me carry it.
However, after all, we come from different growth environments, and we will quarrel because of some differences in philosophy.
Every time I would say harsh things and say things that were hard to hear. And he can understand me and be considerate of me from my point of view. He would say to me, "Growing up, no one cared about you, no one planned for you, and you should be selfish." "Gradually, I became less temperamental.
This boyfriend who fell from the sky was like my psychiatrist, channeling my suppressed emotions for many years.
The factory electrician's grandfather made a small train in his yard, which can really be ridden on) After we were together, he always enlightened me: "At that time you were a child and didn't know what happened, but now that you are older, you can try to talk to your parents about the past and find out why it was at that timeOnly by daring to face it can we be relieved. ”
He grew up in a loving and warm home. He knows how to love the people around him. He passed that warmth and love to me. And I have lacked love since I was a child, and I need someone to love me. So emotionally, the two of us complement each other very well.
My boyfriend didn't save money before. After we got together, I said I wanted to buy a house. He said that in the past there was no goal, no plan, and now he has.
We save money together. Except for eating, I basically don't buy clothes. When I buy him clothes, he always says, I have clothes to wear, I don't need to buy them.
Christmas with my boyfriend's family).The two of us have a common account, and the money we earn is stored in this account, and we are quite happy to see the money in the account grow.
We saved money for 10 months and paid a down payment of $100,000 (equivalent to about 500,000 RMB) to buy a house.
We bought an old house, but the area is large, 1000 square meters, two bathrooms and four bedrooms.
I rented three of the apartments to a colleague in the factory, and the rent of the house alone was enough to pay off the mortgage. Combined with the income from both of our jobs, life is still very easy.
In order to welcome the birth of the baby, we have to repair and renovate the old house.
Repairing the roof, changing the floor, tidying up the yard, pressing the solar panels, etc., are all done by the boyfriend little by little. Because the cost of hiring someone is too expensive.
After I got pregnant, I have been at work, and I have no rest when I have a fever and cold, so I want to spend more time and take maternity leave to spend more time with my child.
Originally, my boyfriend and I were going to go back to China this year to meet my parents and discuss marriage, but because I was pregnant, all plans had to be postponed. After giving birth to a baby, go to Greece or return to China for a make-up wedding.
Although we have not yet obtained a marriage certificate, we have a cohabitation certificate, a cohabitation certificate in Australia, and a marriage certificate has the same legal effect.
We never thought about parting, and our love for each other couldn't be more unwavering.
Both parents ** met.
For more conservative Chinese parents, most of them want to find a Chinese partner. After learning that he was kind to me, my mother said to me, "I am happy for you, and you will be happy." ”
It was such a simple sentence, I heard it from my mother's mouth for the first time, and I didn't cry easily, and my tears fell from the ground.
I was 32 weeks pregnant) His parents were very open, happy with me and very good. He often sent me some food and things to use, and prepared a lot of small clothes and quilts for the unborn baby.
This is the first grandson of the family and the first great-grandson of his grandparents, so the family is very excited and looking forward to the birth of the baby.
When I was about to give birth, his mother would come to Australia to take care of me.
His aunt and uncle were in Melbourne and wanted me to give birth at the best hospital in Melbourne. After a while, we will move to his uncle and aunt's house.
After the baby is born, we will continue to work here, and when the mortgage on the house is paid off, we will consider whether to move to Melbourne or another country in Europe.
With my boyfriend, full of security) Before I went abroad, going abroad was a fantasy for me, and I felt that it should be affordable for rich people.
Now, with hard work, I will be able to get my green card in another year. When I get my green card, I want to study again, study a major I like, and change to a different field.
Haruki Murakami once said, "Limited goals can make life simple." ”
Along the way, I found more and more that having a goal was too important. No matter how humble this goal is, it can be a spiritual pillar on your growth path and drive us forward.
Our life is so long and so short. Just start, you will eventually reap the rewards.
Editor: Mint].
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