Wang Bo once wrote in the "Preface to the Pavilion of King Teng":
"The shadow of Xianyuntan is long, and things change and the stars move a few degrees in autumn. Where is the emperor in the cabinet now?The Yangtze River outside the threshold is empty and artesian. ”
Everything in this world is changing all the time, and the "initiator" of all this is time.
It is precisely because of the passage of time that the sun rises and the moon sets, the four seasons change, and our lives have birth, old age, sickness and death.
In the blink of an eye, most of this life has passed, and the prosperity and glory of the past have become a cloud of smoke and will never reappear.
When we are in the prime of life, our lives always revolve around our families and children, and we seem to never stop.
It wasn't until I retired that I realized that life was for myself after all, and taking care of myself was the only thing I had to do for the rest of my life.
Be your own parents and take care of yourself
When we were still in infancy, our parents were our own heaven and earth, and they took care of and raised us meticulously.
In the family they gave them, we felt the warmth of family affection and the comfort of family, thinking that we could do it for the rest of our lives.
But as I get older, I am slowly growing up, and my parents are gradually aging, and they can no longer shelter themselves from the wind and rain.
Even if you have a thousand reluctances, reality will urge you to be independent, after all, it is impossible for your parents to accompany you for a lifetime.
After starting a family, he also formed a new family, and in addition to the identity of his children, he also had the responsibilities and obligations of parents.
The years have passed in a hurry, and finally I have reached the age when I should retire, and the wrinkles of old age are born on my face, and I am no longer without youthful vitality.
People at this age always hold the idea of "raising children to prevent old age", and expect their children to do their filial piety to themselves as people wish.
But the cold reality tells me that my children are either busy with their own lives, and they want to tie the grass ring but can't do it.
Either they have no such intentions at all, and just want to live a selfish, carefree and leisurely life, leaving their broken selves aside.
Parents are no longer by their side, and children can't all be counted on, and the only person who can really take care of themselves is themselves.
As Leung Fung Yee said:"Taking care of yourself is true, if you don't take care of yourself, no one can save you. ”
Therefore, while you can still take care of yourself, take care of yourself more, and don't lose the most important health, so that you can be fearless in the future.
Be your friend and be there for yourself
In our lives, we will meet countless people, and we will also meet and fellowship with many of them and become confidants and friends.
But the cruel thing is that the road of life is often getting narrower and narrower, and no matter how close your best friends are, you can't go all the way together.
At a certain intersection, there will always be people who choose a different path from themselves, and after countless screenings, they will eventually become alone.
There will be as many times as there are encounters, there will be as many times as there are partings, this is an eternal truth, and I can't change it and I can't control it.
Moreover, the more people reach the age of old age and infirmity, the more clearly they will recognize their insignificance, and the more lonely they will feel.
That's right, loneliness is the most authentic way of life, no one will stay by their side forever, they are the most loyal friends.
Li Bai, the most famous poet of the Tang Dynasty, was brilliant since he was a child, read poetry and books, and can be described as a rare genius in the literary world in a century.
He is righteous and bold, likes to make friends, has traveled all over the world to pay homage to celebrities, and has a very good relationship with Du Fu, He Zhizhang, Meng Haoran and others.
When he was an official in Chang'an, he was favored by Tang Xuanzong because of his outstanding literary talents, and was named Hanlin, living a happy life of poetry and wine.
But this chic did not last long, and soon he left Chang'an due to officialdom frustration, and said goodbye to his friends one by one.
In this life, there are always some roads that need to be walked by oneself;There are always some moods that can only be experienced by yourself.
All people are passers-by in their own lives, and only they are the eternal protagonists, and they don't have to be shrried.
Be your own teacher and improve yourself
Many people feel that when a person reaches the age of dying, he is already derailed from this era, and it is difficult to keep up.
It is actually normal to have such thoughts, after all, the development of science and technology and the progress of society are far faster than imagined.
Many elderly people have begun to shrink because they can't keep up with the times, and they are afraid to have more contact with the outside world.
It is precisely because of this blockage that I let myself draw the ground as a prison, firmly in place, and slowly wait for the decay to come.
But in reality, as long as you are still passionate and willing to spend time and energy to learn, many things are actually not that complicated.
When you get rid of the declining heart that you have, boldly try new content, and truly become your own teacher, you will be able to see how deep your potential is.
Do you still remember many years ago, Wang Shunde, the "fiercest old man in China" who became popular because he walked the catwalk bare-chested?
At that time, his beard was white, and although he was 79 years old, he was still full of tendons and flesh, full of vitality and enthusiasm.
He never stopped learning throughout his life, and at a young age he was passionate about theater performance, and at one point brought his pantomime to the world stage.
Later, 85-year-old Wang Shunde also learned how to fly an airplane, and successfully flew a test flight over Beijing, becoming the oldest pilot in China.
Han Yu once said:"There is a diligent path in the book mountain, and there is no end to the hard work of learning the sea. ”
Life is a process of continuous learning and accumulation, and even after retirement, you can still fill your life with learning.
I agree with Master Nebula's words:
"When you are a teenager, you have to fix yourself;When you are young, you should face yourself;In the prime of life, enlarge yourself;When you are old, you should complete yourself".
If there is a dividing line in life, then before and after retirement is the best dividing point.
Before we retire, we were rarely willful because we played the role of ourselves in the eyes of others, and most of the time we were conscientious.
After retirement, we have less pressure to survive, start to enjoy life, and put ourselves more and more first.
Take care of your body, warm your soul, and live your life to the fullest.
In this way, in order to live up to the debt, live up to the affection, the green mountains are still there, several sunsets red, the rest of your life is not long, please take care of yourself.