It is not uncommon for relatives to borrow money, especially ifEconomyDifficult times. In the past, in the countrysidelifeof people often feel distressed by lack of funds, and borrowing money from relatives becomes their first choice to solve the problem. However, in the process of borrowing money, some relatives take advantage of their wealth, on the one hand, they lend money to relatives, and on the other hand, they charge high amountsInterest。If a relative is unable to repay the loan, the borrower is likely to turn his face away from him. There are also some relatives, although willing to lend you money, butDebtBut it accumulates more and more, and pursues it with interestDebtand will even take your property as collateral. Borrowing money is a virtue for the rich to help the poor, but without principles, this behavior becomes "encouraging the loser". Although most relatives will not lend you money easily, even if you have generous relatives, be wary of their demands and purposes.
Gossip and discussion among relatives has always been a headache. As a hot topic in social situations, various issues such as family, work, and relationships may become the focus of discussion among relatives. Especially when your decisions and actions are not in line with your relatives' opinions, they will often make some "picky" statements in the name of caring about you. This kind of over-focused behavior can make people feel stressed, lose self-confidence, and even have an inferiority complex. Everyone'slifeThe way and ideology are different, and relatives should respect everyone's choice, and not rely on so-called care to point fingers. In this case, we need to remain calm and stick to our principles and reject any words and actions that cross the line.
The powerful in the family often use their wealth and power to control their relatives and even use them to work for themselves. Some relatives own factories, hotels, farms, etc., and need to hire workers on a permanent basis. They may pull you to work, seemingly giving you a chance, but in fact they are prone to many conflicts. For example, some relatives may use feelings to limit your salary and benefits. You may find that your workload and effort are not proportional to your pay. Faced with this situation, you should insist on your rights and interests and not be blinded by the emotional cards of your relatives. The purpose of part-time work is to make money, and you have the right to demand reasonable pay and treatment. If relatives can't offer fair terms, you should consider looking for other job opportunities instead of giving too much for the sake of affection.
Relatives often ask you to accompany guests when they are entertaining, which makes the atmosphere more lively and satisfying the guests. However, this act of accompanying guests often leads people into a drinking banquet, which makes people need to constantly push and change glasses and toast each other with the guests, making the atmosphere more lively. For a lot of people, it's monotonous to have only a few people drinking together, and if more people are involved, not only will it increase the topic of conversation, but it will also be easier to keep guests satisfied. However, in the process of accompanying guests, you are often arranged to sit in the most inconspicuous position and are asked to take the initiative to please the guest sitting in the main seat.
If you don't actively participate and don't drink a few more drinks, it may be considered a face-saving displeasure and upset the person who invited you to dinner. The purpose of the chaperones is to make the feast more lively, not to get drunk or please others. If your family conditions allow, it is better to choose to eat at home rather than attend a "distinguished dinner" at a relative's house. The attention of relatives to you is often conditional, and when your family is developed, relatives will seek your interests in many ways; And when your family is not as good as it used to be, they may gradually move away from you. Relationships between relatives should be based on mutual respect and genuine concern, rather than being centered on interests. If the concern of your relatives turns into a disservice to you, you should learn to protect yourself and avoid falling into their trap.