01 Basic information
I am male, born in 88, the only child, is now a department-level cadre of a municipal unit, and his parents are retired employees of a unit in this city.
My target is a daughter, born in 93, and has a younger brother (university student) at home, who is now a deputy section-level cadre in a municipal unit in this province and the same city, and her parents are both working in the family farm.
In 2018, friends had dinner and we met.
After 4 years of long-distance love, in 2022, we will get married.
In 2023, we are about to welcome the crystallization of our love.
02 encountered a split leg and didn't dare to believe in love anymore
In 2009, a year after graduating from college, my grandfather passed away, and a few days after my grandfather's death, I inadvertently found out that my ex-girlfriend was "Aquaman", and while being with me, I also opened a fish pond on the Internet and raised a lot of fish.
At that moment, I was still immersed in the pain of the departure of my loved ones, and my heart was like a knife, and I immediately proposed to break up.
On the day of the breakup, I stood on the balcony and watched her get into someone else's car with tears in my eyes, and I also remembered the last WeChat message she sent, which will only be staged in a TV series:You don't even have bread and still want love?
I was unemployed for just a few months, and I began to reflect, began to feel sorry for myself, and complained about others: this period lasted more than 3 years, and we who had made a vow and made a mountain alliance and loved us to death, so that I gave almost all my love and preferred her to be the only pet, but she was such an existence?How could we end up with such an ending?The only clown in the world is myself?!
It turns out that all the sweet words of the two people were just rhetoric, and one person's other plans were just other things. When I thought of this, I felt very uncomfortable in my heart, and even had thoughts of suicide several times.
Fortunately, a few good brothers dissuaded me in time and accompanied me through those dark days, which didn't let me do stupid things.
Since then, I no longer believe in love, I feel that all love in the world is fake, and I will never be moved by anyone anymore......
03 I am often pulled to dinners
After the breakup, I returned to work in the city and was admitted to the civil service of the municipal unit. My single status is clear to my uncles and sisters in the unit, and I am not bad in terms of height, appearance or manners, and they often enthusiastically want to introduce girls to me, intentionally or unintentionally. In particular, my family and brothers know my knots, they see it in their eyes and are anxious in their hearts.
Everyone around me is trying to help me find good girls and destined people, take me to various parties, and want me to realize that there are still good girls in this world as soon as possible, and then get out of that failed relationship as soon as possible......
With the unremitting efforts of my relatives and friends, at the beginning of 2018, my wife (who was still a stranger at the time) appeared on the scene.
To be honest, I was a bit of a face control, and when I saw her for the first time, I found that she didn't impress me in terms of height, appearance or conversation. At the party, she always eats without scruples, muttering something in a voice that others can't hear clearly, and at the same time silently listening to others chatting, and she is also very stupid, she often can't answer when she speaks, it seems that her head can't turn around, and she is often and non-accidentally cold.
I also like to eat, and I eat without any scruples, haha......
Once or twice. Many times, she behaved the same. Once, it happened that her seat was arranged next to me, and I was not interested in the live chat, and I kept looking curiously at her as she kept eating. As she picked up the last rib in the basin, she seemed to notice my strange behavior and paused to put the ribs in the bowl. Then suddenly I seemed to think of something, and slowly sent the ribs to my bowl, pouting movements, and extremely reluctant expressions in my eyes, this set of operations can make me stunned. I hurriedly waved my hand and said, I don't eat, you eat. As if worried that I would regret it, she hurriedly put the ribs in her mouth and tasted them to her heart's content.
Maybe I am used to seeing the hypocrisy, artificiality, and pretense of many people, but when such a natural, pollution-free, and true person sits in front of me, I say to myself: Although the person in front of me looks silly and stupid, he is very stupid and cute.
Looking at her extremely satisfied expression, that is, at that moment, I realized that I had a little heart for her, and I thought that I might have begun to believe in love again......
Maybe it's because I've experienced "being scummed", so when I see the truth of her, especially the appearance of the one she likes to eat, I feel very good.
So, we have a follow-up ......
04 How cute and stupid my wife is
She worked in the municipal unit, 93 years old, last year (30 years old) to solve the deputy department (three masters), and she is only a department staff. It can be seen from this how ordinary she is in terms of work, and she is a stupid cute person to define by my consistent evaluation of her.
At work, how stupid is she?In her own words, many people around her have no way to do anything about her, and they completely regard her as a kind of "stupid" person who gives up. (However, she is the most popular and favored one in the entire unit).
The leader asked her to be the head of the department, but she was unwilling, saying that she was incapable, and she could only do the work in her hands. After many times, the leaders of her unit gave up saving her, and they never persuaded her again. As a result, she has been almost standing still for 9 years.
Those who joined the company with him were all promoted to section chiefs, and some even went to any of the townships and towns, but she was the only one who was still an inconspicuous third ......
Others are even more convinced that she is "stupid".
Over the years, she has always been indisputable in front of her interests, and her leaders in charge, section chiefs, and even the juniors who joined later than herself have adjusted their positions and promoted them one by one, and only my wife has been sticking to her position ......
In comparison, her "stupidity" was even more brought out. She herself said: A person like her, even if she travels back to ancient times, she won't survive more than two episodes in the palace fight. I took her words and said, I guess half the episode will be gone. The two of them immediately burst into laughter, happy to think about it.
But she is such a simple person, in family life and daily life, but I see a very cute, very warm, and very precious side: she is very stupid, never lies, fights, and plays tricks, at least, she is single-minded to her family, her parents, and me, which makes me feel very secure.
Because, she is the kind of person you can trust her completely.
In addition to the sense of security, there is also her meticulous care and companionship, which makes me live a very down-to-earth and contented life.
If God closes one window for you, it will surely open another window for you. Although she is far inferior to others in terms of sleek life, and even fails, her true feelings and sincerity are incomparable to anything else.
Everyone's ideas and pursuits are different, and these precious qualities, in my eyes, are the shining points and the points that I am constantly impressed.
05 Personal insights
"Stupid cute", describing people as stupid and cute, stupid to the depths of natural cuteness, because stupid so cute, but it is the existence of this stupidity that attracts people. I think it's the best word to describe my wife. Although she doesn't have good family conditions and her own conditions, she can't bring me some help in terms of career development and material enjoyment, but that stupidity, sincerity, and reality are extremely valuable.
Perhaps, many people are more willing to change their fate through marriage, be promoted, get rich, or go to the peak of life.
And my marriage only has firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, one house, three meals for two people, four seasons, but I am very content.
After all, money, fame and fortune are all things outside the body, and only the inner steadfastness, sense of security, and spiritual companionship are the most valuable.
I am honored to have this value at such a young age.
At the end of the article, I also want to give you some advice for unmarried friends, I hope it will be helpful to you:
In the face of marriage, finding the right person is more important than finding someone who is rich, powerful and well-built. Who to marry is a lifelong decision, and you must consider it carefully, especially the character of your future partner, and you can't be impulsive for a while and regret it for a lifetime.
Needless to say, my stupid wife asked me to go to the kitchen to study new dishes together, bye-bye. Hahaha......
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