Intensive Reading Jun has been with you for 3,726 days, and the number of entries in the general dictionary has reached 2,062. However, even Tao Yong, an ophthalmologist who is very technically excellent and has impeccable character and medical ethics, suffered the tragedy of being cut by a patient and causing his left hand to remain disabled, and he became a victim of cyberbullying. On December 23, Tao Yong's 12-year-old daughter celebrated her birthday, and he wrote a small essay on Weibo, mentioning that his daughter did not cooperate with the photo, had a bad temper, and was unwilling to even pose or compare her heart. Tao Yong attributed this behavior to the transformation from "lady to witch", and accompanied it with a "birthday photo" taken by his daughter reluctantly and with a black face.
However, what really angered netizens was not Tao Yong's evaluation of his daughter's photo, but his practice of letting his daughter wash the dishes after dinner. He wrote in the article: "For my father, I knew it with affection, moved it with reason, quoted from the side, quoted scriptures, and finally invited her out of the room and washed the dishes and chopsticks." At the fork in the road between becoming a witch and a lady, my father didn't dare to slack off at all, and I was honestly afraid, and the little thing in the brain structure, once the obedient circuit was formed, the format could not be cleared. Tao Yong originally just wanted to share the child's situation, but was criticized by a large number of netizens. Netizens think that Tao Yong's education of his daughter is too "daddy". They questioned why a 12-year-old child was called a "witch" if he didn't cooperate with the photoWhy do children still ask them to serve their families, pick up vegetables and wash dishes for adults when they celebrate their birthdays?
Why do they use old and sour "ladylike speech" to educate their children?Some even insulted Tao Yong and cursed him to be hacked to death next time. In the face of these insults, Tao Yong had to delete the Weibo post. After learning the truth of the incident, I was full of emotion - in the Internet era, a person's worship and destruction turned out to be only in an instant!The idol who was willing to pay for the operation of a poor patient, and who was gentle and kind even after suffering great misfortune, seemed to disappear overnight. Sure enough, no one can be immune to this network environment, no one can be immune to this network environment. In order to calm down **, perhaps hoping to clarify the rumors and resolve the misunderstanding, Tao Yong published a long article on the Internet again yesterday to respond to this incident.
He said that he originally wanted his daughter to learn to take more responsibility and have the ability to take care of herself and others, but he ignored the feelings of the little birthday star. It is not appropriate to create a so-called "sense of growth ritual" on the child's birthday. The child is seriously reflecting on his own behavior. The remarks in Tao Yong's essay on his daughter's birthday are not entirely without problems. The child is 12 years old and is in a period of rapid expansion of his own thinking. When Tao Yong asked his children, he did not empathize: when he was happy to 12th birthday, would he want to be nagged by his parents, and even ask to wash the dishes?Tao Yong did not do a good job of empathizing with and understanding children. But what we see must be facts and truth?Or or. Tao Yong alone is not good enough, should he be cyberbullied?
Who isn't a co-existent of strengths and weaknesses?Those netizens who "like to make gods, and prefer to destroy gods", how many can guarantee that they are absolutely perfect and have no flaws?Isn't it too hasty to nail a person to a pillar of shame with just one small essay?Under the magnifying glass of the Internet, no one seems to be able to escape harsh criticism and judgment. Especially public figures, when it is good, it is good and it is good, and it is a little bit inconsistent with public expectations, so netizens will go online. The example of the beautiful journalist Wang Bingbing is very typical. At first, she won countless fans with her "first love face" and excellent professional ability. And when someone picked up her suspected "black history" such as having taken the English level 4 test twice, and living with her boyfriend before she got married, the people who used to praise her suddenly changed their faces and began to scold in the message area.
Since then, she has slowly disappeared from public view. In the Internet era, the speed of creating and destroying gods is really not something that ordinary people like us can understand. In the article, psychological counselor Wu Zhihong mentioned a word - "should**" refers to a series of demanding and demanding idealized expectations projected by the outside world on a person.
Including: what he should do, how to do it, who to be, and a series of "requirements", such as honesty, generosity, justice, bravery, selflessness;He should be the perfect lover, the perfect husband, the perfect teacher, ......And what he should not do and who he becomes, a series of "taboos", such as focusing outside of his career, not falling in love, and not having any bad habits, such as smoking, drinking, ......Only when he does it all, will he be accepted, liked, and recognized;Once you can't do it partially, you will be hated, ostracized and even cyberbullied. This phenomenon is especially evident in a public figure. But in fact. Ask others "he should ......."He shouldn't ......Such criticism is often an idealized expectation of others from the outside world, but it is actually unrealistic.
This approach completely ignores the fact that the accused person is a living individual with his or her own thoughts and needs. After all, who can do it without fault?Take, for example, the business wizard Steve Jobs, who, despite his great success in his career, remained elusive in his personality and private life. However, we cannot deny the achievements of Steve Jobs in the professional field just because they were "imperfect" in personal terms, or Tao Yong's "shortcomings" in parenting. Human energy is limited, and putting energy into one aspect will inevitably ignore others, therefore, for an idol in a professional field, we should affirm his achievements in the professional field, and at the same time be more tolerant and understanding in the non-professional field, which is a kind and noble attitude.
Here's a story full of allegory: a master on his deathbed wanted to choose an heir, so he asked two apprentices to go to the woods to find the perfect leaf. The big apprentice didn't find the perfect one, and only brought back a relatively intact leaf. The second apprentice had been looking for the perfect leaves, and wandered around the woods for most of the day, but found nothing. The master didn't say much, but passed the mantle to the big apprentice. Why is this so?Because there is no such thing as a perfect leaf, it is a low performance to overly pursue the flaws of things. The same is true of people, you and I are mortal, everyone has flaws, and it is extremely uncivilized and immoral to demand perfection from others. Perfection can be an ideal, but it is not a rule. We should be as tolerant as possible towards every ordinary person around us.