The partner broke up after two days, and the aunt had four rooms in the house, so she had to sleep in one room with me, and the uncle could really pretend
When the two are together, the most important thing is whether they are compatible with each other. Some people yearn for freedom, others are willing to rely on each other, and this difference creates complementarity between partners. At first, there may be a short-term happiness when you don't know each other, but over time, if you don't get to know each other well before the relationship begins, it becomes difficult to maintain the relationship.
Aunt Tao is 61 years old this year, and she met 69-year-old Uncle Zhang through introduction, and the two soon established a relationship. Uncle Zhang tried his best to persuade his aunt to move in with him, and although he was reluctant, he finally agreed. However, only two days later, the aunt proposed to break up, because she couldn't stand Uncle Zhang's bottomless behavior. Uncle Zhang also blamed the aunt for pretending, which caused the relationship between the two to be in jeopardy.
61-year-old Aunt Tao wrote down her own thoughts: Because Lao Zhang kept urging me to go and live, and even threatened to break up if I didn't go. For the sake of this relationship, I finally decided to pack up and move into his house. However, to my surprise, as soon as I moved in, he wanted to squeeze into a room with me without permission. He has four empty rooms in his house, so why do you have to crowd with me?I made a suggestion for him to go out, only to be ridiculed by him that I was pretending, which really made me angry.
It's been almost 5 years since my wife passed away, and I've been living alone in the old house for the past 5 years. My children are working outside the home and rarely come back to see me. The relatives and friends around him, the old and old, are scattered, and there are only a few people who can be contacted, and most of them don't even have news.
I've always liked to be alone, and I'm a bit introverted. At first, I didn't think there was anything wrong with it, but I enjoyed the loneliness, and unlike other old people, I didn't have so many troubles. The life of a person is quite peaceful.
However, as time went on, my body became worse and worse, and my mental state was not as good as before. In this case, solitude is no longer a pleasure, but a heavy burden. One morning, I got up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet, and just walked to the living room, I suddenly felt a wave of dizziness, and I fell to the ground at once, and I couldn't get up again.
At that time, I was frightened, I was so panicked that I wanted to hit my son **. But the phone is not around, and now in the middle of the night, can my son receive my **?Even if he received it, he lived dozens of kilometers away, and he didn't have time to rush back. Lying on the ground for a while, I was thinking about a lot of things, I was so scared that I really didn't know what to do.
I lay on the ground and slowed down for a while, and finally got up. After going to the bathroom, I staggered back to bed and lay down for a long time before I could recover a little. The next day, I rushed to the hospital for a check-up, and the doctor said that there was no big problem, just don't be in such a hurry next time you get up, and take your time.
It's not a big deal, but I have lingering palpitations. What if I'm sick and there's no one at home?The fear of loneliness surrounded me like a shadow for a long time. I don't think I can live alone anymore, I'm only in my 60s, and if I live another 20 years, I can't live without a partner.
So, I found a friend and helped me find a partner again. After a few blind dates, I met Lao Zhang. Lao Zhang is 69 years old, although he is old, he is very energetic. A head of silver hair that glistens in the sunlight, and a voice that is low and magnetic when he speaks. What intoxicated me even more was Lao Zhang's personality, he was not like me, he was both introverted and liked to be alone. He is the kind of man who is full of energy and likes to make friends and never sit idle.
It is often said that it is best to find a partner with the opposite personality, so that they complement each other and are beneficial to both parties. Because of this, I agreed to get along with Lao Zhang for a while without hesitation, completely ignoring our eight-year age gap, as well as the inconsistency of personality, concepts and other aspects.
In the first time together, we both had a great time, going to the park, watching a movie, and even traveling together, specifically choosing the attractions that required a lot of effort, and I exercised with him. In half a month, I lost about 4 pounds and looked healthier.
Although it was a pleasant time, life was dull after all, and you can't always play like this all day. The frequency of the tour was so high that we both decided to take a break for a while. I need to get a good rest because I feel physically and mentally exhausted from all day traveling. However, Lao Zhang always couldn't calm down, and asked me to go to the park for a while, and asked me to go square dancing for a while, and refused to stop for a moment. I was really disgusted by his noise. Although I have told him many times that I need to rest and cannot go out, he always pushes me to do so. If I don't go, he'll be taunting in a weird way, which makes people feel bad.
It was only at this point that I finally sensed that there was something wrong with both of our personalities. He likes to be lively, while I prefer tranquility. Perhaps, such a very different personality may not be the most suitable match. Still, considering that we've been together for quite some time, even if it doesn't feel like a good match, I'd like to give us some more time, after all, it's not wise to give up on a relationship easily.
Therefore, I chose to continue to be patient and hope to be able to spend some more time with him. However, as time went by, I gradually discovered that although he was very mental, he also had an irritable temper. When he is in a bad mood, he will lose his temper indiscriminately and speak at every turn**.
I remember one time, we were shopping together, and there were two lines in front of the counter, we were on one side and a young man was on the other side. Somehow, the team on his side went faster. When the lad was checking out with us, he suddenly got angry and shouted, "Get out of line behind me." The young man did not pay attention, but he immediately handed the fruit to the cashier and said aggressively: "Hurry up, count mine first." ”
After the incident, he left satisfied. Although it is only a small thing, I believe that the details reflect a person's character. How could he be so rude and speak so badly to a stranger?And after he finished yelling, his face was full of pride, as if he was very remarkable. I was very disgusted by this kind of behavior, uncivilized, like a barbarian.
Thankfully, despite his bad temper, at least he didn't lose his temper with me, but rather treated me well. That's one of the reasons I've always wanted to be with him. However, in addition to his bad temper, he also seems to be stingy, or too direct. In short, he wasn't that nice to me.
During the Chinese New Year, I spent time at my son's house, and he went to his son's house. Although we can't see each other for a while, I've been thinking about him and bought him a scarf and plan to give it to him as a New Year's gift. When we met again, I handed him the scarf, but he gave me nothing. Actually, I didn't mean to ask for anything, I just felt that he didn't seem to take me to heart. Even though this scarf is not expensive, it is a heartfelt gift after all. He didn't say anything, maybe it was a bit of a fuss, but it left a mark on my heart.
It's been about five or six months since we met last year. Lao Zhang desperately wanted me to move in with him. He said that it will take time to adapt to each other, and it has been half a year, and there should be a result. Although he repeatedly asked me to move in, he said almost all the good things, arranged the housework, divided half of the pension, and so on. After many rejections, he finally said that if I didn't agree to move in, I would just break up and not be together again.
Hearing this, I thought about it and thought maybe I should give us a chance, after all, despite his many shortcomings, it was okay for me. The promise of arranging household chores and half of the pension he talked about also made me think it was worth considering. Although we don't get along perfectly, after all, we've been together for so long, and I don't want to give up this relationship easily because of some knots.
When I decided to move into his house, I was looking forward to it. However, when it came time to carry the luggage, he only chose the light and small items, leaving the heavy and large ones for me, although they were all my things, but this made me feel very unhappy. After moving, he sat down on the couch and complained about how tired he was. It was really hard for me to see him like that.
His home was spacious, with four rooms, and I chose one of them to live in. I was already tired that day and wanted to take a break, planning to clean up the other rooms the next day. Just as I was getting ready to go to bed, he burst in, smiling and grinning with the quilt, without even knocking on the door.
As soon as I saw him, I was angry and told him that I was tired, wanted to rest, and wanted to sleep in their own rooms. But he didn't agree and wanted to squeeze a room with me. This made me angry, and I said, "There are four rooms in the house, and you have to squeeze in with me, what's the matter with you?".”
After I said this, he also got angry, stared at me and said, "Isn't it just to live with my wife?"I replied, "Who is your wife, we haven't got a certificate." His expression changed quickly, and then he picked up the cup next to him and threw it at me, and scolded: "I really know how to act." Then he left angrily.
I endured it all night and moved out the next day and broke up. He didn't pester me, but not because he was kind, but because my son was a boxer and he knew what would happen if he provoked me. As soon as I left, I blocked all of his ***s. I have to be careful, I have to be extra cautious when looking for a partner in the future, I can't meet such a person again.