"A 63-year-old aunt has plastic surgery to become a 38-year-old**, and she deceived 2.7 billion yuan to raise many small fresh meat": details**
This "legendary" aunt is in the spotlight in Japan:
From the age of 30, she used various means to move between multiple men, cheating on feelings and money;
After the age of 40, with the huge wealth obtained from plastic surgery and fraud, he began to maintain a luxurious lifestyle with young Xiao Xianrou.
However, this extravagant emotion and life came to an abrupt end at the age of 63.
She was caught. This is her story.
This aunt's name is Setsuko Yamabe.
Despite the legend of her life, her family of origin was quite ordinary: her father worked for a bus company and her mother was a housewife.
Growing up in an ordinary family, Setsuko Yamabe got married at the age of 19.
Her husband is an ordinary auto parts factory worker. Soon after they got married, they welcomed a son and a daughter, and lived an ordinary but sweet family life.
Setsuko Yamabe doesn't seem to be satisfied with the ordinary. When she was 30 years old, she decided to leave her husband and pursue the life she wanted.
Anyone who knows Setsuko Yamabe knows that in her girlhood, there was already an amazing attraction to the opposite sex. This has not changed since the divorce. To satisfy the vanity and satisfaction of her heart:
She frequently appears on the golf course, using her feminine charm and coquettishness to attract the men she likes
Categorizing and analyzing in detail the men she fancies;
Finally, according to each man's preferences, change yourself into the ideal look of the other person, and grab their attention at first glance;
Even if she is not a natural beauty, Setsuko Yamabe has successfully moved between high-quality men with her well-designed means, gaining not only love, but also financial support.
Setsuko Yamabe didn't expect that her attraction to the opposite sex would also decline.
She found that a rich president who used to spend money on her had changed his mind and found a new love. This new love is young and beautiful, which makes Setsuko Yamabe angry, and she also admits that she has no advantage over the other party. However, she did not get discouraged or have low self-esteem, but simply changed the way she pursued men - from the outside to the inside.
She began to write poems for the man she liked, some warm and sweet verses:
I miss it, I want to listen, I hold the microphone in my hand, and squat. ”
Although our poems cannot be understood, those who receive them feel the sweetness contained in them.
Sure enough, the president changed his mind.
Setsuko Yamabe didn't care about that.
Over the years, she has accumulated a lot of money and has a wide range of contacts. Just as she has upgraded her flirtatious methods again and again, she also has a new expectation for the needs of life: no longer bothering to please men, but wanting others to please her.
At the age of 47, Setsuko Yamabe built a "Princess Hall Mansion" in her hometown and lived with her mother.
Since then, life for her and her family has been anything but ordinary.
Just like in the TV series, Setsuko Yamabe always drives luxury cars and wears expensive luxury ...... when she travels with her family
But the only fly in the ointment is that despite the money, youth no longer exists.
So, Setsuko Yamabe began to think about plastic surgery. She spent 8 million yen on plastic surgery and ** surgery, and after the surgery, she looked more than ten years younger.
However, this was not enough for her, and she also longed to have a young body.
Whether it's the former or the latter, it's easy to do with money.
Setsuko Yamabe, who claimed to be only 38 years old, began to frequent the "Cowherd Shop", spending as much as 200,000 yuan each time.
Setsuko Yamabe lived an enviable life that lasted until she was 51 years old.
In this year, due to excessive consumption and vouching for friends, Setsuko Yamabe accumulated a huge amount of debt, and in desperation, she had to declare bankruptcy.
But as we all know, it is easy to go from thrift to luxury, and it is difficult to go from luxury to frugality. People who have become Xi to a luxurious life have difficulty adapting to ordinary life, and Setsuko Yamabe is no exception.
In 2011, Setsuko Yamabe, who was 56 years old, switched from emotional fraud to criminal fraud for the sake of money. With her skillful acting skills, she has managed to gain the trust of others.
Standing at the top of the pyramid, the deceiver stands at the bottom of the pyramid, giving her money while being satisfied that she has found a way to invest with high returns.
With these illegally obtained money, Setsuko Yamabe, who has always stayed at the age of "38", continues to live a life of drunkenness and money obsessiveness and support for young men.
But as the saying goes, Skynet is magnificent and sparse.
No matter how smart and cunning Setsuko Yamabe is, she can't escape the pursuit of the law.
Sensing the rumors, Setsuko Yamabe began her career as a fugitive.
I have to admit that Setsuko Yamabe's psychological endurance is extremely strong. During the escape, she not only did not panic, but also did not show a trace of embarrassment, but continued to live the same life as before.
She continued to live in lavish mansions.
Continue to associate with a number of young men.
Continue to maintain a face that does not look old.
It wasn't until 2017 that Setsuko Yamabe was formally arrested and extradited from Thailand back to Japan for interrogation. A year later, 63-year-old Setsuko Yamabe was sentenced to seven years in prison for the crime.
Her story seems to end here. However, her controversial "legendary" life is still a topic of conversation after dinner.
Of course, Setsuko Yamabe is a criminal, and there is no need to say that the law clearly stipulates this.
In addition to this, ordinary people are still curious: what is the charm of Setsuko Yamabe that can make so many men fall into emotional traps again and again?
One detail worth paying attention to is the aforementioned wealthy president.
Initially, the president was attracted by Setsuko Yamabe's charm, but this attraction did not last long.
It's like a relationship in real life, the impulse of love is short-lived, but there are always some people who can trigger this impulse again and again. And the reason for this repetitive impulse often lies in these five words: I really like you.
"Like" here is not simply like. It represents a kind of worship, an unconditional liking, and a deep understanding of the other person.
Just like Setsuko Yamabe, she uses poetry to express her love for the president. Imagine a woman writing a poem for you, and the poem flows with that entangled, deep emotion, and she can't sleep to miss you, isn't that enough to show her love and attachment?
This reminds me of another Kanae Kijima who has a similar "legendary" life.
What kind of woman is Kanae Kijima?
She has an ordinary appearance, but she has dated more than 30 men in just one year and accumulated 100 million yen at the same time. Even in prison, she can still make the reporter who interviewed her fall in love and become her third husband.
Kanae Kijima has a clear understanding of herself, so when she is in contact with the other, she will not hide her ordinary appearance.
At the same time, she is also good at understanding the opposite sex, in addition to using food to capture the appetite of the other party, she also uses delicate words to praise the other party, so that the other party can fully feel her liking.
I like you very much" actually implies "I approve of you, unconditionally".
This recognition is like a piece of cake with a charming aroma.
It's hard for anyone to resist, and they can't help but want to taste it.
Setsuko Yamabe and Kanae Kijima are both well-versed in the needs of the two ** years. However, they are overconfident, greedy, and ultimately pay the price.
Unlike them, we don't break the law.
As "The Courage to Be Hated" says:
The pursuit of recognition kills freedom. Because I didn't want to be hated by anyone, I chose an unfree lifestyle. ”
In Adler's view, the pursuit of recognition kills freedom.
But we all know that it is impossible to give up the pursuit of recognition in life, so giving up freedom is not the only option, but a trade-off.
There are two main "trade-offs" here:
First, recognize others more.
Like Kanae Kijima, when she attracts the attention of the other person, she will constantly write letters to the other person, telling the other party, "You are the ideal lover in my heart", and she exaggerates the fantasy of the ideal lover, thinking that the other person is perfect.
Many people may be able to show this recognition when they first meet, but over time, these compliments are often replaced by criticism.
Importantly, recognition does not mean that the other person can meet all your requirements, but more often than not, it is a support and encouragement. This encouragement is not only needed by the other person, but also by you.
The second point is -
Recognize yourself more.
Setsuko Yamabe and Kanae Kijima have done their best in this regard, which is also the charm of their attraction to the opposite sex.
I've always believed that there should be more recognition of myself than recognition of others.
When you do this, you'll find it extremely easy to recognize others.
And finally, as Nietzsche said:
Every day when you don't dance is a disappointment to life. ”
The recognition of others, the recognition of oneself, is all dancing.
Try to do it, and you will find that life becomes beautiful.