Family is the harbor of life and the cradle of children's growth. As the core of the family, the mother has an important impact on the harmony of the family and the development of the child.
However, not all mothers can achieve reasonable education and care, and some mothers' behaviors and attitudes will cause harm to the family and even affect the child's life.
Do you know what types of moms hurt the family the most?
Violent Mom
Violent mothers are mothers who regularly use corporal punishment or verbal abuse on their children, believing that this will make them obedient or to vent their frustration and stress.
The behavior of violent mothers will cause serious psychological trauma to children, affect children's self-confidence and self-esteem, and even lead to children's rebellious, autistic, violent and other problem behaviors.
Violent mothers can also destroy family harmony, make children fear and dislike their mothers, and affect the establishment and maintenance of parent-child relationships.
The characteristics of violent mothers are: lack of patience and understanding, excessive or unreasonable requirements for children, intolerable to children's mistakes or disobedience, often beat and scold children, or use intimidation, threats, sarcasm and other ways to hurt children's feelings.
Do not care about children's feelings and needs, do not respect children's opinions and choices, do not give children enough freedom and space, are unwilling to communicate and communicate with children, do not admit their mistakes and shortcomings, and do not give children positive encouragement and affirmation.
Dote on mom
Doting mothers are mothers who are overly pampering and protective of their children, believing that this will make them happy or make up for their guilt and insecurity.
The behavior of doting on the mother will make the child become selfish and willful, lack a sense of responsibility and independence, do not know how to be grateful and respectful, and will not face setbacks and difficulties.
The characteristics of doting mothers are: paying too much attention to and satisfying the child's material and emotional needs, having too low or no requirements for the child, ignoring or conniving at the child's mistakes or bad behaviors, and often making decisions or solving problems for the child.
Or use material or emotional manipulation of children, do not give children appropriate challenges and pressures, do not let children contact and experience the diversity and complexity of society, do not educate children with correct values and morals, do not cultivate children's interests and strengths, do not respect children's personality and differences, and do not give children negative feedback and suggestions.
Mom
*Mothers are mothers who exercise strict control and discipline over their children, believing that this will enable them to excel or to fulfill their expectations and desires.
* Mother's behavior will make the child become depressed and fearful, lack self-confidence and creativity, dare not express and try, and cannot think and judge.
* Mother's characteristics are: lack of trust and respect, too high or inappropriate requirements for children, too much emphasis on children's obedience or grades, often forcing or threatening children to do according to their own wishes or standards.
Or use criticism, punishment, comparison, etc. to hit children's self-esteem, do not care about children's interests and characteristics, do not understand children's confusion and difficulties, do not support children's exploration and innovation, do not give children enough freedom and choice, are unwilling to communicate and negotiate with children, do not admit their own mistakes and shortcomings, and do not give children positive encouragement and praise.
Ignoring mom
Neglected mothers are mothers who lack care and attention to their children, who believe that this will allow their children to be self-reliant, or who are unable to give their children enough time and energy for their own reasons.
Ignoring the mother's behavior can make the child lonely and helpless, lack a sense of security and belonging, will not establish and maintain close interpersonal relationships, and will not be able to express and meet their own emotional needs.
Neglect of mothers is characterized by a lack of love and responsibility, lack of attention or attention to the needs and development of the child, and low or no expectations for the child.
Ignoring or evaluating children's behaviors and grades, often ignoring or rejecting children's requests or demands, or hurting children's feelings by means of indifference, alienation, and denial.
Failure to give children proper care and attention, insufficient resources and opportunities, failure to educate children in the necessary knowledge and skills, and failure to develop children's self-esteem and self-confidence.
Competitive Mom
Competitive mothers refer to mothers who regard their children as their continuation or rivals, and they think that this can satisfy or surpass them, or because they are not confident or unwilling.
The behavior of competing mothers can make children nervous and anxious, lack self-identity and self-worth, and do not appreciate and respect themselves and others.
The characteristics of competitive mothers are: lack of equality and fraternity, excessive pursuit or jealousy of the child's achievements and status, excessive exaggeration or belittlement of the child's strengths or weaknesses, frequent comparison or competition with the child, or use praise, reward, envy and other ways to stimulate the child.
Do not care about the child's interests and characteristics, do not understand the child's strengths and weaknesses, do not support the child's development and progress, do not give the child appropriate guidance and suggestions, are unwilling to share and communicate with the child, do not recognize their own strengths and weaknesses, and do not give the child sincere care and love.
Conclusion: In fact, every mother has different ways of educating and caring for her children out of love and kindness. Sometimes, however, love can turn into hurt, and kindness can turn into a burden.
Therefore, as mothers, we must learn to love and care for our children correctly, so that children can feel our warmth and support, rather than pressure and hurt.
As children, we need to learn to understand and appreciate our mothers, and let them know our thoughts and needs, instead of complaining and resisting.
Family is our most intimate human relationship, and mom is our most important relative. Let's work together to make the family more harmonious, the mother happier, and the self-growth.
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