Mom Circle
Do you know what a three-year-old baby looks like?
When the child is three and a half years old, do you find that the baby seems to have a heart and can't get along with you?All kinds of things that don't go your way will be smashed. I didn't listen to what I was taught.
Is it that all the tried and tested methods used to deal with children have failed?
Are many of the most trivial things in your daily life the reason for your daily quarrels?
Mom, you're not my mother anymore, I don't want you anymore.
In fact, this is what we often say to our children, if you are disobedient, I don't love you anymore, and send you away to scare the child.
Recently, I often have to fight with my baby over trivial matters. Because she wasn't allowed to watch TV, she cried and hit the remote control, and secretly turned on the TV to turn down the volume when I couldn't see it.
When he saw the baby, he said that he wanted to play with the baby, and then pinched Xiaobao's face and slapped his head.
When he saw me kissing the baby, he cried and said that there was still me, and then asked: ".Mom, don't you love me?"She never asked this sentence before, and I would always answer that I love you the mostI began to reflect.
According to the data, the overall characteristic of the baby at this stage is anxiety and rebellion. Because the child at this stage is very insecure, she often behaves very anxious and introverted. Especially after having Erbao, the family's attention is not on her one child, and she is required not to quarrel with the baby everywhere.
Emotionally, she will show nervousness, anxiety, and reluctance to come into contact with others. We said we would take her to a friend's house as a guest, and we kept saying that I wouldn't go, I was afraid.
In terms of behavior, there will be some ** behaviors to relieve anxiety. For example, sucking fingers, gnawing nails, and picking nostrils with dirty little hands.
Visually, they also showed some problems accordingly. For example, I want my mother to tell her a story to listen to alone, and it is best to hold her in my arms.
Although they are very insecure during this period, and they are anxious and timid in everything, they actually have a strong willpower and always want to control the outside world.
Because the "we" are less attractive to her at this time, and are replaced by a stronger sense of self, he has to actively defend the "self" and thus reduce emotional anxiety and uneasiness.
At this stage, it can be unpredictable. I hope that all mothers will work hard to deal with this unstable baby.