There is a line in "Heartbeat" that says:
If a person is a rainbow, he knows it when he meets it. ”
Every woman is emotional, and she hopes to meet her lover in a beautiful love and always accompany her in this life.
Good love will make you feel free and relaxed, just like being in the mountains for a long time and finally seeing the sea.
And bad love will make you miserable, like being in the clouds, falling into the abyss.
There is nothing wrong with love, what is wrong is that a sincere heart pays the wrong person.
If a man gives you these 3 feelings, please be sure to stop the loss in time and break up decisively.
Feelings of disappointment
Zhang Xiaoxian said:The harm that a man does to a woman is not necessarily that he falls in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations, and no one helps her when she is vulnerable.
Sober and heart-piercing.
remembered a news posted by my friend Mimi when she broke up with her boyfriend.
When two people are together, the initiative is always Mimi, from good morning and good night, to dating and dinner, and her boyfriend's attitude is always light.
At the beginning, Mimi thought that the other party was slow to heat, so she gave her best to pay, but a year later, she still didn't get the same treatment.
On the day of the breakup, Mimi posted a news in the circle of friends:
"I'll put a question mark on you, will you reply to me?What does it feel like to give up someone you love dearly?Will you ask me if I change my avatar?
I'm going to bed late, will you ignore me?
I've been standing in the wind for a long time, and I'm leaving. ”
It's like a fire that burns down the house you've lived in for a long time, and you look at the wreckage and the ashes of despair, and you know it's your home, but there's no going back.
The wind traveled for thousands of miles, and the moon sank into the sea.
All the farewells seem sudden, but they are actually the accumulation of countless disappointments.
People are scattered because they don't hesitate, their hearts are cold because they are not true, their hearts are all in the past, and they are regrets everywhere they look.
Affection that is not valued and love that is not reciprocated will disappear sooner or later.
Loneliness
I saw a very heart-wrenching sentence on the Internet:
"Our story is simple, strangers become strangers. ”At the beginning of the story, I am always caught off guard;
At the end of the story, the world is always different.
Love is never sweet words and surprise romance, but two souls can accompany each other in the vicissitudes of the world.
When you need his company at some point, when you need his support in the face of a certain difficulty, if he always does not show up.
Well, he's telling you that you're not that important to him.
It's like the sentence on Weibo says:
The loneliest moment is not when you rush forward alone, but when you fall, there is no one around you.
Companionship is the most affectionate confession.
Only people who truly love you are willing to stop for you and accompany you through every moment of your life.
I saw a post on the Internet in which the girl told about her despair when she broke up with her boyfriend.
The girl said, "Let's break up." ”
The boy looked impatient: "Aren't I usually busy with work and don't have time to accompany you?"Don't look for trouble. ”
The girl cried and asked, "I really want to ask you, has there been a moment when you have felt sorry for my attachment, understood my humility, and seen my loneliness and helplessness?"”
The boy frowned: "Crying again, you know that crying can't solve the problem." ”
A girl's sentence makes people break the defense instantly:
"But no one cried to solve the problem. ”
In the relationship, the most helpless is:
I want to reach out and hug you, but you just want to live in your own world.
Behind the repeated neglect and silence is a scarred heart.
The words you want to say are blocked in your mouth, and the more you block, the more painful it becomes;I want to share the things in my heart, and the more I hold back, the more aggrieved I become.
If you always feel lonely and aggrieved in a relationship, it's time to turn around.
Negativity
There is a question on Zhihu:
"Why is it that the better you treat him, the more you feel uncherished?Slowly, I became more and more suspicious of myself. ”There is a high praise answer that is very poignant:
"It's not that you're not good enough, on the contrary, it's because you're so good that your goodness becomes cheap in the other person's heart. ”When a person doesn't have you in his heart, even if you do more, he will not be grateful, but will blame and find fault with you, making you feel that you are not good.
A few days ago, I saw a few comments under a Weibo:
I want to break up and be reluctant, and I suffocate in silence every day. ”
Accusations are scarier than silence and make me feel like I'm not doing anything right. ”
I used to laugh, but now I cry. ”
The most terrible thing in this world is that the person I thought I would hold hands for the rest of his life would stab me every day, because he knew too well, so the knife was fatal.
In psychology, there is an effect called the "Pygmalion effect", which refers to:
Praise and trust have an energy that makes a person more confident and positive;
On the contrary, by being constantly denied and discouraged, the person becomes frustrated and negative.
If a person keeps you falling into self-doubt, then over time, your sense of self-worth will become lower and lower.
When you meet such a person, you must stay away even if you meet it.
The philosopher Plato once said:
"If you are not happy and unhappy, then let it go, one of the most regrets in life is to stubbornly insist on what you shouldn't have. ”
How can someone who makes you sad only make you sad once.
If you go the wrong way, remember to turn back;If you love the wrong person, you must know how to let go.
No matter what the relationship is, if you don't see the details you want, you don't have to give the other person the attitude they want.
The south wall hits, the story is there, and for those who don't deserve it, bury it in the old days.
The rest of your life is short, love yourself well and don't become a momentary need for anyone.
The rest of your life is very long, be with worthy people, embrace the romance of the world, and the stars are splendid.
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