Reading ReviewReading Book Sharing: Taking the Essence (1) "Acceptance" (Beauty) Ashley. Davis. Bush.
Charlotte and her husband Jerry are a model couple that everyone envies, not only do their relatives and friends think that their marriage is perfect and flawless, but even Charlotte herself is proud of having a perfect marriage, which means that she is a perfect wife.
When Jerry was taking a shower, Charlotte saw Jerry's ambiguous text messages with a female colleague on Jerry's mobile phone, she suddenly felt that the sky was about to fall, Jerry couldn't stand her coercion and crying, and truthfully confessed that he had an extramarital affair with the female colleague for 6 months, although Jerry said that he was willing to immediately cut off contact with a third party, and applied to be transferred to another branch away from this female colleague, but Charlotte still couldn't accept the fact that her ideal happy life was shattered.
Charlotte is in endless pain, feeling that she cannot forgive Jerry for his betrayal, and on the other hand, she blames herself for not being perfect enough to cause a rift in her marriage, and a third party can take advantage of it. She thinks that if she goes back in time, she must be more attentive to her husband, she fantasizes that she would not be so miserable if he had not cheated, and she resists this fact by condemning her husband and separating.
After months of stalemate, Charlotte finds herself wrestling with the issue, but her marriage to Jerry becomes increasingly precarious due to a series of acts of resistance. So she finally understands that it was not the affair that really ruined her and Jerry's marriage, but her resistance.
Charlotte realizes that she must calmly face the pain caused by Jerry's betrayal, she needs to accept this fact, she begins to pay attention to her feelings, pain and sadness are her real feelings, she no longer resists, and she tries to communicate with Jerry openly, but without persecution, resistance, criticism and provocation.
Their marriage takes a new turn for the better because of Charlotte's acceptance, Charlotte hears Jerry's true thoughts, she begins to understand Jerry's confession and accepts his heartfelt apology, and Jerry also has a new understanding of his wife, they express their expectations for the future to each other, and make some agreements.
As the rift between the two slowly repairs, Charlotte feels that previous extramarital affairs don't have to be bad, and this episode brings about a change in their marriage, and they both grow. She gave each other a chance to be born again, and her acceptance created a new birth for her marriage, and she was no longer as worried and scared as before, but more calmly enjoying the joy and happiness that marriage brings.
There are too many annoying things and unsatisfactory injuries in life, they seem to be playing a tug-of-war with us, we pull one end of the rope, we do our best, we don't want to be pulled into situations we don't want, but the reality is that our so-called opponents are always stronger than us, we keep saying "no", but this does not alleviate our pain.
Imagine that if we stopped struggling with life, we would be able to feel the liberation of liberation;No longer resist, accept the accidents that life brings us, whether it is pain or sorrow, our body and mind need to be cared for by ourselves, and say to our body and mind: "Well, I am feeling life now, this feeling may not necessarily be happiness, but I am willing to get along with it, I finally stop fighting with you, I want to explore the future with you." ”
The author of this article is Shang Yulan.