I fully agree with the saying "mother-in-law is not obliged to help her daughter-in-law with children". There is no blood relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and there is no legal obligation to support them. As an independent individual, the mother-in-law has the right to choose the life she wants, rather than being forced to take on the responsibility of caring for her grandchildren.
From a legal point of view, a mother-in-law is not obliged to raise her grandchildren or granddaughters. It is the responsibility of parents to raise their children, not grandparents. Mother-in-law can choose to help, but it's not something they have to do.
From an emotional point of view, the mother-in-law may be unwilling or unable to help her daughter-in-law with the child for various reasons. Some mothers-in-law may not be able to take on the responsibility of caring for their children due to physical reasons, and some mothers-in-law may not be able to do so due to work or other family responsibilities. If they are forced to take on this responsibility, it can be physically and emotionally stressful.
Of course, in real life, many mothers-in-law are still willing to help their daughters-in-law with their children. This may be out of love for his son or a desire to ease the burden on his daughter-in-law. However, this help is not an obligation of the mother-in-law, but rather a voluntary and emotional support from them.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a complex family relationship that requires the joint efforts of both parties to maintain. In modern society, with the improvement of women's status and the change of family concept, more and more young couples choose to live independently and no longer rely on the support of their parents. This also means that there may be less interaction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, but it does not mean that there is no affection between them. In this case, the mother-in-law should respect the daughter-in-law's choice and not interfere too much in their lives. If the daughter-in-law needs help, the mother-in-law can offer some advice and support, but she should not force herself to do something she is unwilling to do. At the same time, daughters-in-law should also understand their situation, respect their decisions, and not let them feel oppressed or taken advantage of.
In addition to taking care of the children, there are many other topics that can be exchanged between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law. For example, they can cook, shop, chat, and so on together. These activities not only enhance mutual understanding and trust, but also ease tensions and bring more harmony to the family.
Finally, I would like to say that the relationship between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law is not set in stone. This relationship also changes over time and with the development of society. Therefore, we should keep an open mind, adapt to the changing environment, and strive to maintain a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.