Author: Wen Qiusheng.
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Someone said: "Loving someone who doesn't love you is like holding a pot of cactus, and how tightly you hold it, how much it hurts." ”I think so. When a marriage breaks down, both men and women will be cast a heavy shadow over their hearts.
No matter how cruel the reality is and how bad life is, life still goes on, and people must learn to look forward.
Some people will pick themselves up and enjoy the freedom of a person;Some people will choose to remarry and let their figure no longer be so lonely.
Love is beautiful, but there are many practical things to consider when remarrying. Remarriage, what does it mean?There are 3 things, it's heavy
The marriage broke down, and the fate between husband and wife has come to an end, and since then, you and I have no relationship in the relationship.
When you choose to remarry, it means giving up everything you have in the past, and perhaps your children.
When you get divorced, the person you once loved may become ruthless, cold, and compete with you for all resources. Including, custody of the child.
Remarriage means saying goodbye to your yesterday self and putting your focus on your new life in the future.
Perhaps, you are reluctant, but the reality is not up to anyone.
If you always carry the shadows and memories of the past, you will not be able to manage your new life.
Only by completely letting go of everything in the past and no longer being troubled by the past will you have more confidence and energy to manage your future marriage.
To remarry is to let go of the bits and pieces of the past, rub the pain into your own blood and bones, and live again.
If you can't give up your obsession with the past and want to seize the opportunity of rebirth, you will be doomed to fail at both ends.
Once I met a former colleague in the supermarket, she brought a ten-year-old child, and after a few pleasantries, she told me that she had remarried, and the child belonged to her lover and ex-wife.
When she decided to remarry a man, she didn't feel that having children was a big problem.
But in life, there are many unspeakable sufferings.
The child is hostile to her, often disagrees with her, and causes trouble for her, and she does not want to create more pressure and trouble for her lover because of these things.
She strives to give her children love and care, and cultivate their children's good life Xi habits, which slowly shortens the distance between her and her children.
The hard work of raising a child will only be understood when you really experience it.
Remarrying means reforming a family, and from then on, all meals and four seasons will be with him.
When you decide to enter into marriage with the other person, you must be mentally prepared to accept everything about him and his children.
Two people should share the responsibility of raising children, share the pressure of life together, and try their best to not separate each other.
In the married life of a restructured family, there will be more difficulties and more obstacles on the way to raising children. In the future married life, we need more acceptance and tolerance to bear the hard work and pressure of raising children.
I've seen such a paragraph**, which says:
A remarried couple, the man's father is sick and needs a sum of money for surgery.
The man took out all his savings, and there were still tens of thousands of yuan missing, so he frowned and looked around for someone to borrow money.
After the woman found out, she took out the bank card and gave it to the man, asked him to pay the operation fee first, and told him not to worry, she would face something with him.
The man was so moved that he didn't know what to say, so he just hugged the woman tightly in his arms.
After that, the man gave the financial power of the family to the woman. He also handed over all his salary to the woman for safekeeping, he said, you have full control over the family's money, I trust you.
Marriage should be based on mutual trust and maintenance.
If so, both of them are concerned about their own gains and losses, and the marriage is destined to not go long.
Someone said: "Marriage is never a one-person thing, and marriage is not a dusty ending, marriage is a business run by two people together." ”Remarriage means that the money must be spent together, the responsibilities must be carried together, and each other cannot be cared for.
Since they have become husband and wife with each other, they must share blessings and misfortunes, and share weal and woe. Money should be spent together, not selfish, and not mutually calculated.
Only with mutual honesty and sincerity can we establish a deeper relationship, and each other can truly feel happiness and companionship.
A broken marriage does not mean a failure in life, and you must be brave enough to come out and start your own new life.
If you choose to remarry, you must realize the above three very realistic and heavy things, and be psychologically prepared to reap happiness.
Believe that true love can also be found by remarrying. We must manage each other's marriages with an honest heart and sincere feelings.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.