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Many times, it is not that the relationship between people is bad, but because they do not grasp the scale of speech.
A person who always unintentionally tells his true words to others is often unknowingly used or calculated by others.
On the contrary, a person who always speaks for himself and does not miss a word is more likely to reap a good life.
So, no matter who you're dealing with, keep these six points in mind!
It's not about people.
"Things, not people" means that when you encounter problems, don't always associate people and things, and learn to empathize. There are often unexpected gains.
This means that when someone points out our mistakes, we should humbly accept them and work hard to correct them.
This means that when confronted with someone, don't always treat him as an enemy, but communicate with him like a friend.
Not only will this solve the problem effectively, but it will also make others appreciate you from the bottom of their hearts.
After all, there are no perfect people in the world, everyone has their own shortcomings and shortcomings, if you always treat others as your enemies and care, it will invisibly increase your own pressure and burden.
A person's character is reflected in his actions. Do unto others as you would do unto yourself.
Therefore, friends should learn to empathize, compare hearts and minds, and not treat each other as enemies;And should not be too demanding or expecting too much from yourself;Will live easier!
Keep your promises. Whatever you say to others, do what you promise;Whatever you do, keep your promises.
The Analects says, "If a man has no faith, he does not know what he can do." It means that a person does not keep his promise and accomplishes nothing.
Confucius said, "Words must be believed, and deeds must be fruitful." "This means that if you promise someone something, you must abide by it;When you promise someone something, you have to keep your promise.
The most valuable quality of a person is trustworthiness, and trustworthiness is credit.
It is easy for a person to do one thing, but it is difficult to do one thing. It takes a lot of effort and effort to do something, and there are a lot of difficulties to overcome and solve.
If a person can do what he says, he has a sense of responsibility;A person who does what he says must be a person of integrity;An honest person is a person who is honest and trustworthy and has commitments!
Learn to keep your mouth shut. When you speak, you should try to talk as little as possible. You talk too much, exposing yourself and others. This is unwise behavior.
Especially those who love to talk and listen, there are always some things in life that are always chattering. Some words are too simple and have no depth and connotation, and it doesn't matter if you don't understand some words.
Learn to shut up in social situations, as this is a sign of high emotional intelligence. Don't say it out loud, it means you can't speak.
Some people always like to snoop on other people's privacy or like to show off themselves. Their purpose is not simple, they just want to gain the respect and envy of others!
Some people love to show off and take themselves very seriously. When others hear these words, they may feel very proud or proud.
If you want to avoid saying something, learn to keep your mouth shut.
Keep a low profile. Really smart people never use words to express their thoughts and opinions;They tend to prove that they are true with their actions.
So, if you want to get ahead, don't make too much noise.
There is a saying in the Book of Changes: "Be humble and self-shepherd." ”
Humility is a virtue. Humility is not only an attitude, but also a kind of wisdom. The more capable a person is, the more humbly he should learn to Xi.
When getting along with people, don't show off too much;Accept the achievements and merits of others with an open mind, and not be ashamed to ask about the mistakes of others. Because humility is the greatest asset in life.
How humble you are, how lucky you are!
To be a man must know how to be modest and low-key, humble and modest, neither humble nor arrogant;And not proud, arrogant, rude!
Do unto others as you would have them do to you!Those who always keep a low profile are sure to have good luck and happiness!
Be kind to others. Being kind to others is the most basic principle of life. If you want to earn the respect of others, you must learn to respect others.
If you are easily bullied by others, then you will suffer greater retaliation from the world.
No matter who it is, as long as it is a person, it should be done, to become famous, to speak out.
As long as people do not lose their conscience and moral heart, they can constantly improve their self-ability and self-cultivation.
Maintain a kind heart when dealing with people, and you will not lose your dignity as a human being, no matter what your situation is.
Be kind to others, and others will respect and fear!
The best way to be kind is to be kind to others. If you want to be a popular person, a blessed person, then you must first learn to be kind to others!
Say less, do more.
Really smart people are usually quiet.
Really smart people don't show off in front of others. They know when to say it and when not to say it.
Because you don't know who to talk to, you don't know who to talk to. They just quietly do their thing.
If someone wants to ask you, ask them;If you don't want to talk about it, forget about it.
In this case, you don't need to demonstrate your intelligence and abilities.
Only those who are really smart know how to restrain their blades, not to show off in front of others that they can speak, do things, and understand the world.
The smarter you are, the more silent you will be, and the more you understand silence, the smarter you will be.
Many times it hurts to speak like a knife cutting through oneself, and many things are as breathless as a stone stuck in one's heart. Sometimes you don't need to talk at all, it's the greatest respect for each other!