In China's social culture, the dinner table occupies an extremely important position. It is an important place for people to communicate, exchange and enhance their feelings. At dinners, wine, as an important medium, often plays a key role.
In the workplace, we often encounter a variety of social situations, among which dinner is the most common.
Exchanges and interactions at dinner often enhance mutual understanding and affection, and lay a solid foundation for career development.
However, sometimes a casual word can put us in an awkward situation and even affect our career.
When you are praised for "good drinking" at a dinner, a sentence of "average, not so good at drinking" may be your common answer.
However, this answer may inadvertently expose your low emotional intelligence.
First of all, let's be clear that there's more to a conversation than just a drink.
In this seemingly relaxed setting, what we need to focus on is communication and interaction with people.
And in this process, our words and behaviors will become the standard by which others will evaluate us.
Therefore, our performance at the dinner largely determines the impression that others have of us.
We need to understand the role of wine in the meal. In China, wine is seen as a medium that opens people's mouths and facilitates the exchange of feelings.
In many cases, drinking alcohol is not about getting drunk, but about better communication and exchange.
Therefore, when people praise you for being "a good drinker", they are not belittling you, but praising your ability to drink.
However, how to respond to this compliment requires some skill. The phrase "so-so, not so good to drink" may seem modest, but in some cases it may make a bad impression.
Because the message of this sentence may be that you are self-deprecating, or that you are not confident.
This can lead to the misconception that you lack self-confidence or are not generous enough.
So when you're complimented on "good drinking," you can respond in a more subtle way.
For example, you can say, "Actually, I don't drink well, it's just that I control myself." ”
Such an answer does not deny your drinking, nor does it show humility or arrogance.
It sends the message that you are able to control yourself and not drink blindly.
This not only demonstrates your emotional intelligence, but also your self-management skills.
So, how can you show high emotional intelligence at dinner?
First, we need to learn to listen.
In the process of communicating with others, we need to learn to listen to the opinions and ideas of the other person, rather than blindly expressing our own opinions.
By listening, we can better understand the needs and expectations of the other person, so we can respond more appropriately.
At the same time, listening is also a kind of respect, so that the other person can feel that we care and value.
Second, we need to learn to praise and thank at the right time.
At dinner, we should learn to discover the strengths and shining points of others, and give praise and thanks in a timely manner.
It can also make the other party feel our sincerity and kindness.
Of course, praise and gratitude should be in moderation, and excessive flattery and flattery can be offensive.
Third, we need to learn to control our emotions.
At dinner, we may encounter all kinds of people and things, and sometimes it may make us feel unhappy.
However, we need to understand that the loss of control of emotions often causes us to lose our minds and say something inappropriate.
Therefore, we need to learn to control our emotions and stay calm and rational so that we can show our high emotional intelligence at dinner.
In addition, we have to learn to say no.
At the dinner, we may encounter some untimely proposals or requests.
At this time, we need to learn to refuse tactfully, rather than blindly obey.
Rejection does not mean disrespecting the other person, but we are protecting ourselves while maintaining our dignity and image.
Finally, we need to learn to read words and looks.
At dinner, we need to learn to observe the words and deeds of others and understand their needs and expectations.
By observing words and feelings, we can better grasp the rhythm and way of communicating with people, so that we can avoid saying things that are inappropriate.
Wine is less than a thousand glasses of confidants. At dinner, we need to learn to build good relationships with others. And good social skills and high emotional intelligence are the keys to building a good relationship.
Therefore, when others compliment you on "drinking well", you may wish to respond to them in a clever and emotionally intelligent way to make your relationship more harmonious and harmonious.
When dealing with this, the most important thing is to be authentic and honest. Don't try to disguise or exaggerate your alcohol consumption or abilities.
Because you are the real you, you can gain the respect and recognition of others. At the same time, learn to appreciate the praise of others, which is not a form of hypocrisy or flattery, but a form of social etiquette and respect.