In the process of family education, we often encounter situations where children do not like to talk and have difficulty communicating. Especially for 18-year-olds, this can be even more pronounced. Children at this stage are in adolescence, their inner world becomes more complex and they are more sensitive to the external environment.
Therefore, how to solve the situation that 18-year-old children do not like to talk and are difficult to communicate, and how parents can effectively communicate with children at this stage have become important topics in family education.
We need to understand the psychological changes in children.
Eighteen-year-olds are in adolescence, and their self-awareness is growing and they begin to think, judge, and make choices independently.
They also face academic pressure, complex relationships, and uncertainty about the future, all of which can have an impact on their psyche. Therefore, we need to listen patiently to children's thoughts and feelings, understand their inner world, it may be that I always wanted to control children before, and always felt that children should do what adults think, the more this is the more rebellious and disobedient to discipline, I have a headache,It wasn't until I took the parent-child course of Gaotu Beautiful Family recommended by a friend, I finally know how to get along with my child, my child is no longer as antagonistic and disobedient as before, and now I am more like a friend with my child!
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We need to choose the right way to communicate. When communicating with our children, we need to avoid using a commanding or accusatory tone and instead communicate with our children in an equal and gentle manner. We can try to use open-ended questions to guide children to express their thoughts and feelingsFor example, "How are you feeling?".What do you think?And so on. At the same time, we need to respect children's privacy and choices, and don't force them to disclose too much personal information.
In addition, when 18-year-old children do not like to talk and it is difficult to communicate, we can also enhance the communication effect with children in some ways。For example, we can participate in some common activities with our children, such as sports, art, etc., which can not only strengthen the parent-child relationship, but also allow children to express their thoughts and feelings in a relaxed and happy atmosphere. We can also try to use some communication skills, such as listening, affirming, encouraging, etc., to enhance children's self-confidence and expression skills.
Finally, we need to pay attention to the following:
Don't interfere too much in your child's life。Although we as parents have a responsibility to care about our children's lives and Xi, excessive interference can make children feel stressed and disgusted. We need to give our children enough freedom and space to make their own choices and decisions.
Don't ignore your child's emotional needs。Children need attention and support from their parents, and if we neglect them emotionally, they can feel lonely and helpless. We need to pay attention to our children's emotional needs and give them enough love and support.
Do not punish or threaten your child. Punishment and threats can not only make children feel fearful and insecure, but they can also damage the parent-child relationship. We need to communicate with our children in a rational and gentle way, guiding them to put things in perspective and what is wrong.
It is an important task of family education to solve the problem that 18-year-old children do not like to talk and have difficulty communicating. We need to understand the psychological changes and needs of the child, choose the appropriate communication style, and be careful not to interfere too much with the child's life and emotional needs. Only in this way can we establish a good parent-child relationship with our children and promote their healthy growth.