The child's refusal to speak and communicate is a challenge that leaves parents at a loss and heartache. In the face of such a situation, we need to explore, understand and guide with a gentle attitude. Let's work together on how to teach children the gentle code of speaking and awaken their deep silence.
Calling: Listen to your child's inner voice
The child's reluctance to speak, may be the heart carries too many emotions and doubts, which also leads to many parents and their children's relationship is more tense, in the long run, it is very unfavorable to the child's character development and long-term development, we as parents thankless!
Purely by yelling at the child or disciplining it strictly, it is basically futile and makes the child even more disgusted, and that's how I came over until a few months agoAfter studying Xi in Gaotu Meimei Family for a period of time, we learned too much from Teacher Song Li, and we first learned from Teacher Song Li's adolescent classTeacher Song Li is a national second-level psychological counselor, there is a special course for teenagers who are tired of school and psychological counseling, the content is simple and easy to understand, and can also put forward different solutions for different problems of parents.
Don't just see the child's shortcomings, but also see the child's shining points, for example, although my daughter's grades have declined, she has a strong ability to learn Xi, and she can remember the knowledge points that the teacher has talked about as long as she listens carefully.
I learned a lot of Xi about family education from Mr. Song Li, realized my wrong way of education, and finally knew how to get along with my children correctly.
As parents, we need to listen with our hearts, not just listen. Listening is not only a form of concern, but also the key to building a parent-child relationship. Let children feel that their voices are valued and respected, and awaken their innermost desires.
Accompaniment: Gradually untie the knot with warm companionship
The child may need more companionship and understanding. At the moment when they are reluctant to express it, they gradually untie the knot in their hearts with warm companionship. Don't force it, but feel it with your heart and let them know that there is a shoulder in this world that can be inclusive and understanding.
Understanding: Exploring the deep needs of the heart
A deep understanding of your child's heart, understanding the deep needs they may be hiding, is the key to unlocking the silence. Maybe it's because of distress, doubts, or because of self-esteem and self-identity. Only by truly understanding can we more effectively guide them out of their inner predicament.
Motivation: The power to give encouragement and recognition
The child refuses to speak or communicate, perhaps because he is afraid of being denied or feeling helpless. Give encouragement and recognition and let them know that even small attempts and expressions will be recognized. Inspire them to speak their minds and gradually rebuild bridges of communication.
Trust: Build bridges of mutual trust
Trust is the most important part of the parent-child relationship. Build bridges of trust and let children know that no matter what happens, they can communicate openly and honestly with their parents. Trust is the foundation of communication and the bond of a deep parent-child relationship.
Every child has their own silence, and as parents, we need to be gentle in unraveling this silence. Listening, accompanying, understanding, motivating and trusting, these gentle codes awaken the silence in the hearts of children, so that they can open their hearts and speak their stories bravely.
In view of the child's refusal to speak and unwilling to communicate, we hope that we will use warmth and patience to guide the child to a world full of sincerity and communication, rebuild the deep bond of parent-child relationship, and write a chapter of family warmth and harmony together.