Why does a relationship change everywhere?
We used to talk about everything, but now we have become strangers.
Again, the same sentence:
If you don't try the water, you don't know the depth;
If people don't make friends, they don't know whether they are good or bad.
True friendship must stand the test of time.
I once saw a netizen share a story:
The netizen has a friend who has known him for more than 20 years, and he rarely contacts him after he gets married.
One day, a friend chatted with her and said that she hadn't seen her for a long time and had made an appointment on the weekend.
Because it was a friend who came to her city, she arranged a restaurant to eat that day.
She thought that her friend would come alone, but she didn't expect to bring her daughter.
Netizens thought to themselves that her daughter happened to be in the same city as herself, so she might have brought it by the way.
As soon as she sat down and chatted a few words, her friend said that there was a small matter that she wanted to ask her.
Didn't your husband run a company?”
You see, my daughter has just graduated and hasn't found a job yet, although her academic qualifications are not as good as those top students, but they are not bad.
Let's see if you can arrange a job for her.
I thought to myself, if you wanted to, it would be a matter of words. ”
Before she could react, my friend added:
"What's the use of our efforts, no matter how good your work is, it's not as good as you marry!”
Hearing this, her heart instantly felt uncomfortable.
This company is the result of the hard work of the couple at the beginning, which is what it is today.
All the efforts she has put in seem to be worthless by this fluttering sentence of "marry well".
But because of her friends for many years, she didn't have a black face in public.
She veiled her refusal, indicating that the company was sluggish and might not need people.
The friend hurriedly interrupted her: "Don't worry, don't worry, wait until you go back and take a look." ”
I thought I was clear enough, but a few days later, my friend sent a message to ask.
She told her again in person, hoping that she would understand.
Unexpectedly, her friend became angry and angry, saying that she had backtracked and delayed them for so long.
Not only that, but my friend also sent the oil and vinegar at this time to the circle of friends for everyone to comment.
This approach of her friend has brought her a lot of trouble.
In a fit of anger, she blocked this friend who had been friends for 20 years.
As the saying goes:
If the other party does not readily agree to your request, it means that she has politely rejected you.
Her friend just didn't grasp that degree and alienated a friendship.
Psychological counselor Zeng Qifeng made an analogy:
The boundaries of the cliffs are clear, so we won't get too close;
But the boundaries of the water are blurred, and people are often drowned.
A well-educated person should know how to do it.
Instead of being aggressive, let her say yes.
I've heard the saying:
"If you dig out your heart and lungs for a person, you will either get a confidant or a lifelong lesson. ”
Never overestimate your relationship with anyone.
After Xiao Qi graduated, he naturally shared a house with his good friend Xiao Cai, and they got along quite well in the early stage.
Xiao Cai has joined several companies after graduation, all of which ended in resignation.
In the end, she chose to go out to start a business, her ideals are very full, but the reality is very cruel.
She failed to start a business and even lost a lot of money.
Xiao Qi tried his best to help her repay the money, and even the rent during that time was paid by Xiao Qi alone.
But Xiao Cai hasn't given up wanting to start a business, and Xiao Qi can only support her.
After a period of time, Xiao Cai really succeeded in starting a business, which can be said to be a small achievement.
But Xiao Qi didn't urge her to repay the money, thinking that she would definitely pay it back.
During this period, something happened to Xiao Qi's family, and they were very short of money.
The family said that they were looking for the money that Xiao Cai had borrowed, and Xiao Qi tentatively mentioned this time to Xiao Cai.
Who knew that not only did she not ask for money, but she also complained back.
After so many years of relationship, are you afraid that I won't pay back?”
is in such a hurry to ask for debts, there is no human touch at all. ”
Xiao Qi was so angry that he was speechless, so he could only empty his credit card to barely support him.
After settling the family affairs, Xiao Qi did not let Xiao Cai go, and directly sued her to the court.
As the saying goes:"The thinnest is not emotional, and the coolest is not people's hearts. ”
After experiencing human feelings, I understand that you will not be rewarded for helping him with all your heart.
When something happens, how far they can hide, and even worse, they will do it behind their backs.
People get along with people, and sometimes, people's hearts may not be exchanged for people's hearts.
Not all effort is rewarded, and not all people will cherish your goodness.
When people are at a low point, they can best distinguish the people around them.
What is a fake relationship?
You are in trouble, and he tries his best to avoid you.
When you have money, he immediately greets you with a smile.
What is true friendship?
When you are in trouble, he will try his best to help you.
You are famous, and he will not compliment you.
Adult friendships are fragile, cherish the people who stand up for you at critical moments.
Why is it that many people are lamenting that it is easy to make friends, but it is difficult to maintain relationships?
There are several reasons, and there are also many people who misunderstand the definition of a friend.
Those who are strong because of their work may not be able to become friends;
WeChat friends added everywhere may not be friends;
Those who fellowship because of interests will likewise be separated by interests.
Because true friendship is always about helping each other in times of adversity, and there is no need to deliberately manage it.
A pair of friends for many years were interviewed by the TV station, and the host asked curiously:
How did you maintain a friendship that lasted for 70 years?”
The two old men looked at each other and smiled, and replied
"Keep your mouth shut, calm your breath, and keep your heart steady;
Don't ask about things that shouldn't be taken care of;
It's important to respect each other and maintain a good sense of boundaries. ”
Modern opera artists Xia Yan and Cao Juren are a pair of close friends, but the two are not in constant contact.
Once, Xia Yan's wife asked him, you have such a good relationship with Lao Cao, why don't you move around so much?
Xia Yan pointed to the bell tower in the distance and asked
If you put your ear to the bell, will you still think it sounds wonderful?”
The wife replied, "If you stick it too close, your ears won't be able to stand it, and of course it's not wonderful." ”
Xia Yan continued:
Making friends is like listening to a bell, always keep a certain distance, and the relationship with each other will be as wonderful as listening to the bell from a distance. ”
Just the right amount of proportion is the most comfortable, and the feelings of knowing how to leave blank space are the most lasting.
When interacting with people, you can't lose your sense of proportion and boundaries.
A relationship that pushes too hard will only make each other feel constrained and oppressed.
Keep the right distance so you don't feel pressured in your relationship.
Only by being merciful and speaking in moderation can we warm people's hearts;
Only by doing things in a certain degree and leaving a distance can we get along comfortably;
Only by knowing how to respect and pay attention to proportion, can you be welcomed.
When getting along with people, you must learn to leave blank.
Leaving space will make others feel comfortable, and at the same time, it will also leave yourself room to maneuver.
Distance can produce beauty.
When a certain degree of proportion and boundaries are maintained, the ultimate beauty can be produced.
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