In the life of fifty years old, we seem to stand at the fork in the road of time, looking back at the storms of the past, but also seeing the tranquility of the road ahead. However, there is one thing, one emotion, that is probably our greatest sorrow after the age of fifty – and that is that we have become eager to be in control"Desire to control".
The destructive power of control: life's biggest roadblock
When we were young, we dreamed of being the masters of our lives, of being the masters of the world. However, after the age of fifty, we find that destiny has been set in stone, and the limitations of life make us fall into excessive control over others and life.
Sometimes, we are like general managers who are responsible for our lives and want everything to go according to our plan. However, when we try to look at other people's life choices by our own standards, we often find that this "stumbling block" may be ourselves.
seems to be good for the other party, but it falls into a situation that makes people breathless. Whatever you can control is not what you want;You can't control what you want. This kind of life is simply synonymous with a resentful woman
Take control of others and lose yourself
When our children grow up, it's easy to fall into the trap of "control freaks". We think our standards are the benchmark for success, but the truth is that children need to go through it on their own, and our control over them only strains the relationship.
Think about family, especially parenting. After we got married, we struggled to buy a house in the city so that our children would not have to go through the hardships of the rural period. Children are obedient when they are young, but as they grow older and begin to pursue independence, our desire for control is like a chain, which makes the relationship between the two generations more and more strained.
The price of liking to be picky
People with a strong desire for control are often Xi to find fault with everything about others and pursue so-called perfection. However, such demands will only make people tired, and the more they give, the harder it is to get the approval of others.
The Law of Thirty-Seven: The Law of Human Relationships
"Seven points" is the space between people, and it is also where the elasticity of the relationship lies。The growth of children, the Xi of lovers, and the advancement and retreat of the workplace all need to be let go. Life is not about perfect control, but about finding a balance in release.
Unleash yourself and embrace happiness
A quote from the movie "Black Swan" gives us a lesson: "Perfection is not about control, but about release." Fifty years old is the perfect time to release yourself. Children's lives, lover's Xi, and work retreats all need us to let go in a timely manner.
Let go of control and embrace change
We may have wanted to control our own destiny, but after the age of fifty, we should understand the vagaries of life. If you can't control things, you should learn to let go. It is only in change that we can find the true meaning of life.
Dealing with interpersonal relationships: Stay away from entanglements
Whether it's family relationships, husband and wife, or interpersonal interactions at work, entanglement is meaningless. At any time, it is God to change oneself and it is nerve to change others. Letting go is also a kind of wisdom.
Soberness and self-discipline in life
"Three points" is a shortcoming, just self-acceptance. Don't push yourself too hard and take it easy. Life is not a perfect show, there are three points that are flaws, and this is what makes us unique.
After the age of 50, we should understand that although the desire to control was once the goal we pursued, letting go is also a sign of wisdom. In the long river of years, release at the right time, let go at the right time, and life can become broader and more interesting. Letting go of the desire to control and letting life flow freely is true happiness.
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