"Relying on the old" is what every Chinese person wants, who doesn't want to wait for their old age to live with security and dignity, but for some rural people, the reality is still so difficult!So many people have a question: Is it bad for rural people to go to nursing homes when they are old?
The people who ask such things are generally not rural people, and for ordinary rural people, going to a nursing home is still a topic of secrecy. There are reasons for burden, and there are reasons for perceptions. But now the reality of the elderly in rural areas is shocking, look at the following rural elderly experience, and they are only a very small part of the situation of tens of millions of elderly people in rural areas.
Case 1:A 78-year-old retired teacher in a neighboring village, four children, all of whom have their own interests, either go abroad or work in a big city, before 2006, this is a family that is the envy of the people around him, and then his wife died, he was paralyzed again, and he definitely needs to be taken care of by his children, but what about the attitude of the four children?Without thinking about it, after coordination between the village and his children, he was sent to a village nursing home, where the old man died of depression half a year later.
Case 2:In 2017, I followed a poverty alleviation team to visit an elderly person in a rural area, this is an old lady with a comprehensive hair illness in bed, she has children, but she did not raise her well, her two sons change once a month to bring her food, she is lying on the stinky illness like that, no one talks to her, no one comes in to help her deal with the hygiene, waiting for her can be imagined, maybe I will never forget her eyes at that time.
Case 3:In a rural nursing home in the town, a 70-year-old grandfather, who was supposed to care for the elderly at home, turned out that his only son had a car accident, and he was the only one left in the family, so the village had to send him here
There are too many old people in the countryside like this, and when you go back to the countryside now, if you see this scene, it is too normal:
When the old people in the city have begun to live in their old age and carry out leisure and entertainment everywhere, the elderly in their seventies in the countryside may still be in the field, hunched over the crops and fields, some people say that the old people in the countryside are good for their health and good for their health when they often do this kind of activities, but who understands that if he is not like this, what can he do?
If you want to ask: why not let them go to a nursing home?In fact, it's not that they don't want to, it's that many nursing homes now can't achieve the effect of providing for the elderly, but instead add too much burden to them. In a word: I can't afford it at all!
Although the level of service has changed, all of them are not cheap, and compared with the income of the elderly in rural areas, it is a bit out of reach. Rural people who are now seventy or eighty years old have experienced all the difficulties of the country, and it is certainly not right to say that they have not contributed to the country, but what about the security when they are old?
The elderly over 60 years old can have some special subsidies, and these subsidies that are not enough for daily life are really useless, and then the agricultural cooperative system, although useful, but it has risen again and again, and now it has risen to 380 yuan a year, the burden is too heavy, and the daily income is just able to live a basic life is already very good, so it is not so easy to say that the rural elderly now want to go to nursing homes unless they rely on the help of their children.
There is also a deep-rooted influence of rural people's concept, this concept is "raising children to prevent old age", why do you have to go to a nursing home if you have children and daughters, even if your children are not good to themselves, they admit it, but once they go to a nursing home, they feel that others will look down on themselves and laugh at themselves. On the other hand, as the children of the elderly in rural areas, I also think that if my parents go to a nursing home, others will not say that I am, so I let the elderly support me at home and not go to the nursing home.
There is another factor, in fact, the average person can not see, the boring life of the nursing home actually does not work, but counterproductive, rural people have their own rural people's living habits and laws, old and old suddenly give you so many "tight spells", but also want to let them live a healthy life, it should not be so easy, this is also the place that many rural elderly people are afraid of.
What's going on now?Caring for the elderly at home, having children and filial piety is better, and it is considered lucky;Childless home-based care is not only a guarantee, but also difficult to meet life, and the loneliness is indescribable, if there is a disease, it is even more sad.
Think about these old people in the countryside, when they were young, they worked to dig ditches, repair roads, and pay public grain, and now they are old and old, and the security of some old people is still embarrassing, these people are helpless, some people are helpless, and some people are thoughtless!Do they have to go to a nursing home to find the way out?