Today is the last day of the year, and I will write about the two biggest takeaways of the year.
The first is a deep awareness of overcoming perfectionism. The perfectionism mentioned here is not the perfectionism that everyone lives in, but the perfectionism that is ubiquitous in life.
This harvest is mainly from the study of Effective Managers. In this book, Master Drucker has a lot of simple and amazing insights. These insights made me realize that there were many, many times when I fell into perfectionism in my daily life. For example, there is a passage in the book:
Human nature requires us to identify and apply a skill. In fact, the notion of a "perfect person" or a "mature personality" is a deep contempt for the most special human gift: the ability to devote all resources to an activity, an endeavor, an achievement. That is also a contempt for excellence. One can only achieve excellence in one area, and at best a handful of them.
Some people do have a wide range of interests and are what we usually call "all-rounders." However, people who have achieved outstanding results in several fields have yet to emerge。Leonardo da Vinci, despite his extensive experience, was only an extraordinary achievement in the field of art;If Goethe had left behind not poetry but only his works on optics and philosophy, he would not have even become a footnote in the most complete encyclopedia. This is true of great men, let alone ordinary people.
In the past, I used to think that many people were really good and "all-rounders", but now that I think about it, most of them are just "wide range of interests". To think that many people are "all-rounders" is a kind of perfectionism.
The pursuit of perfection can be a human bug. Think about what you want or ask of your husband or wife, many times is not perfectionism;Think about what you expect from your child, many times it's not perfectionism;Think about how much you imagine yourself is not perfectionism. Think about your expectations or requirements for your leaders and subordinates, and many times whether they are also perfectionism.
This kind of perfectionism, variants, is almost everywhere around us. "You and I are mortal, born in the world". Perfectionism is the enemy of seeking truth from facts. If you and I can reduce a little bit of perfectionism, we can be a little happier.
Seeing these words, some friends may say, "If you don't pursue perfection, you won't be motivated." This sentence presents my second gain. It is to overcome the opposition of conditioned reflexes and the choice of two.
1. Black and white and similar thinking.
If you don't pursue perfection, it means that you are not motivated", which is a typical opposite, two choices.
1. Black-and-white thinking. In fact, this is not a conflict in itself, the opposition is a reflex of the mind. If you still don't understand, then think about the black and white yin and yang fish in the gossip diagram. When I saw this picture, did I think that it was black and white, but in fact, how harmonious and unified this picture is.
The modern world is pluralistic, not unique, nor opposite, and neither pluralism nor difference is opposite. However, antagonistic thinking is ubiquitous, and it is easy to establish antagonism and attract people. For example, there are many people who advocate the opposition between management and management, and more people think that Chinese medicine and Western medicine are opposites, but in fact, these are all tools, just tools for you and me to survive.
If there is less antagonistic thinking, the world will be colorful and the ways to solve problems will be diverse.
These are these two takeaways of mine, "overcoming the opposite, binary choice of perfectionism that is ubiquitous in life and overcoming conditioning."
1. Black-and-white thinking. I remind myself from time to time and try to follow through with it.
In the past two years, there are two stories that have profoundly affected me, and I have mentioned them in other articles. At this point in the year-end and New Year holidays, I would like to revisit it again.
The first is what Mr. Guo Jianlong wrote in the afterword of "The Collapse of the Prosperous Age": In the more than ten years of living with them (Mr. Guo's grandparents).They have always taught me not to follow the crowd, to insist on my own thinking, to compress the material desires in my heart, to live at the lowest cost, and to satisfy my interests with the greatest efforts. To this day, my family and friends are still amazed by my frugal lifestyle, as if I were a stranger who had broken into this age of consumption. There are many more people who don't understand why I do things every day as anxious as if there is no tomorrow, always trying to get ahead of schedule and do more. I haven't watched TV in over twenty years, and apart from a few favorite singers I know by chance, I'm completely new to modern actors. In the eyes of those around me, I was a person without a life. But I know that all this is a treasure that my grandparents gave me, and I will be grateful to them for the rest of my life. It was they who taught me that one must live for one's own interests and persevere until the moment of death.
This story made me figure out how to live. I don't think it's too late now, isn't it someone who said, "The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, followed by now". Matter is endless, and taking material as the goal is to "follow the end with the end, and perish". If what you pursue and do is what you like, it is beautiful all the time.
The second is mentioned by Mr. Liu Yu in "Writing to the End": I saw another answer from a friend (answering "The end is really coming, what should I do that day"), he said: I will go to work in the company as always, do the unfinished project, and eat with my wife at night as always, and there will be no change from usual.
Teacher Liu Yu said that this answer is really jealous, how much a person loves his existing life, he will be willing to let the last day of his life be spent in such a step-by-step manner. His life is not "elsewhere", here and now.
I used to think, what happened to me, what happened to me. Now that I think about it, this is a big mistake. Life is here and now, we should live the present first, and then look forward to tomorrow and the future.
These are the two takeaways and the two stories. In the new year, I hope everyone can live happily according to or find a way that suits them.