When I was just graduating from college, I experienced the sudden death of my mother and my father aged a lot. He left his hometown to work in distant Fujian, where he spent two difficult years. However, his sister's divorce caused his father to return to his hometown and start working again. That's when he met his stepmother. The stepmother is a divorced woman who already has two married daughters and an unmarried son. When my father and I discussed with us that we wanted to be with our stepmother, my sister and I were very supportive. My stepmother is hardworking and kind, and she will help me do my laundry and clean the house every time. My father finally regained his smile and the family was filled with warmth again.
Looking back on this time, I am glad that my father has found happiness again. However, life's variables are often more unpredictable than we can imagine.
I'm 28 years old and feel like it's time to get married and start a family. However, buying a house in the city became the first condition for me to realize this plan. After I discussed with my father and stepmother, they did not hesitate to scrape together 140,000 yuan for me. This money is saved by their hard work, planting and selling corn. After I took out the 100,000 yuan I had saved for a down payment, I finally bought a two-bedroom house in the city and realized my dream. I secretly decided that I would honor my father and stepmother in the future.
However, her stepmother later developed rheumatoid arthritis, and her hands were deformed, she could not get cold water, and her knees could not bend. She couldn't even do simple household chores. So, her father stayed at home to take care of her. And after my wife and I got married, we brought my father and stepmother to our house to take care of our children. We often send our stepmom to the hospital to see a doctor, hoping that she will be able to do it soon**. Life seems to be going according to our plan, and the family is living happily ever after.
A gap gradually developed between the wife and the stepmother, and the number of quarrels increased. Eventually, the wife offered to drive her stepmother away and questioned her relationship with us. She believes that her stepmother is not our loved one and therefore there is no need to take care of her. I disagreed with my wife, but I couldn't convince her to change her mind.
In order to avoid further arguments, I decided to let my father and stepmother go to live with my sister for a while first. They move back and forth between their hometown and their sister's house, as the older sister has her own children to take care of. However, misfortune happened. The stepmother tried to sit on a chair with pulleys at her sister's house, but the chair moved, and she sat on the ground with her butt and broke her tail vertebrae. Unable to take care of her stepmother, the sister took her stepmother to her daughter.
My sister and father discussed and decided to divorce my father and stepmother. They think that we have taken care of our stepmother for 8 years, and if we continue like this, my father will be exhausted. However, the father was still thinking about it. After the stepmother returned to her daughter's house, the father rarely visited her because he took care of his sister's children and helped pack the goods. This has deepened the rift between them. Of course, the stepmother did not agree to the divorce. After she got better, she returned to the village, and her uncle and aunt took great care of her, sending rice, flour, oil, and helping with cleaning. However, she became the laughing stock of the whole village.
I don't really know what to do anymore. On the one hand, my wife and sister insisted on kicking my stepmom away and even filed for divorce. On the other hand, my stepmother was the wife of my biological father, and she took care of us in my home for many years. I was faced with a dilemma. I don't know how to balance family relationships. This left me feeling very confused and anxious.
Looking back on the whole situation, I realized that maintaining family relationships is not only the responsibility of one person, but also the joint efforts of other family members. As an important member of the family, I must actively guide and communicate with each other to try to resolve the conflicts and conflicts in the family. I plan to sit down with my wife and sister to have a good talk, sort out each other's positions and expectations, and find the best solution together.
In addition, I wanted to be honest with my father about my inner confusion and contradictions, and tell him about my difficulties and difficulties. I hope my father will understand my struggle and be able to give me some advice and guidance.
The most important thing is that I have in-depth communication and communication with my wife. I will try to make her understand the role that my stepmother played in our family, and my father's dependence and attachment to her. At the same time, I will try to emphasize the family bond between my wife and stepmother, and hope that she will find a more inclusive and understanding attitude on this issue.
When dealing with family conflicts, I will uphold the principles of equality, respect and understanding, and try my best to resolve the conflict and find a solution that is acceptable to everyone. After all, the family is a warm and harmonious place, and each of us should contribute to it.