The TV series "Parental Love" is always refreshing. Every character in the play is vividly imaged.
Among all the characters, Lao Ding and Dehua, a couple who came together halfway, are indeed an existence that cannot be ignored.
When the two first met, Dehua affectionately called Lao Ding "Big Brother Ding", and had a particularly close relationship with Lao Ding's former partner Xiu'e. However, in the twists and turns of fate, the two unexpectedly came together and became husband and wife.
When I first saw this marriage, I thought it was Lao Ding's concession to fate, and at the same time, it was also fate's kind return to Dehua.
When I look back on this marriage again, my perspective shifts. In my opinion, Lao Ding is not Edward, and Dehua does not necessarily really love Lao Ding.
If you look closely at Lao Ding's life experience, you will notice that Lao Ding always seems to exude an "unsatisfactory" mood.
Initially, when Lao Ding studied with Jiang Defu at school, his career was going well, but there were always some unsatisfactory things in his love life.
Since Lao Ding himself has a certain cultural accomplishment, he is also eager to pursue some noble aesthetic tastes.
However, his first wife, Wang Xiu'e, was actually a native of the countryside and knew nothing about poetry and painting.
When two people are talking, they are often not on the same channel.
Lao Ding was full of envy for Jiang Defu and An Jie next door, because their enthusiasm was invested in cotton, but they did not get any response, which made Lao Ding feel powerless.
A few years later, Xiu'e died of dystocia, while Lao Ding spent several years raising the child alone.
When Lao Ding was transferred to the island due to a career change and had the opportunity to choose a new partner, he also longed to find a partner who was well-educated and could communicate with him in depth.
Lao Ding initially started a relationship with Mr. Ge. These two people are very compatible, and they have both reached a critical moment to consider getting married. However, Lao Ding chose to retreat because of Mr. Ge's background.
Lao Ding is just an ordinary middle-aged man. His heart was full of all kinds of worries, unable to give unreservedly like Jiang Defu in the past, and even willing to give up everything for true love.
Therefore, Lao Ding could not meet Jiang Defu, who was willing to give everything for him, and his life was perfect.
Regrettably, this is the arrangement of fate.
After sorting out his emotions and sorrows, Lao Ding ignored Dehua's intention to marry him while enjoying Dehua's care, and was still looking for a suitable partner.
Obviously, Lao Ding's fortune is not very smooth. His favorite Wu Yizhu did not reveal his marriage history, and after the truth of the matter was revealed, he also scratched Lao Ding's face.
In the end, the relationship did not continue.
As the saying goes, one blow, then gradually weakens, and is exhausted again.
Lao Ding didn't muster up the courage to do anything, and the courage he mustered up again was also punctured, so he could only bow his head in loss and admit his life.
Therefore, he asked Teckwah for marriage. Together, these two people build a welcoming home.
Dehua and Lao Ding's former partner Xiu'e have a striking similarity in personality and temperament, and Lao Ding and Dehua's lifestyle seems to have embarked on that "old road" again.
It feels familiar, but slightly regretful.
But what is this possible?The most important thing is that our lives need to move on.
Dehua may not really like Lao Ding.
Jiang Defu once expressed to An Jie that he felt that the fate of his sister Jiang Dehua was really difficult.
When I was young, my parents died young, and our family was poor. When Jiang Dehua was growing up, he could only enjoy the banquet of a hundred families with a few brothers.
After a long period of growing up, she got permission from others. However, soon after the marriage, Jiang Dehua's husband went out to join the army with Jiang Defu, and since then there has been no news.
As a result, while Jiang Dehua was forced to become a widow, she also had to endure the curse of her in-laws and the entire villagers on her "Kefu", and take care of her mother-in-law wholeheartedly.
If it weren't for Jiang Defu seizing the opportunity to bring Jiang Dehua from his hometown to him, Jiang Dehua might have spent his life in his hometown.
Therefore, for Jiang Dehua, who has experienced such a thing, love seems to be an unattainable luxury. She wants to be an ordinary and ordinary person. All she pursues is to marry a down-to-earth man, have several children, and build a warm family according to the lifestyle of a traditional woman.
This desire became especially strong after she met Lao Ding, who had lost his wife.
Originally, Dehua's original intention was just to help Xiu'e and her sister-in-law, who were about to leave, and take care of their children.
But as time passed, she began to realize that since she and Lao Ding were both the same person and knew each other's backgrounds and relationships very well, she would rather choose to merge the two families into one and live together.
Over time, such an idea gradually turned into Teckwah's insistence. Thankfully, she was able to get her wish in the end.
Obviously, in this series of events, Dehua doesn't seem to care too much about whether Lao Ding really loves him. It's in her nature. What she really cares about is whether Lao Ding is willing to marry her, or whether he is willing to build a family with her.
Such behavior is not because of Dehua's deep love for Lao Ding, but because he puts himself in the dust, just because Dehua does not attach much importance to love.
In fact, the core issue that Teckwah has always been concerned about is simply whether he can live a happy family life.
Summary section. People have different emotional needs.
In the case of Lao Ding, he is enjoying a stable family life while also longing for deep spiritual communication with his partner.
Therefore, the innocent Dehua is not the perfect partner in Lao Ding's heart, he is more of a compromise choice made by Lao Ding in life.
Compromise can lead to contradictions, and entanglement leads to regret.
Luckily, Teckwah doesn't take it to heart, because her true emotional quest is just to build a warm family and live a happy life. Therefore, it would be great if she could marry Lao Ding and start a family, and it was not the key whether she loved it or not.
Interestingly, the difference in the emotional needs of the two unexpectedly brings a delicate balance to their relationship.
When Lao Ding occasionally felt sad, Dehua did not notice it, so he did not ask any further questions.
This provides Lao Ding with a moment and place where he can deal with his emotions independently. He can find his own shadow in life and find emotional satisfaction. When Lao Ding fully understands his emotions, he can reintegrate into his daily life and spend quality time with Dehua.
With the passage of time, after a long period of adaptation and running-in, a deep tacit understanding and emotional bond has been formed between Lao Ding and Dehua.
At that moment, when we look back on the past again, we will find that the regrets have diminished, and at the same time, in the layout of fate, we also experience some new emotions.