Let's say one day, we are walking down the street and suddenly we are bitten by a poisonous snake. Will we choose to ignore it and catch up with it in a life-and-death contest?I believe that most people's answer is no. After all, settling with poisonous snakes is not worth the cost. However, in real life, we often fall into such a trap and choose to bravely catch up with those "poisonous snakes".
In public, someone embarrassed you, and you may not be able to refute it at the time, but afterwards you swear in your heart: next time I will make him lose face. Or someone slanders you behind your back, and once you find out, you will be angry and confronted in person. Or, having a conflict of interest with an acquaintance makes you feel awkward and fall into the dilemma of choosing feelings and interests. Before we know it, we've fallen into the trap of chasing snakes many times.
Bingxin and Lin Huiyin, the names of these two talented women are familiar to everyone. Lin Hui was involved in rumors of a "love triangle" with Liang Sicheng and Xu Zhimo because of his outstanding talent. For Lin Huiyin, some people appreciate her independent and free thoughts, but some people question her morality. And Bing Xin is one of these people. She wrote a poem "I Advise You" for this purpose, although the words were harsh in the name of concern, she was actually blaming Lin Huiyin's private life and the relationship between men and women. For a while, Bingxin pushed Lin Huiyin to the target of everyone. After all, Bingxin is an important figure in the literary world, and her speech is bound to affect part of it.
However, unexpectedly, Bingxin and Lin Huiyin used to be good friends. Looking back, the two are incompatible. Everyone is looking forward to how Lin Huiyin will respond, after all, with such a sharp "advice", who knows that Lin Huiyin will continue her life as if nothing happened. Later, Bingxin once again used words to construct a trap, and this time the target was still Lin Huiyin. Lin Huiyin sent a jealous letter to Bingxin, but did not respond publicly. Lin Huiyin's calm reaction made the whole situation confusing.
When we try to respond to someone else's harm or offense to us in the same or stronger way in order to gain psychological satisfaction or a sense of justice, it often just starts a vicious cycle. Retaliation begets counter-retaliation, and the two sides are locked in endless fighting. This kind of fighting only exacerbates hatred and suffering, and does not solve the real problem, because the real problem is rooted in everyone's prejudices. Prejudice is hard to change, and we can't change others. Blindly pursuing claims of harm may only exacerbate tensions and lead to more conflict and**.
Instead of this, perhaps we can build a harmonious relationship and resolve disputes through calm communication and seeking compromises, and gradually eliminate malicious feelings. As wise and rational people, we should pursue peace and tolerance. Through tolerance and understanding, we may be able to break this vicious circle. Tolerance is not indulgence, but a rational and noble quality.