After an event happens, it tends to be slowly forgotten by people over time. However, many years later, when we look back at the "article Yao Di incident" that occurred in 2014, we will find that those once sensational details are still worth pondering. There is no doubt that Ma Yili was the person who received the most widespread public sympathy in this incident. 
A wife and mother, when life should be the most secure, are met with unimaginable betrayal from their intimate partners. This made countless people upset her and blame the article for what she did. However, should we also pay attention to the other parties involved in the incident, especially the controversial Yao Di?Not only did she lose the man she loved, but her acting career also plummeted in this incident. Now, many years later, it is worth looking back at the whole story. While blaming and criticizing, we also need to reflect. Love and marriage are inherently complex, and it is difficult to make absolute judgments. 
Can we easily judge a person's gains and losses?Maybe the just attitude is that after this whole thing happened, everyone was hurt in some way. That's the essence. Seeing that the article and Yao Di's secret love affair is in the world, Ma Yili can actually choose to divorce decisively and rebuild a new life. But she still gave the article a chance to preserve the marriage. As a mother, she is reluctant to break the family easily, after all, she also has two young children to take care of. 
In order to save everything, the article chose to bow its head and admit its mistakes and apologize publicly. He claimed that he would return to being a responsible father and husband. The two perform a rapprochement under the camera, trying to whitewash the broken family. Under pressure, they had to act like they were getting along. However, the affair is like a wound that can never be healed. Although everything seems to be fine on the surface, the article and Ma Yili's heart have long been broken. The superficial repair is just a self-anesthetizer, deceiving oneself that you can move on. In the end, the divorce after five years was just the most certain fate for the family. 
In this incident, the article not only lost his family, but also had a devastating impact on his acting career. Quitting the entertainment industry is almost inevitable. On the other hand, Ma Yili chose to continue to fight and gained wide recognition through her career. In the end, she was the one who was successfully reborn, and the article paid a heavy price. Yao Di, who was controversial in this incident, seems to have had some kind of fateful ridicule and teasing in his life experience later. After experiencing the hurt caused by emotional cheating, she still chose to marry someone else's wife again. The other party is a wealthy businessman who does business, and the married life of the two was originally plain and comfortable. 
However, the good times did not last long, and the originally stable marriage had problems again after just two years. Wang Jie doesn't seem to want to be tied down by a typical family, he still loves to spend time drinking, and he is ambiguous with other women. Some reporters have repeatedly seen Wang Jie's intimate behavior with different women, and there is no doubt that this is a typical derailment scene. Finally, Yao Di once again became the wife who was cheated on. Ironically, however, the public does not have much sympathy for this, but rather a kind of cynicism about Yao Di's self-inflicted consequences. After all, she once ruined a marriage as a third party, and now it is her turn to taste this pain. There are always such ironic coincidences in life, which makes people sigh. 
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, eight years have passed since the "article Yao Di incident". Most of the scandals that were once sensational have also faded out of the public eye. However, even as time passes, it is still necessary for us to look back and reflect on this period of time. Because it reveals a lot about human nature, about emotions, about morality. We can see from this that the three parties who seem to be on opposite sides of the world have all left scars of varying degrees in this incident. Yao Di's acting career fell from the peak to the bottom, and has not regained its momentumMa Wenwen's married life eventually broke down, and he also faded out of public view;Ma Yili relied on her strength and courage to regain her life and succeed. They have all gone through the trials of life, and all have tasted the pain of betrayal and infidelity. None of us has the right to trivialize what happens to a person. One day, we will all grow old. Therefore, when we look at their fate, we need to be more tolerant, understanding and compassionate. And I wish them all to come out of the shadow of life as soon as possible and welcome the new sunshine.