Workplace Skills Competition
In the workplace, many times, we have to flip the table and turn our faces.
Although no one wants to do this, but things have developed to a point where there is really no way to do it.
For example, I can't talk about it at work. A full range of support has been given: the technical solution is available;Raw materials, condiments and fuel, there is no shortage of anything. Counting on a big meal. As a result, a plate of garbage came out. - Who can accept this?Let's not talk about the expectations that were disappointed, and the frustration of not being able to satisfy the hunger when it came to the node, just look at the raw materials and fuel invested in the front, etc., which one is not the cost?At this time, if you don't turn your face, do you swallow that plate of garbage silently?
Another example is that the cooperation is gradually brought into the pit. Let's start with the fact that the beginning of cooperation was originally wishful thinking. It must have been through a process of judgment that we saw the point where we could achieve mutual benefit and win-win results. It is neither a one-sided effort nor a one-sided benefit.
Therefore, when cooperation has a problem, our first response should be to solve the problem, rather than immediately blaming the other party. It's not that I regret it on the sidelines, thinking that I was blind in the first place.
Rest assured, generally speaking, everyone was not blind at the beginning, and they could see clearly. However, don't forget that the industry market is always changing. When the environment changes, the considerations, the stakes, and the so-called standards of conscience change. What you think is unreasonable, from the other person's point of view, you will definitely be able to find a set of reasonable arguments so that you can be logically consistent. When you think the other person is a bad person, it doesn't mean that he didn't want to be a good person in the first place.
This is the way we treat people, and we try to empathize, to understand, to find his motivation for doing so. Perhaps, there will be an opportunity to bring cooperation back on track.
Even so, it is time to turn the face, but it is still necessary to turn the face.
How do you turn your face?
Choose the right time. Once you find the signs of a pit, you have to go with alarm bells in your head. Take the time to dive in and dig deeper. Try to grasp first-hand information as much as possible, rather than relying on hearsay and inquiring around. For example, the business status of the other company, personal situation, past and recent cooperation with others, etc. While collecting from open channels, we also learned about it through acquaintances in the industry. In short, be quick. The information you get should be sufficient to make a judgment.
Choose the good way. No matter how many reasons are given, it is not a pleasant thing to flip the table and turn your face. Pots and pans are shattered, and no one can guarantee that they will not be injured by mistake. At this juncture, there is no need to be too complete.
One is to be prepared. Before turning the other cheek, you must be prepared to stop your own losses. Protect yourself and your team from being scratched by debris.
Second, it is necessary to use the tool of emotional expression well. You can look at the actual situation and appropriately express your joys, sorrows, and sorrows. The purpose is not to vent, but to control the spread.
The third is to stay sober. Turning the other cheek is not a matter of seeking perfection, not asking for the completeness of things, nor asking for one's own perfection. Especially the latter, don't put yourself on the moral high ground. Look under the mustard tree, under the rules, how to come, how to come. Don't be blinded by the aura of the past, don't be introduced into a new trap by the bait that is thrown, and don't drag yourself into the pit as a good person.
If you have made up your mind to turn the other cheek, then it is too early.
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