Almost everyone will say, "I admire the kind of people who look calm and calm, and I want to be like that." ”
But it's not easy to be like that, when we were young, we were flustered because of our youth, and when we grew up, we were panicked because of pressure, as if there was always a reason for us to be less at ease.
This kind of calm and calm, quiet and beautiful quality of the heart needs to be polished over the years.
But as the old saying goes, indifferent to clear ambition, quiet to far-reaching,Calmness, tranquility, has to do with our hearts, with our happiness,Inner peace is the ultimate pursuit of almost every one of us.
And everyone needs to go through some things, see some people, and think about some problems clearly, before they may suddenly become firm in their eyes and calm and calm in the face of things.
The original text of the twenty-sixth chapter of the Tao Te Ching is written like this:
Heavy is light roots, quiet is restless. It is a saint who never leaves the baggage all day long. Although there is a view of glory, the swallow is transcendent, but the master of ten thousand vehicles, and the world is lightIf it is light, it will lose its roots, and if it is rash, it will lose its king.Heavy is light roots, quiet is restless. ”
Reciting this sentence repeatedly, I thought of the feather shuttlecock I kicked when I was a child.
On the heavy base, there are a few chicken feathers, although the chicken feathers are large and beautiful, but it is the heavy base that gives the shuttlecock direction.
I also remembered the summer when I was a kid.
In the weather when there is no electric fan and no air conditioning, when I am sweating like rain, I will often silently recite a very useful sentence in my heart, and my heart will be calm and naturally cool.
At that time, I thought it was amazing, and I thought it was really strange, it turned out to be quiet, and it could really be cold.
Now I know that stillness can't change the temperature, but stillness can change my mind, because when the heart is calm and not irritable, it will naturally feel cool.
Heavy for the light root, quiet for the restless king", the "heavy" and "quiet" represent a person's concentration, knowledge, and self-cultivation.
A person with determination, knowledge and cultivation may be the same as ordinary people most of the time, but when they really encounter things, they always make more correct decisions than ordinary people, because they know what is most important.
If you are light, you will lose your roots, and if you are impatient, you will lose your king", a person with an empty heart, no matter how much he has, he will feel missing, and a person who is impetuous will be easily swayed by the external environment.
Such as nouveau riche, such as road rage.
The former are likely to re-impoverish their lives because they are unable to harness money, or worse, while the latter may be impulsive and make irreparable mistakes.
This chapter of the Tao Te Ching reminds me of a word that Mr. Zhou Ling talked about in "Cognitive Awakening" - mental bandwidth.
He said that if a person's mind is not sufficient, it is easy to act on the spur of the moment, impulsively, and make wrong decisions, but "with the abundance of mental bandwidth, we can have the vision, patience, action, and self-control to support us in any environment."
So how do you keep your mind rich?Teacher Zhou Ling proposed five methods, all of which have nothing to do with money and are related to awareness, and the following three are excerpted below.
First, to maintain environmental awareness and make rational choices is to be able to perceive such an environment in time when you are in a stressful environment, so that you can take the initiative to withstand pressure and concentrate on making rational choices.
Second, stay aware of your goals, less is more. Many times we are not calm because we don't know what we want, we have too many goals, we want to do everything, and in the end we can't do anything well. Being aware of what really matters to you allows you to focus on what matters.
3. Be aware of desires and review decisions. For example, when you get up in the morning, you want to look at your mobile phone to reflect the desire for information, eating too much reflects the desire for food, and hoarding things is the desire to pile up material things......When you are aware of your desires, you will be able to calm down at a certain moment when you make a decision, and you will not be driven by your desires to make the right decision.
Will these three methods make you feel empowered, and the next time you pick up your phone, will you subconsciously think about whether your desire for information is at work, and is this desire necessary?That's the first thing that comes to my mind anyway.
Awareness is really important, but it is not necessarily easy to do, because awareness is also a kind of ability, which needs to be cultivated slowly, so we have to take the initiative to accept the experience of life, and we need to read more books, read good books, think more, learn more Xi.
Finally,May we all live as we like, calm and ambitious, quiet and far-reaching, peaceful, transparent and wise.