At our wedding, my father-in-law suddenly came on stage and grabbed the microphone, and he began to expose his family ugliness
On the day when Wu Wei and I confirmed our engagement, Wu Wei's father was unexpectedly absent.
This really makes me wonder. Just the afternoon before, Wu Wei and I had accompanied him to buy new clothes and shoes. His grandfather was very happy, and kept saying that he had never worn a suit until he was this age, and it was indeed a person who relied on clothes and horses to rely on saddles. It's just that there seems to be some dissatisfaction on his face.
After Wu Wei and I listened, we didn't know how to respond.
Maybe he realized that he was inappropriate, and hurriedly added: Oh, the engagement is not my engagement, don't steal the limelight from your son.
I couldn't help but laugh out loud, this old man is quite humorous.
All the preparations are already in place, how can there be a sudden absence?
I asked Wu Wei, and he told me that his father didn't get up in the morning, saying that his stomach was upset and that he had been running in the bathroom all night last night. His father said that he would not go today, worried that it would be too late to go to the toilet, and it would be really embarrassing.
Wu Wei said he advised his dad to take some antidiarrheal pills, but his dad said it wouldn't work so quickly. Although he proposed to take him to the hospital, his father said that there was no need to make a fuss, just lie down, and urged Wu Wei to go quickly and not delay the business.
At the engagement banquet, Wu Wei has been absent-minded, and he has always turned off his phone when he calls his father.
At the banquet, my dad scolded Wu Wei, saying that his dad didn't take us seriously and didn't show his face to attend his son's engagement banquet. The relatives next to him also coaxed and said a lot of fanning the flames, forcing Wu Wei to be difficult to deal with.
After the banquet, Wu Wei left in a hurry. But that night he called me ** and said he was going to break up with me.
I asked him why he was doing this, and it was like we were trying to get to this point, and you had to give up. He asked me to ask my mom, and I was even more confused. Didn't my mom already agree to our marriage?
I ran up to my mom and asked her what the hell was going onShe didn't dare look at me directly, but I stared straight at her. She shrugged helplessly, pretending to be relaxed and said, "It's nothing, I just asked his dad to agree, don't participate in your engagement and marriage ceremony." ”
I wondered why
It's because he's like that, he might scare away a table of people. Your dad is so picky. My mom looked dismissive.
Who to scare, appearance is not the most important thing, the key is people's hearts. My questioning left my mom speechless. In the end, she said helplessly: "Anyway, I won't agree to him to attend the wedding." With that, he walked away.
At night, I lay in bed and felt very aggrieved: other people's marriages are smooth, why is it so difficult to come to me.
Actually, the first time I brought Wu Wei home, my parents still liked him very much. Although his appearance is ordinary, he has a cheerful personality, a sweet mouth, and is very lively.
My dad likes to play with flowers and plants, and our family lives on the first floor, which has a large yard full of all kinds of flowers and plants, and there are countless flower pots.
When Wu Wei first came, my dad was changing the soil for these potted plants, making a lot of mud. Without saying a word, he rolled up his sleeves and went to help. Although he didn't understand, he was obedient. Whatever my dad said, he did it, and he was not afraid of getting dirty, which instantly touched the old man's heart.
My mom pays special attention to maintenance and makeup. Wu Wei brought her a set of high-end skin care products for the first time, which made my mother happy like a little girl with flower disease. Although our family is doing well, she is still reluctant to buy such expensive skin care products.
Wu Wei came for the second time and brought a large neatly trimmed osmanthus tree to my father. My dad felt like a treasure, saying that such a big tree, with such a beautiful shape, the market price was at least more than 10,000 yuan.
I didn't expect Wu Wei to be so good at pleasing the old man, the old man said something casually when he first saw him, and he remembered it all.
Looking at the smiles on my parents' faces, I thought we had won the first battle.
However, within a few days of Wu Wei's joy and me, my mother changed her mind.
She never knew what she had heard, saying that Wu Wei was a short** anchor, and in a strict sense, he was a person without a formal job. She felt that she and my dad were both a bit of an identity, and I was a teacher, so I couldn't marry someone of this level. She said that the children of their colleagues are at least teachers, doctors, civil servants, not to mention others, at least decent.
What made her even more angry was that she heard that Wu Wei was still an anchor who sold cosmetics, which made my mother even more angry: No wonder, how can a big man know so much about cosmetics and recommend lipstick colors to me.
I smiled and responded to her, don't look at outdated standards, many boys are now engaged in cosmetics sales, which is also a legitimate profession.
My mother said disdainfully, no matter how you say it, it is not graded, this kind of work in ancient times was to pick a basket and shout along the street, but now it has been replaced by a screen.
A big man mixes lipstick and foundation all day long, neither male nor female, what kind of physique. How can you support your family with just a few shouts?Don't even be able to afford a child by then.
Wu Wei and I told the truth, and he said that it was normal for the old man to understand. Let me not be in a hurry, I can't eat hot tofu in a hurry, he has his own way.
After a month or two, Wu Wei took the initiative to come to the door. He didn't talk to me before he came, which made me a little nervous, mainly because I was afraid that my mother's sharp words would embarrass him.
As usual, he brought another set of skincare products for my mom and a potted plant for my dad. My mom kept a straight face and ignored him. My dad smiled, said hello, and then carried the potted plants to the yard.
Our family has always been yin and yang.
When Wu Wei put a real estate certificate in front of my mother, my mother didn't bother to read it. Wu Wei helped her open the inner page again, and my mother glanced at it with a surprised face: "You-don't regret it?."”
Wu Wei shook his head: "No, and I have to trouble you to keep this house book for us." ”
Okay, if you have a heart, I'll let you go first. After my mother finished speaking, she immediately got up and went to the yard with her book.
I didn't expect that a house would make my mother compromise, which was too unexpected.
In the following days, Wu Wei and I were very busy with the wedding. At this moment, my mother changed her mind again, she said: "I'd rather you be an old girl for the rest of your life than let you marry Wu Wei." ”
I was furious: "You agree for a while, disagree for a while, what do you want us to do?".”
She was stubborn: "I will never marry my daughter to a murderer as a daughter-in-law." ”
I shouted anxiously: "It's been years since his father let him out, and he killed someone by mistake because he was defending himself." ”
My mother was indifferent, insisting that she was not willing to take this risk, and that as long as one person knew, she would preach the teachings and be pointed at for the rest of her life. I countered, "Do you think you're a big star?"Do others have so much interest in your family's affairs?"My mom said she didn't care, she just knew what people would think of my daughter marrying into a family like this if it spread. I'm speechless.
At this time, my dad also stepped forward. He said that when he saw that Wu Wei sent only my name on the real estate certificate, he and my mother were impressed by him.
After all, if there are endless quarrels and arguments over the name on the real estate deed these years, the family will become very discordant. This young man is not small, which is enough to prove his sincerity to you. Your mom and I don't care too much about the rest.
Listening to my dad's words, my mood was much better. Wu Wei never mentioned the matter of the real estate certificate to me, and it seems that he wanted to surprise me.
My father went on to say that more than 2,000 years ago, before Confucius's grandfather married his daughter, he had to understand the details of the Kong family. Your mother and I see that you two really love each other, and we don't care about his family background. But no matter how much I don't care, I can't accept the situation of my future in-laws.
The in-laws of our colleagues are all university professors, hospital directors and so on. When the time comes, people will ask me: What do you do in your in-laws?How do I answer?You're not too young, and you have to think about it from the perspective of your parents in all aspects.
My dad's words were reasonable, and I was speechless.
In this way, my marriage with Wu Wei suddenly came to an impasse.
Wu Wei was very depressed for a while, but I always believed that there was no way to heaven. This time it was my turn to comfort him, and I said that good things will be grinding, and there will definitely be a turnaround.
A few days later, one weekend, my parents went to the wedding of a relative's child. When they returned, I was sitting on the couch chasing a suspense drama.
As soon as my mother entered the door, she began a series of complaints, saying, "I really don't understand, what do they think?"My daughter is obviously pregnant with a big belly, so I have to hold a wedding at this time, it's not good-looking, right?Obviously, you can do it when you don't show your feelings. If you go to your mother-in-law's house like this, you will be looked down upon by others, as if you can't get married. ”
I was seeing a bloody crime scene in the play, and I suddenly felt nauseous and couldn't help but vomit because I had just eaten greasy pig's feet.
My mother hurried over and asked me what had happened. I was about to explain, but she stared at me anxiously: "Oh my God, are you pregnant too?".Look at my mouth, I was talking about other people's daughters just now. ”
Seeing her so nervous, I had an idea and pretended to make a mistake and ask for forgiveness. I also promised not to disgrace her, saying that I would deal with it tomorrow. My mother hurriedly stopped me and patted me on the head angrily: "What to do, see what you need to fight the most." ”
That night, I became the object of special attention, and my mother wouldn't let me do anything. Originally, there was a clear division of household chores in our family, with my mother cooking the dishes, my father washing the dishes, and I mopping the floor. But from that night onwards, my honorable right to housework was ruthlessly stripped away.
In the middle of the night, I got up to drink water and heard my parents talking in a low voice in my room. I quietly approached the door, heard the words pregnancy, child and other words, came up with a plan, pretended to be a big deal, and deliberately said that I wanted to kill the child, otherwise I would cancel my marriage with Wu Wei, and I didn't want to be a single mother.
My mother looked at me with a blank face, stopped talking, and after a moment told me that she would accompany me to the hospital for a check-up in the morning. I proposed to let Wu Wei accompany me, and she agreed, saying that young people are more flexible in things such as hospital ** and taking lists.
The next day, Wu Wei came to pick me up, looking a little cramped. The mother's attitude has changed, at least not so embarrassed anymore.
When we got home, we brought back a pregnancy test sheet from a friend, and I said solemnly, "The doctor recommends that the first baby should be kept, otherwise there may be a risk of recurrent miscarriage later." ”
Mother replied, "Oh, then you're ready, get engaged." Let your dad know, let's discuss the relevant matters, you get engaged first, and then get married in a month. ”
Wu Wei and I were a little hesitant, but we didn't dare to ask more.
I don't want to get married, so forget it. "Mother saw it and deliberately teased us.
I quickly ran over and kissed her on the cheek to show my gratitude and say something thankful to Dade.
I learned that the reason why my mother agreed so readily is because of a history. My parents got married after graduating from college, and my mother worked in a public institution and became pregnant as soon as she started working. She considered that her career was not stable, so she beat the child first when she was young, and planned to ask for it later.
However, three subsequent pregnancies resulted in recurrent miscarriages, which made her realize the seriousness of the problem. When she was pregnant with me, she was in her thirties, and she was able to keep the child through the ** of Chinese medicine. Therefore, seeing that I might be pregnant, she was worried that I would follow the path she had taken, so she could only choose to support me to keep this child, but she was afraid that I would not be dignified in marriage because of this, so she was anxious for us to get engaged and get married.
Mother can only turn a blind eye to her father-in-law's attitude, mainly because they like Wu Wei, so they will agree to all this.
It can be seen that in the face of parents, wisdom is needed. My mother's mind is understandable, and I got an unusual marriage because of it.
I never thought that my mother would be so sensible and actually play scheming at the engagement party. She called Wu Wei's father in advance, deliberately saying that he would not attend our banquet the night before the engagement, and should not come to the wedding banquet.
For the sake of his son, Wu Wei's father agreed stubbornly, so the next day he deliberately said that he had a stomachache and couldn't come.
Originally, this matter was almost hidden, but I didn't expect the old man to be unhappy, and he drank a lot of stuffy wine at home alone. As soon as Wu Wei went home and asked, he confided in the truth after drinking.
It is reasonable for Wu Wei to be angry, because in his opinion, how can his son's wedding be without Lao Tzu?After all, his dad was the weakest place in his heart.
When Wu Wei was young, something happened to his father, and not long after he came back from prison, his mother was bedridden again. Wu Wei's father continued to take care of him until he finally passed away.
Wu Wei's father listened to people's cynicism because he was in prison. In order not to let his son be wronged, he did not find another partner, and the father and son have always relied on each other.
After Wu Wei's mother died, his father took over a large area of mountainous land, planted a mountain full of oranges, and cultivated many osmanthus trees and camphor trees.
This time to buy a house, Wu Wei's father took out 600,000 yuan at once. With his father's solid backing, Wu Wei only dared to take a path he liked after graduation.
His father often said that young people should not only look at the immediate benefits, but must spend their time and energy on the things they really like, even if they work hard, they will feel sweet. This is also where Wu Wei has deep respect for his father, because his father always respects him and pays attention to future development.
In fact, let children sincerely respect their elders, not only to see whether they have money, but also whether they really support them. Wu Wei has made it clear that a wedding without his father is imperfect, and he would rather not hold it.
I told Wu Wei about our situation from beginning to end, and told him, don't be discouraged, this matter is indeed my mother too much, we ignore her for the time being, and wait for her to come over and admit her mistakes.
I'm so sure because I know how much my mom values me getting married. She often said that the marriage conditions were difficult in their time, so she wanted to give me a beautiful and grand wedding. And seeing my pregnant belly getting bigger and bigger, she was very anxious, although it was not obvious on the surface, but I knew how anxious she was. In the end, she will definitely compromise and agree to let Wu Wei's father attend the wedding.
In the next few days, every time I was with my mother, I would pretend to vomit from time to time, looking at my mother with a sad brow. Although she was anxious, she still insisted on not giving in.
In the end, it was my dad who stepped forward to be the mediator. My dad said that he couldn't escape for a while, he couldn't hide for a lifetime, and since they were all sons and daughters, they would have to meet sooner or later. It's better to accept it calmly now, and it seems that our women are generous.
In desperation, my mother finally agreed. Wu Wei and I finally breathed a sigh of relief.
After a lot of twists and turns, we finally ushered in the wedding day. Although my mother was not completely relieved, she tried to put Wu Wei's father aside when arranging the seats. But Wu Wei didn't buy it, and personally arranged him in the first row.
Wu Wei's father has been sitting there quietly, not saying a word, and not talking to others, like an obedient schoolboy. His face was as calm as water, but his heart was definitely turbulent.
The wedding went on as planned, until the parents of the couple gave their congratulations and my dad stepped onto the stage. On our side, it is usually the man's parent who speaks.
After my dad said some good wishes that were ready, the audience burst into applause.
Then suddenly, Wu Wei's father walked onto the stage.
It was a completely unexpected event. I could feel my mom's anxiety standing on the stage, and she must have been muttering in her heart.
Wu Wei's father walked briskly to the stage**, took the microphone from my dad's hand, cleared his throat, and began to speak
Dear relatives and friends, I am the father of the groom Wu Wei. You see, I'm a one-eyed dragon, I didn't scare you!Wu Wei's father also learned the tone of a young man, added a little self-deprecation, and smiled mischievously.
This eye was poked blind by a drunk colleague many years ago. ”
We both drank a lot that day, and he had some ill behavior towards my son's mom, which ended up causing an argument. He picked up a fruit knife and slashed at me, and I threw myself at him, but when he fell to the ground, he suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and died on his head. I was also sentenced for being overly defensive, and I spent a few years**.
Wu Wei's father said this, and the whole scene was silent.
It may be a bit of a stretch to say this today, but I think it's necessary. One is to let everyone know the real situation of my imprisonment, and I don't want my daughter-in-law to be talked about because of me, which is too unfair to the girl. When I heard this, I almost burst into tears.
Second, I want to say to my son that the wedding is for others to see, and the vows are for yourself. You can't just say it nicely, you have to do everything in it, it's not a matter of a while, it's a lifetime thing. ”
As long as you can do it, Dad believes that you will be happy for a lifetime!Of course, Dad believes you can do it!”
After Wu Wei's father said this, Wu Wei choked up and responded loudly: "Dad, I will definitely be able to do it!."”
There is a third point, to my son, and also to everyone, drink less wine. Drinking too much and making mistakes can harm others and yourself. I, for example, is the best example!”
Thank you, and please eat more and drink less!”
As soon as Wu Wei's father finished speaking, the scene burst into warm applause.
I took a special look at my parents, who got up from their seats and applauded.
Wu Wei and I walked up to Wu's father and didn't say a word. Wu Wei took his left arm, and I took his right arm. At this time, my parents also came over, and my mother reached out to hold Wu Wei's father, apologized and expressed gratitude, and then motioned for the photographer to take a family photo for us.
At the moment when I finished filming, I saw tears flashing in Wu Wei's father's eyes. I believe that it is a tear of happiness.
I saw my parents smiling, and I believed that it was a happy smile.
I believe that from now on, Wu Wei and I will live very happily!