Someone asked the question, "Which type of person is the hardest to find happiness?"The unexpected answer is: those who always hang on to themselves and struggle to get out of the shadows.
Yes, our lives are like bumpy paths, and it is inevitable that there will be times when we fall.
But, to put it bluntly, it's a drag that makes us spin in place and miss the scenery ahead.
So, why not treat yourself differently?Every mistake is a step forward.
Don't let yesterday's shadow cloud today's sunshine.
Let go of those self-blaming baggage, and you will find that there are countless opportunities for life to start over.
I remember that piano solo, it should be the night when Enqi shined. He has been a ** genius since he was a child, and every time he goes on stage, he can make the audience fascinated. But on that night that should have been glorious, he was so nervous that his hands trembled, and a simple mistone made his whole body freeze.
There was silence in the audience, and the tutor's eyes were full of disbelief. Enqi had no choice but to bow awkwardly and silently**. At that scene, he felt like a deserter when he looked back, and the whole world seemed to say that he was finished.
He locked himself in his room, day by day, not daring to see anyone, let alone touch the piano. He began to wonder how he could be so prone to errorBut as time passed, he realized that it wasn't really a big deal. The world is still turning, and life has to go on.
It only later did he realize that the misnote was just a vignette, and there was no need to let it dictate his life. He got up again, walked to the piano, picked up the tune, and played it over and over again. Every time I press the button, it is like telling myself: life is about constantly trying and moving forward bravely. Who hasn't missed a beat?
It's normal to make a mistake. In the workplace and in life, you have to make a mistake from time to time. Maybe it was carelessness, maybe it was bad luck that day, or maybe there were too many things in the outside world that we couldn't control. The important thing is, what happens if you make a mistake?
There is nothing wrong with self-criticism, it can make us reflect, and it can also allow us to take a step forward. However, if self-blame turns into self-consumption, the gains outweigh the losses. Stumbling up on past mistakes, you can't move forward.
Maugham said that when the milk is spilled, it doesn't help to cry, because it seems that the whole universe is there to help knock it over. In life, there must be a few times when the milk is spilled, and these little mistakes are actually helping us grow.
None of us are perfect, and it's normal to fall once in a while. They are all adults and need to wrestle to learn to walk. It's not a big deal, if it's wrong, it's wrong, the key is to get up and keep walking.
Once Master Hongyi said, "If you are wrong, you are wrong, and don't forget to forgive yourself immediately." "What's the use of thinking about the poured milk and lamenting it?It's better to wipe it clean and prepare to pour a new one.
A lawyer, once on his way home from overtime at night, suddenly received an urgent ** from a client, saying that he would immediately ask for a document.
He didn't say a word, turned around and went back to the company, and got the documents ready and sent them out overnight. As a result, the next day, as soon as he woke up, he saw that the customer was @ him in the group, and there was a problem in the file.
When he looked at it, it was really, there were some small places that had not been dealt with properly.
Change it immediately, send it immediately, and then take a breather. But as soon as he stepped on the high-speed rail, news came again, and the customer said that he was not meticulous in his work. Now he wondered, reflecting on whether he was too careless. But he was really busy at that time, he had to work until ten o'clock every night, and he felt like he was about to die.
The mistake is in the details, and he admits it. But that's all he can do. So he decided that it was time to take a leave of absence and get some rest. He understands that only when he is in full state can he do every job well and truly be worthy of the trust of every customer.
Don't always blame yourself, since it happened, learn some lessons and move on. In our time, we panic at every turn, and it's good to be able to calm down and reflect on ourselves. However, knowing that mistakes can be corrected is the real skill.
Know how to be tolerant of yourself. After all, only by letting go of the baggage of the past can we travel lightly and face new challenges. The so-called growth is to constantly renew oneself and become stronger every day than yesterday.
Life is like a roller coaster, there are peaks and valleys, just do your best, why bother to be boring?To maintain the best mindset is not to be obsessed with the past, not to be afraid of the future, to enjoy the present moment, and to live in the present.
When Kazuo Inamori first came out of society, he had a strong accent, which was a sign of his rural background. But in the city, the accent made him feel inferior and feel like an outsider.
He didn't dare to answer **, and he was also stumbling when talking to customers, for fear that others would hear his difference.
This became an obstacle in his workplace, his performance was not satisfactory, and he felt extremely anxious. He thought it would be nice if he could get rid of that accent.
He practiced hard, but found that the more impatient he was, the more difficult it was to change, and his accent seemed to become his brand.
One day, he got the hang of it and figured it out. He's from the country, so why not have an accent?
So, he no longer concealed it, no longer avoided it, and began to answer generously and communicate with people.
Not only can questions be asked directly, but speeches are becoming more and more confident.
Unexpectedly, many people felt that he was kind and credible because of this truth. Since he accepted his accent, he has become more comfortable at work, and his popularity has become better and better.
He understands that the most important thing is not that you come from, but that you are going to **, how you go.
We always feel that we are not perfect enough, and we always want to polish ourselves. If you want to improve, you can't do anything, and if you want to get better, it seems like you can't climb the peak.
The result?It is to live more and more difficult days in entanglements and worries.
But in fact, each of us is a coin with cracks, both sparkles and flaws. If you stop where you are because you are afraid of making a mistake, how can you see the scenery in the distance?
So, don't be too harsh, be lenient with yourself, and take your time.
Your mind is relaxed, and the day of auspicious stars may be coming soon.
And, don't forget, in the eyes of others, your 'shortcomings' may be what attracts you the most.
Remember, those crevices may be the places where the sun shines in.
Socrates said that a life without reflection is not worth living.
However, I think that too much introspection will not survive.
In a lifetime, there is really no need to blame yourself, and there is no need to always feel that you owe anyone. You must understand that living easily is really living.
You see, no one is born perfect. No matter what you do, work or make friends, dedication is a must, but as a result, if you get good, you will go with the flow, and if you don't meet your expectations, you will laugh generously.
In this way, you will not be tense all the time, and happiness will come uninvited. Don't forget, true happiness is the kind that springs up from the depths of your heart.
So, don't be too perfect, everyone has their own rhythm and their own way of being happy.
Pay attention, take a deep breath, smile, your happiness, your life, are all in this moment, in your heart.