In life, we always care about what others think of us, and strive to maintain our image in the eyes of others. We want to be a good child, a good student, a good husband, a good wife, but it all seems to be done for someone else's sake. Therefore, we feel very hard and very tired. Why is that?
We care too much about what others think, and it comes from an inner sense of insecurity. We want to gain a sense of security by affirming our worth through the approval of others. However, this practice often causes us to lose ourselves and fall into a state of passivity and dependence. We focus too much on the eyes of others and ignore our own inner needs and feelings.
We are afraid to face our own inadequacies and failures. In life, we are afraid of disappointing others and afraid of facing criticism and ridicule from others. Therefore, we have to try to hide our shortcomings and try to be perfect. This pressure prevents us from coming up with our failures and prevents us from truly growing.
Our over-concern for what others think of us also stems from society's expectations of us. In this competitive society, we are expected to be a perfect person. However, this anticipation often leaves us feeling stressed and exhausted. We have to sacrifice our time and energy to meet society's expectations.
So, how do you get rid of this exhaustion?
First, we need to learn to identify ourselves. We all have our own unique values and meanings, and we don't need to rely on the recognition of others. We can find our inner strength through self-reflection and self-growth. It is only when we truly identify with ourselves that we can break free from dependence on others.
Second, we need to learn to face our own shortcomings and failures. Everyone has their own shortcomings, and that's normal. We need to learn to accept our shortcomings and be brave in the face of failure. Only then can we truly grow.
Finally, we need to learn to release stress. We can release the stress in our hearts through exercise, meditation, reading, etc. At the same time, we must also learn to reject unnecessary expectations and protect our mental space.
In short, we don't have to care too much about what others think, and we don't have to live for others. We can find ourselves in the eyes of others and release the stress and exhaustion in our hearts. Let's face life bravely and live our own lives.
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