Cheating is unacceptable for any partner, so forgiving cheating is hard.
It is also a topic full of controversy and mixed emotions. Some believe that infidelity is an unforgivable betrayal, while others advocate tolerance and understanding.
However, marriage is different from love, unless you have enough strength and a strong psychology to leave desperately, many times you will still be entangled and worried.
Everyone's position and point of view on this issue is different.
In fact, the only condition for forgiveness for cheating is:
He still has value.
It's not a nice word, but it's true.
This value includes a lot, whether it is maintaining the face given by a family, or financial support, or his care and care for the children.
As long as you don't still love him, or feel like he still loves you.
1. A complete family has face.
Some people insist on not divorcing not because of love, but because of face and the belief that the integrity of the family has an important impact on the development of children.
On the one hand, marriage is regarded as a social relationship, and divorce often triggers discussion and concern among relatives, friends, neighbors, colleagues, etc. In the face of social pressure, some people are afraid to be considered a sign of a failed marriage, and they would rather endure an unhappy marriage than face criticism and spurning. In this case, face becomes the driving force for not getting divorced.
On the other hand, they believe that a complete home can provide a stable growth environment and better psychological construction for children.
It helps children form good values and a stable emotional foundation, increasing their sense of well-being and security.
2. Financial support.
This is also a consideration for forgiving infidelity.
In real life, if the cheating partner is still able to take financial responsibility and keep the family running, then the other party may be more inclined to be tolerant in considering forgiveness.
After all, financial stability can bring a sense of security and life security to the family, and it will be very difficult to be alone with children after divorce without help.
3. Care and care for children.
There are people who don't love their partners, but they are good to their children.
Therefore, if the cheating partner cares about the child and is willing to take responsibility and participate in their life, then the other party may think that it is in the child's interest to forgive the cheating.
After all, children need the company and love of their parents, and a complete family environment is very important for their development. In this case, the partner may be more willing to make a tolerant decision based on the child's future.
However, despite the existence of such conditions, it is not easy to forgive cheating. Emotional rifts take time and effort to repair, and trust rebuilding is a long and difficult process.
Many people will always have a crack in their hearts that will not heal, and from time to time they will be suspicious, crazy, and depressed.
I can only say that since I have chosen to forgive, no matter what the reason, don't go to the old thing and bring it up again, it will be a disservice to myself.
For the rest of his life, it is better to treat him as a partner, live a good life, and give full play to his maximum function.
Otherwise, it's not worth it if you draw the ground as a prison and trap yourself.