On the stage of life, the family always occupies a crucial position. It is the cradle of our growth and the harbor of our souls. However, in real life, the relationship between family members often becomes a problem in our hearts. How to deal with family relationships and avoid harm has become a topic we need to face.
A family is like a big family, and everyone has their own role and place. Just as a snowflake falls on the ground, turns into water, and freezes into ice, it can no longer be separated. We were connected by blood, sat around a table to eat, grew up together, started a family. However, family relationships often become complicated over time. From the beginning of the landing, we have the fetters of blood relationship, and in the process of growing up, we are accompanied by various contradictions and disputes.
In the face of family conflicts, we can't help but ask: why do relatives hurt each other?Why is there a fight among the chickens?This is because we often ignore the "law of the flock". In a flock, if there is a chicken that stands out from the crowd, it tends to be the target of public criticism. The same applies to family relationships. When we highlight ourselves too much, or pursue personal interests too much, it often triggers jealousy and resentment from our loved ones. And this jealousy and resentment, once intensified, can lead to tension and conflict in family relationships.
To avoid harm, we need to learn the "law of the flock", that is, to be able to be in a group and be alone. First of all, we must learn to keep a low profile. Don't stand out from the crowd, but take the initiative to be inferior and avoid all kinds of jealousy. As "Caigen Tan" said: "In the hot and cold state, the rich are more important than the poor;Jealousy, flesh and blood are especially ruthless to outsiders. "If we put ourselves too prominent, it often triggers jealousy and resentment from our loved ones. Therefore, we must learn to keep a low profile and not show our talents and abilities too much.
We need to learn to grow independently. When we grow up, we have to learn to live independently and build our own small family. Instead of getting entangled in family disputes, it is better to stay away from that group of "chickens" and pursue your career and life. We must have our own goals and pursuits, and no longer be dragged down by our loved ones. At the same time, we must also respect the choices of others and not interfere with their lives. As Zhao Yuping said: "If a crane has to go to the chickens, then there are only two final results: either it is forced to die by the chickens, or it is assimilated by the chickens." "We need to learn to grow independently and pursue our dreams and lives.
Even though we need to grow independently, we still need to keep in touch and connect with our families. In filial piety, we must learn to be generous and tolerant. Although there may be conflicts and disputes between family members, we must remember that it is our duty and responsibility to be filial to our parents. Stooping to the "flock", we have to learn to pretend to be confused. No matter what conflicts and disputes there are among our families, we cannot stay out of them. We must fulfill our obligations and responsibilities to take care of the lives and health of our parents. At the same time, we must learn to be tolerant and understanding. Family conflicts often stem from trivial things, and if we can be more tolerant and understanding, maybe the conflicts will be solved.
There are also some details that we need to pay attention to when dealing with family relationships. The first is to focus on communication. Communication is the key to problem solving. Only through effective communication can conflicts and misunderstandings be resolved. The second is to respect personal privacy. Everyone has their own privacy and personal space and should not be disturbed or invaded for no reason. Finally, it is necessary to avoid disputes over pecuniary interests. Monetary interests are often one of the triggers of family conflicts. We should pay attention to family harmony and unity, and avoid conflicts and disputes arising from financial interests.
Speaking of the general trend of the world, it will be together for a long time, and it will be divided for a long time. "The same is true for families. Seeking harmony in the midst of dispersion is the wisdom of dealing with family relationships. We must learn to deal with family relationships in a low-key manner, grow independently, be generous and tolerant, pay attention to communication, respect privacy, and avoid conflicts over monetary interests. Only in this way can we make family relations more harmonious.