An 84-year-old man who wants to divorce his 49-year-old wife, his daughter-in-law said angrily, Don't think about it, I'm almost at the end
84-year-old Uncle Lin has been remarried to the little nanny for 14 years. Now, what he desires most is to dissolve his marriage with his wife and spend some quiet time alone. However, the wife firmly said: "I chose to spend my life with you at the age of 35, and now I am close to 50 years old, and I am determined to survive until the end, divorce is impossible." ”
Uncle Lin is now in a dilemma, every day seems to be in a sea of fire, and the pain of life is indescribable. He had to endure both mental and physical suffering, and could not get out of this situation, so he had to turn to his son for help.
However, the son responded with an indifferent attitude: "You can solve your problem by yourself, we advised you not to marry the nanny at the beginning, but you didn't listen." ”
Uncle Lin has four sons and only has a retirement salary of 5,000 yuan per month. After the death of his wife, he lived alone in a 77-square-meter house. He used to have an eccentric temper and did not have a close relationship with his four sons. In order to be able to enjoy peace in his old age, he came up with the idea of "housing for the elderly".
Uncle Lin found an intermediary and entrusted them to find a good-looking female nanny under the age of 50. Soon after, a woman named Chaeyoung came to apply. Chaeyoung is a divorced 35-year-old woman with no children, short stature and dignified features.
Mr. Lin is old, but he is full of pity for the small and delicate Caiying around him. Despite being a nanny, Mr. Lim is always concerned about her life and shares housework with her. When she first arrived, Chaeyoung didn't fully understand Mr. Lim, so she worked hard to please him, and the two got along very well.
As time passed, the smile on Mr. Lin's face became brighter. One day a year later, seeing that the time was ripe, he proposed to Chaeyoung without asking for the advice of his four sons. He expressed his hope that she would marry him, promising that as long as she took good care of herself, he would give her a house when he died, so that she could rely on her in her old age.
Although Chaeyoung was reluctant to marry an old man who was more than 30 years older than herself, she longed to own a house, and finally she half-pushed and half-agreed. When the four sons learned about it, they were furious and had a big quarrel with Mr. Lin. However, Mr. Lin didn't care about this, he had his own pension, and he had this caring wife to take care of, and he didn't care about his sons' attitude.
After getting married, Mr. Lin lived a happy and contented life. His wife warmed his bed at night, and was considerate during the day, which made Mr. Lin happy. As a sign of sincerity, he handed over all his savings and title deed salary card to his wife for safekeeping.
At first, Chaeyoung behaved quite calmly and adhered to his wife's duty. However, as time passed, Mr. Lim's physical condition gradually deteriorated, exuding the aura of an old man, which made Chaeyoung feel more and more disgusted. The money stored in her hands seemed to be increasingly difficult to withdraw, and when Mr. Lin was sick, she sometimes perfunctory or just casually prescribed cold medicine.
Every time Uncle Lin needs money, he always has to reach out to his wife, but unfortunately, he is blamed every time, even if he only wants 200 yuan, he can only get half of it in the end. And the problem is not only limited to money, Chaeyoung's whereabouts are becoming more and more out of control, and she spends her days outside playing cards, which is in stark contrast to the gentle and virtuous wife before. If Uncle Lin didn't cook well, he would have to face a scolding when he returned home.
This made Uncle Lin more and more angry the more he thought about it, and he offered to let Chaeyoung return the salary card, but Chaeyoung did not agree. In the end, Uncle Lin had no choice but to report the loss of the original salary card and get a new one. Since then, he has decided to give Chaeyoung 150 yuan a month in pocket money, and the living expenses will be completely borne by him alone.
However, what can you do with that $150?Chaeyoung was in a mood many times, but Uncle Lin became smart and handed over the salary card to his sister for safekeeping. She only receives living expenses from her sister every month, which makes Chaeyoung lose control of the family's finances. In this regard, Caiying no longer has a good face for Uncle Lin.
At night, the two often get into arguments, and the neighbors are often woken up by the noise of the middle of the night. quarreled for several hours, and once even kicked Uncle Lin out of bed. What's even more ridiculous is that one night a few degrees below zero, she actually poured cold water on Uncle Lin, causing Uncle Lin to no longer dare to sleep with Caiying**, and the two officially slept in separate beds.
Caiying claimed that it was Uncle Lin who influenced her to rest, and she was always dishonest. Gradually, Caiying became more and more bold, and even brought back some strange men at night, completely ignoring the existence of Uncle Lin. The two lived together, and when they met, they quarreled, causing Uncle Lin's blood pressure to rise. He desperately wants to end this ridiculous marriage and seek a divorce, but Chaeyoung insists on going his own way and refuses to divorce. She seemed to be waiting for everything to be over, and the house and hundreds of thousands of pensions would be hers.
Uncle Lin felt very helpless, so he had to call the TV station, hoping that the staff could help resolve the dispute between him and his wife Caiying. However, the development of things is unexpected, but Chaeyoung looks aggrieved and emotionally claims that she was deceived by Uncle Lin, and now he has occupied the house.
It all started when Caiying took out a house purchase agreement, which stated that Uncle Lin sold the house to her for 45,000 yuan. However, there was no signature of Uncle Lin on the agreement, and he himself denied that such a thing had happened. Uncle Lin didn't even know that the house had been transferred to Caiying's name, and he claimed that he handed over important documents such as his ID card to Caiying for safekeeping, but he was used by him to occupy the children and real estate.
Uncle Lin insisted that while he was still alive, it would never be possible to give the house to Chaeyoung. Caiying said that 14 years have passed since she got married, but she still needs to work by herself to make ends meet, and she only gets 150 yuan a month for living expenses, which is very difficult. She regretted marrying such a man, but in order to get by, she chose to endure.
Uncle Lin's attitude towards Chaeyoung has become very cold, and he resolutely does not want to see her again. He is worried that if he does not divorce, he will die in the future, and Caiying will still be able to share a pension of more than 100,000 yuan. The old relationship is long gone, and the two are now more like enemies, not giving in to each other.
The surrounding neighbors also have the same evaluation of Caiying, thinking that she has a pungent personality and has problems with her life style, and the people in the community are respectful of her. Uncle Lin's trust in her has been completely lost, and he would rather stay away from her and no longer have anything to do with her.
Although Caiying promised that she would quit her job to take care of him as long as Uncle Lin gave her 2,600 yuan a month for living expenses, Uncle Lin had lost trust in her and felt extremely uncomfortable with her. Caiying also offered to take care of Uncle Lin for free for 5 years, as long as he was willing to leave, the pension would belong to her. However, Uncle Lin still resolutely rejected this proposal.
In the end, Uncle Lin could only terminate this unhappy marriage through legal procedures.
Older people may be in poor health in their later years, so it's a good idea to consider finding a nanny to take care of you. However, some elderly people may be too naïve on this issue, only seeing the nanny working hard and taking care of them intimately, but ignoring the hard work and labor value of the other party. Over time, these elderly people may become more greedy, expecting the nanny to do more for them, or even expecting the nanny to provide them with services such as bed warming, and be willing to pay some extra benefits, such as housing or extra money.
However, when a marriage is based on interests, once there is a little contradiction or variable, the relationship between the two parties may quickly disintegrate, and even evolve into open quarrels and tearing faces. What's even more tricky is that the nanny's mentality may change dramatically after being treated as a hostess by the old man, and the old man is likely to be unable to understand and accept this change. The nanny that the old man saw and understood was very different from the previous image.
Even if the elderly remarry, they need to fully communicate with their children, negotiate a prenuptial property agreement, and avoid showing their hole cards too easily, so as not to fall into a passive situation. Prevention is better than prevention, although it is understandable for the elderly to remarry, but choose a partner who is truly willing to live in order to enjoy a happy old age.