Love is a complex emotional game, it is easy to fall in love at first sight, but it is difficult to be happy with each other.
When the balance of a love is out of balance and touches the weak strings in our hearts, we should learn how to find balance and find the lost beauty.
The pain of touching love is often accompanied by growth. Perhaps, we once loved someone deeply, knowing that we could not do it, moths to the fire, poured everything out, only to find that everything was empty.
Because love is not a one-man show, a person's persistence is just self-moving, and the unresponsive love is too lonely and heavy to bear. If he doesn't love you that much, then accepting the reality, acknowledging it, is the first step out of the darkness. Acknowledging that a man doesn't love you doesn't mean that you have lost the right to love and be loved, but it means that you will start to examine your own worth again and get out of the quagmire of being trapped.
Learning to let go is the key to regaining balance. Let go of the man who doesn't love us, let go of that attachment and expectation, and accept the imperfection of love. Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Love, if it is not sublimated, it is degraded." Only by letting go of the people we don't love can we pick up our dignity and self-confidence and embark on a beautiful journey again. There is a well-known "sunk cost" theory in psychology, which means that when people continue to invest time and money and do not get a corresponding return, people will tend to continue to invest rather than stop losses in time.
But love is not a "sunk cost" game, and blindly clinging to a man who doesn't love you will only make you lose more. Learn to let go in order to regain the balance in the game.
Finding balance also requires us to learn how to love ourselves.
Learn to love yourself in order to love others better. We can read, travel, run, and rediscover ourselves in the processWe can learn a new skill, learn to cook, Xi flower arrangement, and improve our quality of life;We can learn yoga, learn to Xi, and maintain inner peace;We can also have a pet and enjoy companionship and listening to add a touch of fun to our lives.
When we learn how to love ourselves, we also learn how to love others rightly. We will look at feelings more rationally, we will listen to our inner voice, and we will distinguish between loving because of loneliness or loving because of love. We will meet people who will make us better, maybe a long time later, but we will eventually meet and be happy.
Finding balance is not forgetting, but the precipitated heart is like stopping water. We will still remember the original heartbeat, but we will no longer force, no longer assume, and no longer entangled. Time is the best ** division, and one day, the scars of the past will become beautiful medals.
Learning to let go of someone you don't love is the great wisdom in love;Learning how to love yourself is a prerequisite for loving others. When we can find the balance in love and learn to reconcile ourselves, we can write a wonderful life story without regrets in the long time.