The man was found cheating, and after making trouble for a while, he still chose to break up with the mistress.
After returning to the family, the wives can also get by, forgive the cheating man, and the marriage can be restored to its original state?Scarlett tells you a cruel reality, most men don't thank their wives for forgiveness after cheating.
They will feel that his wife should forgive him and that cheating is not a big mistake.
There are even a large number of cheating men who resent their wives in their hearts, why?
Before an original partner and Scarlett said that her husband cheated on a young lady,
After she found out, she first asked her husband to go to the hospital for a check-up to make sure there was no problem.
Tell the cheating man to understand the physical needs of the cheating man, the original partner is indeed because after giving birth to the second child, he has been busy taking care of the child and has not taken care of the cheating man.
So as long as the cheating man and the mistress are completely broken, and it is guaranteed that they will not cheat again.
Then the original partner can continue to live a good life as if this incident did not happen.
The cheating man agreed at the time, and the break with Xiao San was completely complete.
The original partner also thought that the two of them had resolved the extramarital affair peacefully and reached an agreement.
But after continuing to live together, the original partner felt that the cheating man was very awkward, and the cheating man's attitude towards his wife sometimes seemed to be good, but sometimes there was some hatred, and the original partner didn't understand why the cheating man hated her, and she didn't treat the cheating man well.
Scarlett helped this original partner analyze what the cheating man thinks.
First of all, the cheating man may not feel that he is at fault.
The cheating man probably didn't feel that he was at fault, and he didn't admit it.
Although according to what his wife said, breaking up with Xiao San, it does not mean that the cheating man will admit his mistake.
A cheating man may simply feel that it is better for him to do so.
And in the case of the mistress, the cheating man has no feelings for the mistress, and he also feels that he can give up at any time.
Instead of admitting his mistakes and then paying for his mistakes, he chose the option that was more beneficial to him, abandoned the mistress, and guarded his interests.
Secondly, in order to ease the relationship, the original partner also told the cheating man that he was not at fault.
This original has a problem, that is, she made an excuse for the man's betrayal.
She said that she understood that the cheating man cheated because his physical needs were not met, and the reason why he was not met was because his wife was pregnant and gave birth to a second child, and she ignored the cheating man.
It is equivalent to directly taking the responsibility of the man's cheating, and the mistake has become the wife's.
The wife may feel that she is just giving the cheating man a step down, not really admitting her mistake.
But the cheating man takes it seriously, and the cheating man feels that everything is his wife's fault.
This is a mistake that many wives tend to make, and it is one of the reasons that prevents the marriage from continuing well.
In the end, there is nothing wrong with cheating on a man, and what a wife does is wrong.
Since the cheating man doesn't think he's at fault, the wife also indirectly approves of this.
Then many of the things that the wife does, relatively speaking, become wrong.
For example, let the cheating man break up with the mistress, force the cheating man to check his body, and so on.
The wife may think that this is for the good health of the two of them, in order to be able to live a good life.
The cheating man will not think so, and the cheating man will distort that this is an insult to him by his wife.
The wife wants to leave some evidence so that she can handle the cheating man in the future.
When a cheating man is full of prejudice against his wife, what the wife does is wrong.
Even if it is for the good of the cheating man, for the good of this marriage, the cheating man feels that it is wrong.
Cheating men have a wrong perception, and they will naturally have resentment towards their wives, and they feel that they are very reasonable.
Scarlett advises wives that after a man cheats, you don't compromise on everything.
Don't just get by just to be able to live your life well.
Making excuses to forgive a man's betrayal is tantamount to conniving at a man's cheating.
Tell the cheating man that it is not a mistake for him to cheat, but that it is a mistake for the wives to do something.
Wives do this, and men don't get better when they return to the family.
On the contrary, the wives make the cheating man pay the corresponding price, and the cheating man clearly knows that he is wrong to cheat and that his wife has been hurt because of his betrayal.
If he wants to return to the family, he needs to recognize his mistakes and needs to compensate his wife.
The cheating man also recognized these and put them into action, which can be regarded as a real solution to the extramarital affair.
Many men develop extramarital affairs under the banner of love.
The cheating is discovered, saying that he is pursuing a noble love, but in fact?Where did the cheating man and the mistress get the love?
In their emotional world, always put yourself first.
He loves himself more than anything, what is a junior?
It's not that you can't solve the mistress, you actually don't know enough about cheating men!
So many times, wives think that they have separated the mistress, and they don't blame the cheating man, and the affair is over.
The reality is that it is the cheating man who can't get by, and they feel that they are not wrong, so no matter what the wife does, even if the cheating man is not embarrassed, the extramarital affair is solved.
Cheating men feel that their wives are delaying him in pursuing what he wants, so they will resent his wives.
Wives should remember that extramarital affairs are not the problem of the mistress, but of the cheating man.
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I'm Sijia Yin, your exclusive emotional mentor, sharing emotional cases and helping you answer your questions.