In this hustle and bustle of the world, every fortune hides countless secrets. Those who are rich in your eyes are all masters of the art of gift-giving. In this real society, under the veil of warmth and affection is the cold exchange of interests - no profit can not be early, this is the law of survival. The highest bidders have repeatedly succeeded not only by the power of money, but by the art of human interaction. In this complex network of human relations, the success of everything depends on the delicate balance and harmony maintained.
Relationship building is the key to productivity. And the deepening of the relationship is often accompanied by the comings and goings between the cups. Gifts are not only material exchanges, but also emotional bonds. However, the choice of gifts is very knowledgeable, and not all gifts will achieve the desired effect. The freshness of the fruit becomes a symbol of withering after a few days;Souvenirs are cheap and often don't make people feel sincere;The labor of hairy crabs is exchanged for loneliness after meals. None of this is the true meaning of gift-giving.
A true gift should be one that can carry deep meaning. For example, Moutai Huazi, even if the other party does not drink or smoke, it can still be used as a symbol of friendship, its value is transparent, and its sincerity is fully displayed. And tea, although it is very valuable, is difficult to exchange for cash because it is opaque, and people often ignore the deep affection in it.
Of course, the most direct expression is the red envelope. On the occasion of children's education and holiday holidays, a red envelope can make people's hearts warm, which is the most common warmth in interpersonal communication.
The art of gift-giving lies in not asking for anything in return, in maintaining relationships and conveying emotions. If you give a gift only when you ask for someone, it will inevitably make people feel disrespectful, as if all kindness has become a transaction. For example, if you bring cigarettes and alcohol to others, others will feel that you are sensible and your help is not in vain. But if you give a gift and seek something in return, that kindness will be greatly diminished.
In the big dye vat of society, what we need to learn is not to give gifts, but how to get along with others, how to find a balance between interests and warmth. If a person is still unable to achieve anything at the age of 35, perhaps he needs to reflect on how to better integrate into this society and how to find his place in interpersonal interactions.
A self-proclaimed scholar, he has been honing in the melting pot of society for ten years, and he is still at a loss. Would he have been different today if he had learned the art of gift-giving earlier?In fact, the opportunity has always been there, but he is too lonely and self-respecting, and he is unwilling to put down his body to cater to others. His loneliness and his failure are the result of his excessive self-assertion and lack of flexibility.
In this world, we see that it is not the most capable people who are most successful, but the people who are most able to handle interpersonal relationships who are most successful. Thousands of years of tradition, the unchanging nature of human nature, bear witness to this. The difference between the poor and the rich is often that the poor are too self-respecting and morally high enough to tolerate the society;The rich are different, they are not afraid of embarrassment, they know how to use gifts to build their own network, how to win the favor of others.
In this world, there are people who want to earn money standing up, but money is not willing to come near them. Most of the wealth is earned by those who know how to bend their knees. Just like Brother Yang, he wanted to set up a branch in the Northeast, but he was unwilling to visit Mr. Zhao with gifts. His failure was that he insisted too much on his principles and did not know how to be flexible.
Some people, they know how to praise others, how to cater to the preferences of others, and their success is because they understand that life is like a play, and the purpose of the game is to meet more people. And some people, they always want to prove that they are right, they like to argue, they like to debate, and they fail because they don't know how to accommodate others, how to meet the spiritual needs of others.
In this society, there is no one you can't deal with. For men, as long as we smoke a few cigarettes, and for women, as long as we drink a few cups of milk tea, they can treat us as their own. But how many people are willing to do it?So the rich are always in the minority, and no matter what the rich do, they always rely on giving things. Everyone needs recognition. As long as you understand others, they will have a good impression of you.
Why do men like massages?Because their wives don't accept it, saying you can't do this or that. But what about the girls who do the massage?Say boss, you are young and promising, so men like to go for massages. What if a man compliments his wife on being dressed beautifully?If my wife dresses up every day, the princess won't get sick. What if my wife compliments a man and says she trusts him?
Praising others is not only a virtue, but also a recipe for success. It makes others feel respected, satisfies their spiritual needs, and at the same time, brings success and surprises to yourself. In this society, what we need to learn is how to praise others, how to meet the needs of others, and how to deal with interpersonal relationships. Only in this way can we find our place in this society and realize our own value.
On the stage of life, the most immature part is often mistaken for sweet words and self-boasting, thinking that this is a shortcut to success. It seems that a just right compliment, or a self-exalted show-off, can easily gain the favor and support of others, as if everything in the world can be obtained without work. However, if there is no sincerity, we can only hear others use "inadequate" as an excuse to refuse. And when you try to hand out the two cigarettes that represent respect and communication, you may be able to get a glimpse of the enthusiasm of others when they see your cause as their own.
Don't successful people lie?The opposite may be true. Those who stand at the top of the pyramid are often the best at weaving lies. Isn't it the paradox between honesty and success behind the fall of Internet celebrities, celebrities taking advantage of them and then abandoning them, and the rich attributing their success to hard work rather than opportunity?In the mall, integrity seems to have become an anachronistic luxury;In love, sincerity seems to have become an unspeakable shyness;In leadership positions, confession seems to be a symbol of vulnerability. So why insist on honesty?This society seems to be designed for the brazen, not for the honest and trustworthy. As long as you don't care about your face, even if you are rejected by a beautiful woman, there will always be a day when you get your wish. If a gift is rejected for the first time, offer it again and thank the other person for the opportunity and forgiveness.
There's no denying that this world is the way it is. Those rich people are actually the best at gift-giving, and they know that a little material investment can be exchanged for the loyalty and labor of others. If you are stingy and unwilling to give, others will also respond with indifference and a procedural attitude. Isn't it obvious what will happen next?
Why is it so hard for good people to accumulate wealth?Because they are undervalued and cheap**. Except for working silently at work, they rarely think about how to take shortcuts and how to attack others. They are afraid of ridicule, of rejection, of losing a snib. They don't ask for anything in return, they only think about what they are willing to give, they expect others to accept their kindness, and they look forward to the happiness that comes with promotions and raises. They never think deeply about what others need, and they never think about why they should help them. If you don't take the initiative to meet the needs of others materially and spiritually, how can you get the favor of nobles?
For example, if your boss praises you for your job and your response is an understatement, how can he feel your sincerity and gratitude?If you could express that it was because of his wise guidance that he had achieved something, wouldn't he be even more happy?Therefore, when others compliment us, appropriate praise and gratitude are essential, which not only avoids embarrassment, but also makes a good impression.
Look around, Mr. Wang, Mr. Zhang, Mr. Li, Mr. Liu, Mr. Zhou, Mr. Huang, which of them didn't start with the initial flattery and gift-giving?In this world, resources and relationships are everything, and everything is built on connections. Business leaders spend a fortune to have dinner with Warren Buffett, and the children with them are now the heads of the family. If you don't ask for it from others, if you don't associate with others, how will you stand on your feet?Look at the businessmen around you, do they have Moutai and delicacies in the trunk of their cars?Why is there a restaurant and business center?Because in the world of business, providing food, drinks, and entertainment is the most convenient way to close a deal.
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