We always say that after a breakup, you can choose to communicate with each other as a friend, but many people here will have doubts about the identity of a friend and don't know how to do it.
Today, let's answer in detail.
First of all, we need to knowThe reason why you will communicate as ordinary friends is because many people have a very high sense of need for their ex after a breakup.
If you don't understand what a sense of need is, I will tell you clearly that it means literally, that is, you need your ex very much.
But at this time, the ex doesn't need you anymore, you need the ex so much, because you have been in love for a relationship, and the other party has to have some intersection with you, these feelings of need will put pressure on the ex, and this pressure is not conducive to your reunion.
So we have to communicate with each other as friends.
Here we must repeatedly remind those who think they are clever to redeem themselvesI always feel that being friends with my ex is harassing the other party as a friend, which is a serious mistake.
You have to understand that if you want to be friends, you have to be like friends. Because being friends is the largest relationship that the other party can accept. We have to know that many exes are directly blocked and deleted after breaking up. So if you can be friends, you should be happy and use this relationship carefully.
So when you maintain the identity of friends, you can chat with each other, but you have to remember your chatBe sure not to be frequent, and be sure not to reveal the purpose you want to get back together.
In the case of avoiding these two points, you can talk to the other person about the small things in life, the rhythm of the conversation without purpose, or talk about the things that the other person is interested in, etc.
I won't expand on this topic, I have talked about it before, so I won't repeat it here.
Let's talk about a questionIt's just that I've been talking for a while, how do I know if I can attack in the direction of recovery?
Here is a reference standard for everyone, that is, as long as you find that the other party does not refuse to chat with you, or even occasionally takes the initiative to chat with you, or the topic of your chat is more in-depth, or you can feel that the other party's chat attitude has eased. All of these methods can be determined.
There is a problem here that needs to be emphasized again, many people are not sure of it, because every time the ex chats with him, he talks about things that are not related to his feelings, so many people feel that they dare not rush forward, for fear of making mistakes.
At this time, I will encourage you to rush forward bravely, and do not be afraid.
Of course, I'm not asking you to rush up and confess, but to test step by step, if you keep stuck here, you will easily miss a good time to recover.
If it fits into the chat situations I just mentioned, I suggest that you can use the most straightforward methodIt is to invite people to meet, and to warm up the relationship through meeting and interaction.
Until the date and meeting, I still have to remind you that at this time, you still get along as friends, don't cross the line, don't think that meeting is reunited, it's far from it.
If the ex will come out, then you have to show your change on the date and make the other person accept your change.
Here comes the problem again,When can I escalate a relationship?
Here is also a reference standard for everyone, that is, the other party has not refused to go out on a date with you, and there are some couples between you, such as holding hands and the like, then you will know that you have to be brave to upgrade the relationship.
At some point in the ambiguous atmosphere, you can express your heart, then it is easy to get back together.
From friends to reunion, the whole process has been sorted out for everyone, you can use it directly, I wish you all reconciliation.
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