Conversations between men and women are often subtle and complex, and they are particularly sensitive.
Often an inappropriate sentence hurts the feelings of others and produces contradictions. Talking about a sentence may be very close to others and have a good impression of you.
Some people don't look at the object or the occasion when they communicate, the sea and the sky are wide, they talk about everything, and they have no scruples, giving people a feeling of "saliva is more than tea".
Once the breadth and depth of the chat are not well mastered, it may complicate and sensitize the normal relationship between men and women, and make the relationship between the two parties cross the boundaries of friendship.
No matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex is, don't cross the line on the topic of conversation to avoid embarrassment and misunderstanding, which will bring discomfort to both parties.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between men and women is, they should be cautious when talking about certain topics, especially sensitive topics, and they must not cross the line.
01.Don't talk about "emotional privacy" casually.
Each of us has personal privacy, and if we don't take the initiative to say it, it will be hidden in our stomachs for a lifetime.
If the other party does not take the initiative to raise the topic of privacy, outsiders cannot find out the root cause, because the issue of "privacy" is difficult to define and unclear.
For friends of the opposite sex, private topics should not collide, especially emotionally.
Many times, especially women, such as having had several lovers and been married several times in the past, this kind of topic is reluctant to mention in front of their husbands, let alone confide in others.
Applejack is 30 years old this year, and after being matched by a friend, she met her girlfriend Chen Shan, who is also 30 years old, and the two parties are very compatible in terms of education, age, family background and income.
Chen Shan is very beautiful, over 30 years old, a civil servant, and in her prime. Applejack has a lot of fun in his heart, he has talked to several girlfriends before, but for various reasons, they didn't end up together.
Applejack is excellent in all aspects, working in a large state-owned enterprise, and has also won Chen Shan's favor and affection.
But Applejack has a problem, and he always mutters in his heart, Chen Shan is so good and beautiful, she must have had a boyfriend before, and he wants to figure out how many boyfriends she has talked about before, and what step of the relationship has been?
But I was afraid that asking this sensitive question would cause Chen Shan to be unhappy, and she kept it in her heart. Once, when the two were chatting happily, he asked Chen Shan how many boyfriends she had talked about, and when Chen Shan heard it, she blackened her face, was very unhappy, and broke up unhappily.
Then, Chen Shan ignored Applejack for many days. Applejack apologizes vigorously, and the relationship eases a bit.
Chen Shan said to Applejack: I am very unhappy that you asked me this question, which shows that you still don't trust me, my past is my privacy, as long as I tell you, I will take the initiative to say it. You have to see, the most important thing is what do I do in the future?
But Applejack is still a bit machismo, still struggling, feeling that the other party is not honest enough with him and hiding something.
Chen Shan feels that Applejack is too narrow-minded, always dwelling on the past, if they finally come together, how will they live that day!In the end, they broke up.
02.Ambiguous topics are often the beginning of extramarital affairs.
Many men like to joke, one is to create a happy atmosphere, the other is to relieve the tense atmosphere, a humorous and romantic man, is more pleasing to women.
Men usually like to chat about "yellow" jokes, and some gossip women are willing to listen, and the atmosphere is often relaxed.
Some men and women are ordinary friends, and when they chat, they become tasteless, one is willing to speak, the other is willing to listen, and there will be a sense of dependence.
If a woman finds herself in a difficult situation and the person who wants to solve the problem is not her husband, but her friend, your relationship is not so normal.
If you want him to help you, and he wants to help you, then your relationship may not be so pure.
There's one thing around me, which is quite interesting, and I want to share it with everyone.
Lao Zhou is one of the group leaders of one of my living groups. He was in his fifties, and he used to work as a sales section chief in a state-owned mining bureau, but in the past few years, the state had closed down many coal mines, and he was also sent to a diversion, and finally retired early.
Lao Zhou is kind, able to speak, eloquent, and helpful. He deserves to be the leader of this group.
There are more than 300 people in his group, quite a lot, including many middle-aged women in their thirties and forties, and he has become a female god in this group, and they are willing to listen to him, flock to him, and revolve around him.
As long as he gives an order, go to travel, go picnic, go climbing, and go to karaoke ......Most people are willing to participate, especially some middle-aged women, more than men.
He likes to "brag" in the group when he has nothing to do, and chats about some so-called "boring" things, of course, there are some "yellow paragraphs".
As soon as the topic opened, the men in the group often mixed in with each other, adding oil and vinegar, causing everyone to laugh.
And women often watch it in the group, but they don't interject, or post an emoji, and enjoy it. A few bold women will also come forward, smirk, "scold" men for being shameless, very bad, and emitting yellow signals ......
Lao Zhou is close to me, I know him, Lao Zhou has a problem, he likes to show off himself, especially in terms of male and female affection, often exalt himself.
often talk about which woman, often chat with her at night, the conversation is very ambiguous, and very devoted, what stage they have entered, it won't be long before he can get her hands on her.
Among them, there is a female group member named Arlene, who is simply thrown to him, revolves around him when there is anything to do, and likes to listen to him chat, especially when the group leader says some explicit topics, he not only does not avoid it, but sometimes adds fuel and vinegar.
Arlene's husband is engaged in photography in a county town, and his personality is relatively withdrawn, staying in the store all day, except for closing the door at night and going home to sleep and rest, the couple rarely communicate.
Lao Zhou has a wide range of connections and is willing to help people. Arlene threw herself into him and adored him. Arlene's own husband is engaged in photography, and he likes to ask Lao Zhou to take pictures.
Arlene's son's transfer, he helped to get it, she had a neurasthenia, he asked for famous doctors everywhere, and once drove to Guangzhou Brain Hospital to find a famous doctor.
She became his lover, an open secret in the group.
Lao Zhou is personable and graceful. He said that the reason why he was good with them was to start talking about sensitive and interesting topics.
He said that women are willing to listen to your ambiguous words, and there is a good chance that they have a good impression of you.
Arlene also knew that Lao Zhou still had a few good women, but she didn't mind, she didn't want to destroy his family.
On the surface, Lao Zhou and his wife also seem to be in love, and they often see the couple walking at night, but only they know what the actual situation is.
Finally, what I want to say is: when communicating with friends of the opposite sex, you must maintain the distance and scale that you should have, men and women are different, don't be ambiguous, and drag your beautiful marriage into the fire pit.