Last night, I was immersed in the junction between dream and reality in a fleeting moment, and the alarm clock broke the silence in the quiet of the night, and the time slipped like water towards 9:55. At this moment, my daughter's room is filled with a glimmer of the technological era - the bright light of the mobile phone screen, which is both striking and symbolic in the night, which is a true portrayal of the late life of modern youth and Chinese New Year's Eve. At that moment, the stern words of "hand over your phone on time at half past ten" came to mind, which was the usual way for parents to supervise, but when I stared at that light, I realized that education may have another expression: soft and firm. "Half an hour more than that, it's time to rest. My voice fell, with a sense of understanding and tolerance, and my daughter responded so submissively and pleasantly: "Okay. ”
This subtle change actually stems from my awakening after a deep reflection on the concept of family education. Is the imperative tone used in every teaching too one-dimensional and lacking in warmth?While staying true to our principles, can we create a space for children that both understands and respects their inner needs?
"Half an hour more" is not a compromise of the original rules, but an attempt to guide children to develop self-management skills with a more humane and flexible strategy. This half-hour was a vote of confidence in my daughter's independence, and a gentle test of her autonomy. It is like an invisible contract, allowing children to realize the importance of responsibility in the process of experiencing freedom, so as to realize that freedom and responsibility are two sides of the same coin, inseparable.
When the bell rang at half past ten as scheduled, my daughter quietly handed me the phone and said goodnight to each other. Behind this simple action, what is condensed is her adherence to the agreement, the display of self-restraint, and the deep recognition of family rules. It seems to be an ordinary scene, but it reflects the profound wisdom and potential power contained in family education.
However, my husband's seemingly casual comment - "Hey, loving mothers lose many daughters" is like a sharp sword of thought, piercing deep into the core thinking area of my philosophy of education. It is true that excessive pampering and indulgence often lead to children's dependence and behavioral anomie, but how should we define "loving mother"?Is she one of those strict enforcers who cannot be overstepped under strict regulations, or is she a wise mentor who helps children shape their independent personality through understanding, respect, and effective guidance?
In my opinion, the true meaning of "loving mother" should be to know how to let go at the right time on the basis of adhering to principles, so that children can experience setbacks and successes in a moderate space of autonomy, and learn to take responsibility and make choices. The goal of education is not only to regulate children's behavior, but also to shape a sound personality and cultivate a new generation of citizens with independent thinking, self-confidence and a sense of responsibility.
The assertion that loving mothers have many defeated daughters undoubtedly needs to be re-examined and interpreted in our actual educational practice. Because on the tortuous road of parenting, we must not only have the courage to be decisive and resolute, but also have a heart of tolerance and compassion. Our mission is not only to ensure that children have a regular schedule, but also to teach them how to grasp the rhythm of life, how to use technology wisely, and how to find that delicate and stable balance between self-discipline and freedom, and ultimately help them grow into individuals with both independent spirit and tenacity.
Tonight's story unfolds in a small variation around "half an hour more", and ends temporarily after a warm "good night". However, the discussion on the nature and methods of family education did not end there, but led to more dialogues about the deep meaning of educational concepts and practices. Dear readers, what do you think of the traditional view of "loving mothers and losing daughters"?Do you have any comments or suggestions for the soft approach I take to dealing with my child's use of mobile phones?Please leave a message to share, let us work together to explore the boundless ocean of family education, find the most suitable course, and jointly paint a picture of harmonious education for the future.